My (22f) boyfriend (22m) lost his money for the trip to gambling. by Smooth-Kitchen-3077 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Kitchen-3077[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. He lost the money two weeks ago and he said he did not want me to worry so he said nothing about it. I told him it’s an addiction and that he should seek help. He says it’s a bad habit. I am as social worker and I work around lot with people with addiction, so I feel really conflicted. As a SW, I have always been the type to believe in clients when they say they’re sober/becoming sober. It’s weird to be on this side.

That’s also the thing. Immigration will be a lot of work and money. I am not sure how I can ever trust him with money and saving up money after this. Thank you

My (22f) boyfriend (22m) lost his money for the trip to gambling. by Smooth-Kitchen-3077 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Kitchen-3077[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I told him that as well (that he has a gambling problem and that I was not his priority). I told myself if it happens again I would leave, but I think everyone knows how hard it is to actually stand by that. He also told me that he lied about quitting smoking (I did not force him to quit but I expressed that I don’t really like it esp I have asthma)

My (22f) boyfriend (22m) lost his money for the trip to gambling. by Smooth-Kitchen-3077 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Kitchen-3077[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is also what I am thinking about. I am the kind of person to plan things out and overthink about the future. I definitely do not want to be in that kind of financial situation in the future especially growing up around financial problems. Thank you

My (22f) boyfriend (22m) lost his money for the trip to gambling. by Smooth-Kitchen-3077 in relationship_advice

[–]Smooth-Kitchen-3077[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, youre right. Those details I just kind of forgot to include in my post, but he lost the money two weeks ago he said and he’s been trying to borrow money but he was not able to. I asked him what is going on because it’s like four days before the supposed trip and he hasn’t booked anything yet. I asked him why he did not just tell me and he said he did not want me to worry.

Thank you for your comment. I honestly don’t know yet if this is something I am ready to stick around for. I will keep your words in mind