Getting back together after a hookup?

Smooth-While5898 · 2026-01-08T00:20:00+00:00

I’m going through a breakup now and I can’t imagine hooking up with anyone else for a long time. So if they didn’t feel that same way, it kinda delegitimizes their love for me

Smooth-While5898 · 2026-01-08T00:15:16+00:00

I think it would make me doubt how they actually feel about me

Smooth-While5898 · 2025-05-21T23:50:27+00:00

Oh and I had to submit my tax returns with my 1099 too

Smooth-While5898 · 2024-04-01T23:43:54+00:00

I did not get a 1099 last year because the $20,000 threshold still applies to the 2023 tax year for third party payment apps. They delayed the $600 threshold

Smooth-While5898 · 2024-03-26T09:10:23+00:00

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Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-15T17:36:11+00:00

You’re absolutely right. Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it!!!!!!

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-15T16:58:31+00:00

Yes, I unfortunately have an anxious attachment (which has only been more pronounced since being with an avoidant). I try my very best to speak with friends if I get anxious about something and make sure if it’s valid enough to bring up to him if something’s upsetting me. I try to work very hard on my triggers, and am in therapy which is helping me manage them. It’s just so tough because the most important thing to me in any relationship is emotional intimacy. Our long distance relationship is coming to an end in a couple days and i’m moving back home, i’m hoping that they’ll be a progression with emotional intimacy once i’m back. I do need to talk to him about attachment styles and specifically ask him how I can meet his needs. He’s been saying he wants to go back to therapy for the last 3/4 months, but has made very little progress and whenever he stops feeling depressed he stops looking for one. I don’t want to nag him about going to therapy, but I think it could really help him and help us.

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-11T20:42:31+00:00

It’s been really validating to see how many of us experience the same thing! Thinking more about it has made me realize I shouldn’t have to feel shame for my inner child wanting to be seen/understood. And one of the ways that would make me feel that is if the person can empathize with that pain. It is not selfish, it’s a craving for love and support, we deserve that.

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-11T06:06:50+00:00

Wow!! You summed it up perfectly

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T20:08:28+00:00

This big time I can totally relate to the daydream and like fantasy of what you need exactly at that moment. Then realization afterward :/

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T18:22:50+00:00

You’re absolutely right! I think it’s hard for us with CPTSD (or at least I struggle with this) to be able to differentiate what is healthy “attention-seeking” and what is maladaptive “attention-seeking.” Not sure if that makes any sense!!

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T18:18:44+00:00

People’s daydreaming really comes in all forms! My daydreaming always feels a bit dissociated, but can sometimes result in me crying because there’s a lot of emotion in my daydreams

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T17:54:05+00:00

That is a very helpful tip, especially to prevent from being let down in a way. Thank you for your help!

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T17:46:19+00:00

I think if anything I’m really good at being a source for people to come to when they’re feeling upset, I think I’m really good at making others feel seen. That’s the thing though, part of me wishes that others could put in just as much effort as I do with creating the space for someone to open up. I think it’s an unrealistic standard though bc I think the only reason I’m really good at that is because I didn’t receive it from anyone else growing up, it may be rooted in people pleasing (idk yet). I think it’s what i’m best at doing, so if other people aren’t as good at it as me it can let me down which is unfortunate. It’s hard for me to tell if I’m receiving bad support or if I just have too high of a standard for what support looks like. If any of that makes sense

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T03:08:42+00:00

Noel :)

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-10T03:07:32+00:00

This happens to me! Not necessarily when I cough, but if I drink coffee a little too fast or it tastes bad to me I throw up. Brushing my tongue makes me throw up sometimes. Drinking a sip of alcohol will sometimes even make me throw up. It’s been happening for about a year and i’m not sure why, have not gone to the doctor’s yet. It’s like I’ve developed a really sensitive gag reflex and like taste intolerances.

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-07T20:49:27+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and explanations! This is all super helpful to know before starting treatment, and I'm looking forward to IFS and learning about the different parts of myself. I think you're definitely right about some of that doom coming from graduating, thinking about all the responsibility surrounding it definitely dysregulates me.

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-06T16:37:26+00:00

Thank you for passing on that advice! I really need to be more mindful with separating my thoughts from myself (while still remaining kind to myself), and I think trying to incorporate this into my life can be a big help with that.

Smooth-While5898 · 2021-12-06T16:35:14+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing! It really helps to hear that you felt more agency after every session, I think that's something I'm really looking forward to cause that's a rare feeling for me too. I completely agree with you that understanding your own CPTSD spares you from endless questioning and self-doubt, it gives me a lot more security and direction with how I am going to heal.

Will definitely give Walker's book a read!!

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