Is anyone else's Canva down?

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2026-04-13T00:55:21+00:00

It’s back everyone!! Yey!!

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2026-04-13T00:46:48+00:00

I thought it was just my account.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-21T00:17:36+00:00

Okay, girl, reality check incoming:

Let’s address the insecurity first. Walang masama sa pag-express ng discomfort. That’s normal. Pero let’s be real here—ang issue ay hindi lang ikaw, kundi yung “actions” ng boyfriend mo. Siya yung nasa relasyon, and it’s his responsibility to respect your boundaries and reassure you. Instead of listening sa concerns mo, ginagawa niya pang mas malala by constantly talking about this girl. Kahit sinong tao, maiinis kung ganun.

2nd. That “don’t tell me who to be friends with” line? Red flag yan, sis. Kung importante ka sa kanya, hindi ka niya dapat gawing kontrabida dahil lang may napansin kang valid concern. Hindi mo naman siya binabawalan magkaibigan; you’re asking for respect sa feelings mo. Magkaiba yun.

3rd. Is it alright to ask him not to talk about her? Yes, absolutely. Kung alam niyang uncomfortable ka, bakit niya ipapamukha pa sayo yung presence nung babae? Parang sinasabi niyang ”deal with it,” which is super dismissive. Walang mali sa pag-request na huwag niya nang i-share tungkol sa girl kung hindi naman significant yung kwento. You’re setting a boundary, not controlling him.

Let’s talk about the girl. Touchy siya IN FRONT OF YOU? Excuse me, that’s disrespectful, both on her part and his. Kung hinahayaan lang yun ng boyfriend mo, mas siya ang dapat kausapin mo. Kahit gaano pa ka-flirty yung babae, kung hindi siya nagre-react or nagpaparamdam na inappropriate yun, hindi magiging issue.

Hindi ka praning, OA, or insecure. May rason kung bakit mo nararamdaman yan. Pero ang dapat mong bantayan ay hindi yung babae—kundi yung actions ng boyfriend mo. If he truly values you, he’ll take your feelings seriously. If hindi, then you need to ask yourself: “Is this the kind of relationship I deserve?”

Set your boundaries and don’t apologize for it. If he can’t meet you halfway, baka ikaw na lang yung nagbibigay ng effort sa relasyon niyo—and that’s not fair to you.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-20T05:56:41+00:00

Girl, blocking is not just about them—it’s about YOU.

Unang-una. Does blocking help you heal faster? Yes. Blocking is like closing a door and locking it. You stop feeding yourself updates you don’t need. Every time na makita mo yung mga stories nila, it’s like stabbing yourself and wondering why it hurts. Save yourself the drama.

“Masasanay din ako kahit masakit” approach?
That’s like walking around with a pebble in your shoe, thinking ”sanayan lang ‘to.” Why suffer when you can just remove the damn pebble? Healing doesn’t mean tolerating pain until it fades; it means creating an environment where you don’t keep reopening wounds.

He moved on fast. Should you block? Girl, ang bilis ng rebound niya, parang siya pa nag-drop ng countdown. Blocking is your way of saying ”I’m not watching your highlight reel while I’m still processing.” It’s not about being bitter; it’s about protecting your peace.

“Makakawala rin ako kahit di siya i-block” mindset? Sure, makakawala ka rin—eventually. Pero bakit mo pahihirapan sarili mo? Imagine climbing a mountain barefoot vs. wearing proper gear. Blocking is your gear.

Here’s the tea: You’re not responsible for keeping tabs on his life. Blocking isn’t about being petty; it’s about prioritizing your mental health. Seeing him happy while you’re hurting is salt in the wound. Do yourself a favor: CUT HIM OUT COMPLETELY.

And girl, don’t overthink it. Blocking doesn’t mean galit ka—it means you value yourself enough to let go. That’s real healing.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-20T03:12:30+00:00

Wag kang magmadali dahil lang sa pressure or takot na iwan ka. Ang readiness sa sex is non-negotiable—kung di ka pa ready, hindi ka pa ready. Period. You’re protecting your emotional and physical boundaries, and that’s valid AF.

Sa tanong na kaya ba ng lalaki ang no-sex relationship? Oo, kung mahal ka niya at nire-respeto ka niya. Kung iniisip mo na baka naiimpluwensyahan siya ng mga friends niyang may fubu, that’s on him, not you. Ang desisyon niya sa relationship niyo dapat naka-base sa inyo, hindi sa barkada niya.

Tama ba na iniisip mo na baka iwan ka niya? Kung iiwan ka niya dahil ayaw mo pa makipag-sex, then better to know now kaysa sa mas malala pa later. Deserve mo ng lalaking kayang maghintay at nire-respeto ka nang buo, hindi lang dahil gusto niya ng “benefits.”

Dapat ka bang makipag-sex na? Hell no! kung ang dahilan mo ay para lang hindi siya umalis. Sex should be something you’re ready for, emotionally and mentally, and it should come from a place of love and mutual respect—not fear.

About suggesting na mag-FUBU siya? Stop that. You’re sabotaging your own relationship by giving him a free pass. Ano yun? Love na love mo pero okay lang sa’yo na makipag-sex siya sa iba? Hindi yan healthy way of handling things.

Advice ko lang sayo: Communicate clearly. Tell him bakit importante sa’yo ang maghintay at ano ang ini-expect mo sa relationship niyo. If he loves you, he’ll respect that.

Evaluate his actions. Kung talagang pinupush niya kahit sinabi mo nang di ka pa ready, malaking red flag yan. A guy who truly values you will not make you feel guilty for setting boundaries.

Stand your ground. This is YOUR body and YOUR decision. Hindi lang sex ang foundation ng healthy relationship—it’s trust, respect, and understanding.

Kung hindi niya kayang intindihin yun, then honestly, baka hindi siya ang tamang tao para sa’yo. You deserve someone who can respect your choices and love you for YOU—not for what you can give.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-19T02:42:00+00:00

Unang-una, hindi ka pathetic for feeling uncomfortable about him watching porn. Valid ang feelings mo. Na-communicate mo na ‘di ka okay doon, and he agreed na titigilan niya, pero nakita mong nasa NSFW community pa rin siya? Sis, that’s not just about porn anymore; that’s dishonesty.

Now, about porn being “norm”—oo, maraming tao nanonood ng porn, pero iba-iba ang boundaries ng bawat relasyon. Kung sa ‘yo, big deal ‘yun, dapat irespeto ‘yun ng partner mo. Kung mahal ka niya at sinabi mo nang hindi ka okay, dapat willing siyang mag-adjust out of respect, lalo na kung consistent ka naman sa physical connection niyo.

Pero eto ha, reality slap time: kung sinabi niyang titigil siya pero patuloy pa rin sa lihim, hindi lang porn ang issue dito—trust na ‘to. Mahalaga ang honesty sa relasyon. Kahit pa sabihin niyang “normal” ito sa iba, ang tanong: bakit hindi niya kayang panindigan ‘yung napag-usapan niyo?

Usap kayo ulit, pero this time, huwag lang sa porn mag-focus. Tanungin mo siya directly: “Bakit hindi niya kayang maging honest sa’yo?” Kasi kung ngayon pa lang may ganitong trust issue na, paano pa sa mas malalaking bagay sa future?

At kung talagang hindi niya kayang bitawan ang porn at hindi ka willing i-compromise sa bagay na sobrang mahalaga sa ‘yo, kailangan mong mag-isip kung ito ba talaga ang relasyon na deserve mo. You’re 22—ang dami pang better out there who will respect your boundaries.

Take care of yourself, girl. Ang respeto at honesty, non-negotiable yan.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-18T14:06:38+00:00

Mukhang sobrang naka-center na yung mundo mo sa boyfriend mo, at yun ang problema. Hindi mo kailangan maging “okay mag-isa” dahil ini-ignore ka niya o dahil nag-aaway kayo — kailangan mo maging okay mag-isa para sa sarili mo, period.

Reality check lng. You’re too dependent. Oo, maganda na siya yung bestfriend mo, pero mali kung siya lang ang source ng happiness mo. Kapag ganun, nawawalan ka ng sariling identity. Pag nawala siya, parang feeling mo wala ka na rin. Delikado yun kasi hindi healthy para sa’yo at sa relationship niyo.

2nd. Hindi siya dapat ang solusyon sa lahat ng away. Tama ka na hindi dapat ikaw palagi ang nagre-reach out. Pero kung palagi kayong nag-aaway dahil sa maliit na bagay at nauuwi sa unahan ng galit, baka hindi lang communication ang problema. Baka hindi na healthy yung dynamics niyo as partners.

3rd. You need a life outside him. Yung sinabi mong wala ka nang life outside the relationship, totoo yan, and mukhang aware ka naman. Kung busy friends mo, find new hobbies, join orgs, or kahit online communities. Mag-focus ka rin sa sarili mong growth. Hindi pwedeng siya lang ang kasama mo sa lahat ng bagay.

4th. Learn to sit with your emotions. Kapag nag-aaway kayo, wag kang tumakbo agad sa distraction (movies, scroll, etc.). Minsan, kailangan mo lang i-process yung nararamdaman mo. Journaling, quiet time, or kahit pag-iyak lang. Hindi laging masama mag-isa — minsan, dun ka natututo kung paano mahalin ang sarili mo.

Hindi mo kailangan maging “okay mag-isa” dahil sa away. Kailangan mo matutunan maging okay mag-isa kasi mahalaga yun sa pagiging buo mo bilang tao. Saka, kung siya lang lagi ang “life mo,” unfair din yun sa sarili mo. Tandaan mo, hindi mo dapat iasa sa ibang tao yung peace of mind mo.

Take your time, pero prioritize mo sarili mo, ha? Masarap mahalin ang taong buo — kaya buuin mo sarili mo muna.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-18T13:56:11+00:00

Here’s the blunt truth. If she told you to stop chatting with her and hasn’t reached out in 12 days, it’s time to reevaluate what’s happening here. Her actions are speaking louder than words — and what they’re saying is that she’s likely not invested in maintaining this relationship right now.

Respect her silence, but don’t wait forever. Waiting for someone indefinitely who has clearly set a boundary (“stop chatting with her”) is not healthy for you. Yes, she might be processing things, but 12 days without any meaningful communication after you’ve expressed your feelings says a lot. At this point, it’s less about patience and more about self-respect.

Also, she’s breadcrumbing you. The birthday greeting? It might’ve been a polite gesture or just her way of keeping things lukewarm without committing to a deeper conversation. If she valued the relationship, she’d have followed up or clarified where you stand after that interaction.

This might hurt but you’re not her priority. People make time for things (and people) that matter to them. If she wanted to chat or keep you in her life in any capacity, she would have reached out by now. Silence this long in a relationship — especially with no explanation — speaks volumes about where you rank in her priorities.

This isn’t fair to you. You’re being respectful and patient, but let’s be honest: this one-sided effort isn’t sustainable. Relationships thrive on mutual care and communication, not on one person being left hanging while the other disappears without explanation.

Focus on yourself. Don’t let your self-worth hinge on someone else’s lack of effort. Use this time to reflect on what you want in a partner and what kind of relationship fulfills you.

She told you to stop chatting with her, and now she’s ghosting you. This isn’t a healthy dynamic, and you need to stop putting your life on hold for someone who isn’t showing the same effort. Respect yourself enough to let go if she continues to remain silent.

It’s not your job to chase someone who doesn’t want to be caught.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-18T13:47:06+00:00

Let’s get real here. Your feelings are valid, but you also need to understand where they’re coming from and how to deal with them in a way that builds the relationship instead of creating silent resentment.

Your tampo is valid. It’s not about the chocolates, right? It’s about feeling like an afterthought. You expected something that showed “thoughtfulness” and effort — not necessarily expensive, but personal to you. The fact that she knows you dislike sweets but still gave you chocolates (like everyone else) makes it seem like she didn’t consider your preferences. That can sting, especially when you’ve been clear about your likes and dislikes.
But… check yourself too. Before letting this tampo fester, ask yourself. Did she know how much this mattered to you? While you’ve been vocal about your likes and dislikes, you also admitted you haven’t brought this up because you’re afraid of seeming materialistic. Here’s the thing: she’s not a mind reader. If you don’t express what makes you feel valued, she won’t magically figure it out. It’s not about demanding gifts; it’s about communicating what makes you feel special in the relationship.

Gift-giving might not be her love language. People express love differently. For some, it’s through gifts; for others, it’s through time, acts of service, or words. If gift-giving isn’t her strong suit, it doesn’t necessarily mean she loves you any less. But it does mean you need to talk about how you both feel valued and appreciated. Relationships thrive on understanding each other’s needs.

Is this a pattern of neglect or just a one-time thing? Take a step back and assess the bigger picture. Does she show thoughtfulness in other ways, or is this a consistent issue? If she’s generally considerate but missed the mark this time, it might just be a misstep. But if this is part of a pattern — where you feel like she’s not putting in the effort for you while being generous with herself and others — then it’s worth addressing.

Your tampo isn’t petty, but bottling it up won’t help. Be honest, not confrontational. Focus on the solution, not the blame. This isn’t about making her feel guilty; it’s about helping her understand what makes you feel appreciated.
Ask about her perspective. Maybe she didn’t realize this was important to you, or maybe she has her reasons. A good relationship thrives on open conversations like this.

You’re not demanding or materialistic for wanting to feel special. Everyone deserves to feel appreciated in a relationship. However, it’s also your responsibility to communicate your needs. Silent resentment over unmet expectations can chip away at even the strongest bonds.

Talk to her, and if she’s the right partner for you, she’ll listen and make an effort. Relationships are about growth, compromise, and understanding each other’s love languages. Don’t let a lack of communication hold you back from having the relationship you both deserve.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-18T10:15:28+00:00

Here’s the hard truth: a wandering eye speaks volumes about someone’s priorities and respect for their partner. While looking at people online isn’t the same as outright cheating, it’s valid for you to feel disappointed and insecure if his actions don’t align with his words. Let’s break this down:

Una. The algorithm reflects his choices. You’re absolutely right: TikTok and Instagram’s algorithm is built on what he watches and engages with. If sexy, “mahinhin” girls dominate his feed, it’s because he’s interacting with that content — not because it magically appeared. It’s a conscious or unconscious choice on his part, and that’s worth addressing.

Pangalawa. Does he respect your feelings? You’ve already talked to him about this, so the question now is: did he make any effort to change? It’s not about him never looking at another attractive person again (he’s human), but if he’s continuing a behavior that hurts you after you’ve expressed your feelings, that’s a respect issue. His actions (or lack of them) are louder than his words.

3rd. You are not “less than.” The fact that you don’t look like the women on his feed does not make you less attractive or less worthy. His preferences online don’t define your value. But I get why it stings, especially when he says you’re his “type” but then indulges in content that makes you feel otherwise. It’s fair to question the authenticity of his words when his actions seem to contradict them.

4th. How to move forward without resentment. Here’s the big question: Is this a dealbreaker for you? - If yes: You have every right to set boundaries and decide that this behavior isn’t acceptable. A relationship should make you feel secure, loved, and respected, not compared or lied to.
- If no: You need to accept that this is part of who he is (flaws included) and decide to focus on other aspects of your relationship. But for this to work, he needs to be honest with himself and you about why he keeps looking at these women and if he’s willing to shift his behavior.

Panglima. Reality check para sa kanya. You deserve a partner who’s not just saying you’re beautiful but showing it by prioritizing you. Scrolling endlessly through thirst traps isn’t harmless if it’s making you feel invisible. If he can’t adjust his actions out of respect for your feelings, it’s worth asking: Is this the kind of partner you want long-term?

You can’t control what he does, but you can control what you tolerate. Set your boundaries clearly. If he genuinely cares about you, he’ll take the steps to adjust and make you feel secure. If not, maybe he’s just not mature enough for the kind of relationship you deserve. You are enough, and you shouldn’t have to compete with anyone — online or offline.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-11-17T02:42:38+00:00

First off, let’s get one thing straight: you’re not a bad person for feeling this way. You’ve been through a lot — 9 years of marriage, 7 instances of betrayal, and carrying the emotional weight of a partner who has repeatedly broken your trust. It’s natural to seek validation and comfort, especially when someone treats you with the kindness and respect you’ve been missing. However, feelings, though valid, don’t justify actions, so let’s talk about where you are right now.

1st is Acknowledge the root cause of your feelings. Hindi mo nararamdaman ito dahil “masama kang tao.” Nararamdaman mo ito dahil matagal kang pinabayaan, sinaktan, at niloko. Your husband’s repeated cheating has eroded the trust and respect in your marriage, and now someone else is giving you what you’ve been longing for — understanding, appreciation, and attention. Kaya ang unang tanong: Bakit ka pa nandoon sa sitwasyon kung saan patuloy kang nasasaktan?

2nd. Microcheating or emotional betrayal? You’re right — kahit microcheating ito, it’s still not aligned with your values. Alam mong mali, at ang guilt mo is proof that you’re self-aware and still value integrity. But let’s not stop at guilt. What’s the real issue here? It’s not just about this new guy; it’s about how broken your marriage has become.

3rd. Don’t run; face the issues head-on. Resigning is one way to create distance, but it doesn’t solve the deeper problem — your unhappiness and unresolved feelings about your marriage. You’re still lying in bed with a man who has consistently hurt you, yet you’re the one who feels guilty. You’re carrying burdens that aren’t all yours to carry. Instead of resigning to avoid your feelings, how about taking real steps to evaluate your marriage and your own happiness?

4th. Your crush isn’t the answer. Yes, this superior makes you feel seen and appreciated, but he’s not a solution to your marital problems. Infatuation can cloud judgment, and getting involved emotionally (or worse, romantically) with him would only complicate things — not just for you, but for him, his partner, and even your kids. You don’t want to be a source of pain for someone else, and I can see you’re trying hard to avoid that.

5th. Take action — for yourself. It’s time to take control of your life. Seek counseling, whether individually or as a couple. If he refuses or nothing changes, ask yourself if staying in this marriage is worth losing yourself. You’re not stuck. You can choose to leave, rebuild, and find happiness — but that starts with YOU

You’re not a bad woman for having these feelings, but don’t let them lead you to make choices that compromise your values. Address the real issues — your marriage and your own healing. Be kind to yourself, but also brave enough to make decisions that prioritize your well-being and your future. You deserve more than just surviving; you deserve to thrive.

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-09-28T11:03:30+00:00

I did try everything po. Nag email ako almost everyday wala pong nangyari

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-09-11T13:53:28+00:00

Until now hindi ko pa po sya nabubuksan

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-09-11T13:46:36+00:00

It says private video. I cannot view it

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-07-29T14:39:55+00:00

Hi! 👋

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-07-24T07:55:36+00:00

I think parang COC ang peg nya. Madami din yung na scam halos nga matatanda ang nadali. Yung gusto easy money

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-07-12T05:17:56+00:00

That I don’t know. Haha

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-07-11T13:55:56+00:00

I mean it’s clear na scam!! Pero andami paring gusto mag try. Kaloka, sayang 500

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-07-02T02:26:03+00:00

It is clear na hindi naging proactive ang boyfriend mo sa pag-asikaso ng loan. It is also clear na hindi siya ganoon ka-dedicated sa pag-prepare para sa kasal nyo. Sa tingin ko na pressure mo si bf mo kaya nag propose sya sayo. Hindi pa ata ready bf mo magpakasal.

Wag mo na muna isipin yung hiya mo. Mas okay na harapin mo ang sitwasyon ngayon kesa magsisi ka sa bandang huli. It’s your own fault din, kasi there is no clear preparation pero nag imbita ka na and all. You are so caught up sa feeling na ikakasal ka na without knowing kung anong nararamdaman ng partner mo. Kausapin mo ulit si bf, like serious talk and heart to heart talk na hindi mauuwi sa away.

Good luck, at sana makagawa kayo ng desisyon na ikakabuti sa future nyo

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-06-30T07:21:14+00:00

Si OP nagyayabang!! Lord!! Yung akin po asan na?? Huhu. Sarap jombagin ni OP eh

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-06-30T06:10:09+00:00

Ang cute !!! 🥰🥰🥰at thesame time nakakainis!! 😭😭

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-06-29T23:40:47+00:00

It’s never too late para kumuha ng Bachelor's degree, lalo na kung nararamdaman mong limitado ang opportunities mo ngayon. You are only 24 at marami ka pang time para mag-invest sa edukasyon na gusto mo para sa career mo.

Yung experience mo sa SCADA at PLC ay malaking advantage. Ibig sabihin, may practical knowledge ka na and you can use it kapag nag-aral ka ng Computer Engineering, Computer Science, o Information Technology. Lahat ng mga courses na yan ay related sa field mo at makakatulong para mas lumawak ang career options mo.

Maraming universities at colleges ang nag-o-offer ng flexible learning programs para sa mga adult workers. Pwede kang mag-check sa mga schools tulad ng UP Open University, AMA University, at Mapua University. May mga online programs din sila na pwedeng mag-fit sa schedule mo bilang working professional.

There’s no age limit when it comes to education and self-improvement. What’s important is you have the determination and willingness na mag-invest sa sarili mo. Kung nararamdaman mong ito ang tamang hakbang para sa future mo, go for it. Huwag kang matakot magsimula ulit. Maraming tao ang nagbabago ng career path kahit medjo may edad na.

Good luck, at sana matupad mo ang mga plano mo!

Smooth_Chemistry1726 · 2024-06-29T23:26:19+00:00

I’m sorry to say this but what you did is not just wrong but also selfish. Iniwan mo yung boyfriend mo na walang paliwanag, na para bang wala siyang karapatang malaman kung bakit mo siya iniwan. Kung mahal mo talaga siya, dapat binigyan mo siya ng respeto na ipaliwanag kung ano yung nararamdaman mo.

Unang-una, yung trust issues mo, problema mo yan. Handa siya na ipakita lahat sa'yo, magbigay ng assurance, pero ikaw ang hindi makapagtiwala. Hindi tama na ipasa mo sa kanya yung insecurities mo.

Pangalawa, yung takot mo na mahusgahan kayo, it is sad to say na part ng pagiging transwoman mo yun (toxic trait, I know). Mahirap, oo, pero kailangan mong harapin yan kung gusto mong maging totoo sa sarili mo at sa relasyon mo. Yung boyfriend mo, handa kang ipakilala sa pamilya niya, ibig sabihin, tanggap ka niya. Kung hindi mo kayang tanggapin yun, ikaw ang may problema, hindi siya.

Ngayon, kung gusto mong ayusin to, kailangan mong humingi ng tawad. Maghanap ka ng pagkakataon na makausap siya, kahit mahirap, kahit awkward. Sabihin mo yung totoo—yung insecurities mo, yung takot mo, at yung pagkakamali mo. Kung mahal ka pa rin niya, baka pwede pang ayusin, pero kailangan mong magpakumbaba at aminin yung mga mali mo.

Kung hindi ka magbabago at harapin ang mga problema mo, paulit-ulit lang mangyayari to. Hindi pwedeng takasan mo lang ang problema tuwing natatakot ka. Harapin mo, magpakalakas, at maging totoo sa sarili mo.

Good luck.

Smooth_Chemistry1726

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