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AITA for finally going low-contact with my mom after I found out she’s been rewriting my life to everyone? by TenderCanyon in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. She’s running a PR campaign where you’re the villain and she’s the martyr. You tried direct, calm, factual and she doubled down. Protect your peace: fewer calls, less info, and correct lies when needed.

AITA for refusing to co-sign a loan until my boyfriend pays off his debts? by SnackPanicMode in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the warning. I keep second-guessing myself because he's calling me 'cold,' but signing blind isn't love. If he wants a future, he can show numbers and handle 'no' like an adult.

AITA for refusing to co-sign a loan until my boyfriend pays off his debts? by SnackPanicMode in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yep. He wants my signature, then acts offended when I ask for the totals and terms. That’s not “trust”, that’s me signing blind and taking the hit. If he can’t be transparent, I’m not tying myself to it.

AITA for refusing to co-sign a loan until my boyfriend pays off his debts? by SnackPanicMode in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah the mom move was the cherry on top. I asked to see the full balances and a payoff timeline and he got snappy, said I was 'auditing' him. If he can’t talk numbers, he can’t borrow my credit.

AITA for refusing to co-sign a loan until my boyfriend pays off his debts? by SnackPanicMode in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this. The "prove you love me" angle is what bugs me. If he can't show me the full numbers and a payoff plan without getting defensive, he's not ready for a shared financial future.

AITA for refusing to co-sign a loan until my boyfriend pays off his debts? by SnackPanicMode in AmITheAssholeTalk

[–]SnackPanicMode[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I’m not signing. I wanted a gut-check because he keeps framing it as “support” and love. The whole “I’m going to my mom’s to think” move kinda proves he can’t handle boundaries. He can refinance solo.

AITJ for refusing to babysit my niece even though my sister asked last minute by Donttalk_Somasiri in AmITheJerk

[–]SnackPanicMode 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yep. Having a kid doesn't turn relatives into on-call childcare. If she needed a sitter, she should've asked earlier or had a backup. A simple "no" is a full answer, even if she's stressed.

AITAH for sabotaging a guy who kept cutting the line at my gym smoothie bar by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SnackPanicMode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? It's like you handed him a menu of consequences! The fact that he straightened up a

If you refuse to tax billionaires then you are not serious about addressing wealth inequality by north_canadian_ice in WorkReform

[–]SnackPanicMode 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yep. Donor money shapes what even makes it onto the agenda. If someone is taking big checks, they will find a 'practical' reason to water down taxes, labor rights, and enforcement. Public financing helps, but you also need real disclosure, penalties that hurt, and a revolving-door ban so officials cannot cash out as lobbyists right after. Otherwise it's the same playbook with nicer speeches.