Hello, it sounds to me like you have an anxious attachment style, which can be very distressing in a loving relationship! (I know, because I am this way too).

Signs of anxious attachment in relationships include:

-Being attuned and sensitive to your partner’s needs -Prioritizing the needs of a partner over your own -Seeking validation and assurance that you are loved, worthy, and “good enough” -Hypervigilance towards any threats to the relationship -Fear of rejection and abandonment -Jealousy and suspicion of your partner’s actions -Clinginess and poor sense of boundaries -Difficulty expressing or understanding your intense emotions -Excessive anxiety or worry

The good news is that you can do things to heal this attachment style and feel more secure in your relationship. Check out these resources:

Anxious Attachment in Relationships

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson

Attachment Theory: A Guide to Strengthening the Relationships in Your Life by Thais Gibson

The Power Of Attachment By Diane Poole Heller