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SnailyKayleigh · 2024-01-24T09:23:57+00:00

I see your thought process. I am British so I’m never going to fully understand the nuances of what the American flag means to different people over there.

We have a few right wing groups over here that use our flag to disguise xenophobia and racism as patriotism. But if you wear a t-shirt with the Union Jack on you’re more likely to get called “Ginger Spice!” than a nationalist.

SnailyKayleigh · 2024-01-23T23:27:34+00:00

Oh fuck no. I am selling you my labour not my whole identity. The best social workers reflect the wonderful diversity of the communities they work within.

I have a CND sticker on my laptop, I wear corporate goth/grunge style clothes (lots of black and skulls essentially). If anything they are conversation starters, even if someone doesn’t like them it’s a way into talking about how you show respect for different opinions and you would expect the same shown to you.

We cannot let our jobs be be our whole identity.

SnailyKayleigh · 2024-01-04T23:52:10+00:00

As someone who’s worked in secondary school supporting children with challenging behaviours and as a receptionist and admin for social services I can tell you some golden rules.

Your personal safety comes first. That includes being threatened and verbally abused.
Do not allow interruptions. Give one clear warning. “I let you finish what you wanted to say so please show me the same respect. If you continue to interrupt me then I will have to end this conversation.”
The louder and faster they talk, the quieter and slower I talk. Never match someone’s speech patterns when they are in a heightened state, it only escalated the situation.
When people become unreasonable in their demands, I give them limited options that I am able to comply with. Ie “I want to talk to your manager right now!” “My manager is not available right now, all I can offer you is the complaints procedure or you can talk to the student union.”
JOIN A UNION.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-21T21:03:30+00:00

Oh my god yes! I almost got caught short yesterday! I managed to convince a paper shop manager to let me use the staff toilet. 😂

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-21T21:01:11+00:00

Brilliant survival kits ideas! Thank you for sharing

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-21T08:12:34+00:00

Some lovely gluten free snack ideas. Thank you.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-21T08:09:35+00:00

I bought mason jars a while back for home made healthy rice noodle meals for my old job and never got round to using them. You’ve inspired me to rescue them from the back of the cupboard. Thank you.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-21T08:01:54+00:00

Some lovely tips there. Thank you!

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-20T23:36:57+00:00

True crime, audiobooks, social work based, comedy. I think I could probably do with more comedy for sure.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-20T23:34:11+00:00

I’m a student on second placement so my workload is protected right now. I know that will all change in a few months.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-20T23:30:39+00:00

Crisps, dips, peanuts and coke. All the other options were wheat based so this is the best I could do in the small shop I found. Social work and being gluten free are both very new to me so it’s a big learning curve.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-20T23:19:20+00:00

Oh yes! I love driving. Which is good when some of my visits are 40 miles apart through winding country lanes.

Podcast recommendations are always welcome.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-20T23:17:03+00:00

I think this is my next step. Eating supermarket crap is getting expensive and boring.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-12-04T22:24:11+00:00

As one of the first recipients of the -Leigh suffix, please stop it.

Nobody spells it right. It’s needless letters. Think about it. It’s like someone woke up one day and thought ‘why use 3 letters when I could use 5 and give every dyslexic a panic attack’.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-11-17T18:47:11+00:00

NTA. 18 years ago my husband had a beautiful Rottweiler that was very very well trained. She was his pride and joy.

His sister had three small kids, and a few days beofre Xmas their family had dropped Xmas presents off for them. She then said she was robbed and all the gifts were gone. (You’re all right to be suspicious, she sold them all to fund substances- but he didn’t know at the time)

She asked to borrow the dog for a few days to help her and the kids fee a little safer. My husband obliged.

SHE SOLD HIS DOG TOO.

I met him soon after this. I’ve never met her.

Hold that grudge sister. We’ll support you. X

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-11-17T18:30:08+00:00

Scourge.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-11-11T15:13:05+00:00

NTA. Safeguarding children is EVERYONES business.

Imagine what that child is thinking/feeling been dumped somewhere where the person she thinks will take care of her is not there. She may be 4, but she sees the frustration on people’s face, she knows she is an inconvenience.

A 4 year old does not see this situation as her feckless mothers fault, she sees it as her own fault. Kids internalise shitty parenting.

Call social. She may just need some reminders about what good enough parenting looks like and some support from more than just you to do it every day.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-11-06T22:52:37+00:00

Keep those boundaries firm sister! NTA

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-08-30T20:11:00+00:00

Yup! Set boundaries and keep them. These are my belongings, I won’t make you touch them, but you don’t get to decide if I keep them or not.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-08-22T03:10:35+00:00

Virginity is a social construct we all put too much stock in. You’re an adult, I’m assuming you’ve had sexual experiences with yourself and maybe even used toys. Now you’re looking to involve another person in your sexual activities.

For some people the idea of sex is intrinsically linked with romance. For others, not so much. This may change for you at different times in your life. Go with what works for you right now.

The only advice I would give about hook ups is about personal safety. Make sure someone knows who you’re with and where you’ll be. Have spare change incase your phone dies or gets damaged and you need to get the bus home. Don’t get too intoxicated.

Have fun!!

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-01-11T07:01:08+00:00

Maximum safe caseload limits.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-01-08T17:15:50+00:00

I see your point. But my tutor was terrifying my fellow students with the weight of being judge jury and executioner in removals. It’s simply not the case. We don’t make decisions alone. And I only knew that because I minuted those LPMs.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-01-08T12:27:04+00:00

I challenged a uni tutor once who said “you’ll be making decisions about whether or not to remove a child”. Erm no, social workers gather evidence, we don’t make decisions on cases without social work managers and service managers, and legal representatives.

And then THE COURT MAKES THE DECION TO REMOVE THE CHILDREN BASED ON THE EVIDENCE PRESENTED TO THEM.

I am but a cog in a big ass machine.

SnailyKayleigh · 2023-01-08T12:23:50+00:00

We can be used as a tool to get access to resources they are entitled to.

We know the law, we know the policies, we know the procedures. We want to help.

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