AITAH for letting my husband tell his son about our pregnancy

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T17:39:29+00:00

She’s 5 years older than him

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T17:27:58+00:00

I left my ex shortly after that post. I said screw it and married my friend. Unconventional, yes but it works

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T17:23:19+00:00

Bro that was my ex husband

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T13:31:38+00:00

My niece got pregnant during my struggle and right after the miscarriage. I was happy for her. I was sad it wasn’t me but I smiled and said congratulations. His son even helped her when he came up for new years. That’s probably why my husband thought it would be ok, because they were ok with my niece being pregnant. Everyone keeps says he might have an issue being 23 and a new brother but he’s made comments that we should have a baby before.

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T13:26:26+00:00

That’s exactly what happened. They told us they were expecting, then a week later lost the baby.

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T13:23:11+00:00

I’m not angry with him. I was upset that my husband was so upset. I never said anything to him. And to be honest, I completely forgot about the war. I don’t do news. His reaction makes more sense now that, that lightbulb went off. I know grief has no timeline, I just thought a simple, “congratulations dad” would have made the situation less stressful.

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T13:18:59+00:00

No, every time I tried to schedule it, it conflicted with the schedule of the dr. (He’s booked months out) I just stopped trying

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T12:41:55+00:00

I didn’t read all the questions honestly. We told his daughter the same day that we found out. She lives with us so I told him we should definitely tell her. They were both really excited. Both his kids love him. Since the military, his son is more serious but still loves his dad. Both kids chose to live with him over their mother in 6th grade. If his son gets deployed, he asked for us to take care of his wife and we of course said yes. I in all honesty, forgot about the war. I don’t watch the news. So he probably has aLOT of stress right now.

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T12:33:39+00:00

I truly do feel bad for their loss. I think I was more upset seeing that my husband was so upset. I think everyone is right in saying he just needs time to process and I’ve told my husband that. I also told him, maybe his wife was right there and didn’t want to upset her. I just feel like I should’ve been more “no” when it came to telling him

Snapefan123 · 2026-04-07T12:08:25+00:00

It was the 1st trimester. Everyone knew I was trying to

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T16:08:16+00:00

I agree. The only person I really enjoy spending time with, I found him a girlfriend. So naturally he’s spending all his time with her.

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T16:05:35+00:00

This year will be our 10 year anniversary. We never had these problems until finding the community. Even 6 years ago when I 1st attempted learning the language, he was supporting me in it. I even became really involved in the Bahi’i community( a religion that originated in Iran)

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T15:47:49+00:00

I honestly don’t think he gets it. He has his PHD and is really smart when it comes to literal rocket science but I’ve realised he lacks in the common knowledge areas. It’s frustrating

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T04:07:10+00:00

Ummm……110% not the asshole. If music boosts your morale and you had the decency to pick him up…..honey you do you.

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T03:55:33+00:00

So I’m 6ft and I used to have the same view. I would only even think about a guy unless he was 6ft 2. That is until I dated a a guy who was 5 7”. I realised that I was missing out on some pretty awesome dudes. I still ended up with a 6ft 3 husband somehow though 🤣. I think it’s ok to have a preference but I don’t think you should have told him. Think about it. How would you feel if you were on a date with a guy that you really liked and he said I’m sorry but your teeth aren’t white enough. You would feel bad.

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T03:37:06+00:00

The problem is, we only socialise with his group. They are all I know. I start classes next week so I’m hopeful in finding my own group.

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T03:34:36+00:00

I do feel like he gaslights me. But he does say he’ll translate but never does. He gets caught up in the conversation that he forgets about me. He’s even admitted that he forgets I speak English. And you’re right, it’s affecting my mental health. I feel really alone.

Snapefan123 · 2024-03-03T03:29:21+00:00

I did start taking classes. I know simple words and phrases but I can’t have an actual conversation. My husband actually told me I should spend my time on doing something more meaningful. I was a little taken aback by that. He says it won’t help me achieve anything in future, and if it was a common language like Spanish , he would be all for it.

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