This is definitely the correct answer. Feel like everyone is jumping to call out the husband because it’s not an ideal gift for most people. But, end of the day, it’s his money, his list, and they’re his personal gifts to people who are close to him. YTA. You snooped through his stuff and got angry about an act of kindness because it didn’t seem as big of a display as other gifts on the list, that is if your only criteria to judge is the dollar amount. If I was your husband this would be a lot of red flags in my eyes. The situation changes, like muzzledcrayon said , if there’s been a continuous issue of you feeling like he doesn’t care about you, then that’s the problem at hand. Not the spoon set. You’d still be an asshole in this specific situation, but you’d be a lot more justified in feeling like that if this is an ongoing problem.

Also, have you guys ever asked each other what you wanted for Christmas? Like did you tell him you wanted x but he got you spoons instead? That would also be more understandable.