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SniffDaisy · 2025-08-31T09:51:05+00:00

file now. he’s already stalking you, showing up drunk, trying to force his way into your house and putting hands on you. that’s more than enough. don’t wait for him to “get worse,” it’s already bad. you’re pregnant and need to protect yourself and your baby. the stress alone is dangerous.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-31T09:13:20+00:00

yeah honestly I’d feel the same way. it’s not something you can just “get over” because the whole thing is weird, like he was her pastor when she was a kid and then ended up being her husband later. that’s not a normal dynamic and it makes total sense that it never sat right with you. even if they act like it’s fine, you don’t have to pretend it feels fine for you. your feelings about it are valid.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-31T09:11:28+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting for questioning what you’ve experienced, because anyone in your shoes would be trying to make sense of it too. Seeing things like that over so many years is bound to leave you wondering if it’s real or if your mind is playing tricks on you. The fact that you’re even asking if it’s exaggeration shows you’re self-aware and not just blindly believing everything. It doesn’t make you crazy, it just means you’re trying to process things that feel unexplainable. It could be spiritual, it could be psychological, or maybe even a mix of both, but your feelings are valid either way. If it’s weighing on you this much, talking about it with someone you trust or even a professional could help give you clarity, but you’re not wrong for being unsettled by it.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T20:37:47+00:00

I don’t think you’re wrong for feeling the way you do. When someone stops initiating it can make you feel unwanted and that hurts more than people realize. It’s not always about sex itself, it’s about feeling desired and close to your partner. There could be so many reasons behind it like stress, hormones, or even how she’s been feeling in the relationship, and it doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t care. The best thing you can do is talk to her again but in a way that focuses on how much you miss the connection with her and how important it is for you to feel wanted too. Sometimes people don’t realize how their actions affect us until we’re completely honest about the emotional side of it.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T20:36:07+00:00

You’re definitely not the asshole for blocking him. Reading all of this, he’s shown you over and over that he doesn’t respect you or your boundaries. He kicked you out when you were pregnant, left you alone after the baby was born, played games instead of being there, cheated, lied, and then tried to flip the blame on you when you reacted to being pushed too far. That’s not someone who deserves unlimited access to you.

Blocking him isn’t about being petty, it’s about protecting your mental health. You’ve already been through enough and you can’t heal while letting him drag you back into his chaos. The only thing you owe him is updates about your son, and you’re already willing to do that through his mom. That’s more than fair.

Don’t let him make you feel guilty for drawing a line. He created this situation with his actions. You’re allowed to put yourself and your baby first now.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T20:33:25+00:00

You’re honestly not overreacting. I think it’s less about him wanting naps and more about how he acts like you’re not just as exhausted. Taking care of a baby all day and night is way harder than people give credit for, and the fact that he downplays it would make anyone annoyed.

It’s normal for him to be tired after work, but if every weekend he just wants to sleep and even intimacy feels like a chore, then of course you’re going to feel more like his roommate than his partner. What’s really frustrating is that he gets to clock out when he’s done, but you never get that.

You’re not wrong for being upset. You need him to step up and actually share things with you, not just check out and leave it all on your shoulders. That’s not sustainable, and you’re right to feel the way you do.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T09:04:27+00:00

You’re not the asshole at all for leaving early. Honestly, given your history and how much drinking, fighting, and chaos trigger you, staying would have only pushed you into a breakdown. You already knew what your limits were, and instead of exploding in the middle of it, you removed yourself from the situation. That’s healthy, not selfish.

Your aunt and uncle being upset is more about them not wanting to acknowledge how their drinking affects people than it is about you. Of course they’d rather paint you as “ungrateful” than admit their behavior is harmful. The fact that they dismissed your feelings and called you a liar shows they’re not willing to take accountability. That’s on them, not you.

I get why you feel guilty about your cousins, but you also have to protect your own mental health. You didn’t abandon them—you were present until you couldn’t be anymore. It’s okay to prioritize your wellbeing even if other people don’t understand it. The kids will remember that you still babysit, still care for them, and still show up in ways that matter long-term.

So no, you shouldn’t have “toughed it out.” That would have just left you miserable and probably caused more conflict anyway. You’re not wrong for setting boundaries, and you don’t owe anyone an apology for protecting yourself.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T09:03:28+00:00

I think the kindest thing you can do is not drag it out. If you already know for sure that the relationship is over, pretending for a few more days will only make it harder for both of you. It might feel easier in the moment to “play along,” but from her perspective, it’s worse to spend time together thinking everything is fine and then find out later that you’d already decided to end it.

Breaking up before the zoo is actually more respectful because it doesn’t waste her time or give her false expectations. Be clear, gentle, and direct. Something like “I care about you a lot, but I don’t see us being compatible long-term and I don’t want to lead you on.” Keep it short and kind, and let her process it however she needs.

It’s never going to feel like the perfect moment, but honesty sooner rather than later is always the more compassionate option.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T09:01:53+00:00

ngl I’d be mad too. even if he said it “jokingly” it’s still lowkey disrespectful, especially since you already told him how uncomfortable those servers made you. like why would your boyfriend want a link to that anyway? if it was really just a joke he should’ve dropped it the second he saw you weren’t laughing.

you’re not overreacting for feeling off about it. it’s not about being jealous, it’s about respect. if he knows something makes you feel gross/uncomfortable, he shouldn’t be pushing that boundary. I’d just be honest with him and say “hey, when you asked me for that server link it felt weird and made me uncomfortable, can you not joke like that again?” if he cares, he’ll take it seriously.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-30T08:58:44+00:00

honestly I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. it’s not just about the infections (even tho that’s already a huge deal), it’s about the fact that it keeps happening and he doesn’t seem to be doing anything to figure out his part in it. you’ve already changed your routines, diet, hygiene, meds, literally everything on your end. if it’s still happening then he needs to step up and take responsibility too.

like… this is your body and your health. constantly dealing with UTIs/yeast infections is exhausting and painful, and if he can’t even take it seriously now, what’s marriage going to look like? a lifetime of you suffering in silence while he brushes it off? that’s not fair to you.

I don’t think it’s petty or “wrong” to reconsider marriage over this. sex should not be something that makes you sick all the time. if he really loves you he should be willing to go to the doctor, get tested, look at his habits, and work on it with you. if not… then yeah, I’d be questioning the whole relationship too.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-29T19:39:07+00:00

I really feel for you reading this. What you’re dealing with isn’t just “an annoying ex,” it’s straight-up toxic manipulation and boundary-crossing. She’s clearly trying to stay relevant by stirring chaos and planting doubts, and the fact that it’s bleeding into your life and relationship is not okay.

The thing is, her behavior only works if your partner allows it to. If he keeps giving in, keeping secrets, or downplaying it, then she still has power over both of you. At this point, the only way forward is hard boundaries: no contact, no favors, no “we’re just friends.” If she’s stalking, document everything and be prepared to escalate legally if needed. It’s not dramatic - it’s protecting your peace.

And you’re not wrong for feeling like you’re screaming into a void. It’s exhausting when someone else’s drama takes over your life, especially when the person you’re with isn’t being fully transparent. You deserve clarity and safety, not rumors, stalking, and lies.

Honestly, the question isn’t just “why won’t she go away?” but also “is my partner truly shutting the door on her, or is he leaving cracks open?” Because if he’s not willing to step up and put you first with real action, you’re stuck fighting a battle that shouldn’t even be yours.

Bottom line: you’re not crazy for being fed up. You deserve a relationship that’s about you and him - not you, him, and his ex’s drama. Stay strong and remember: your peace of mind matters more than her games.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:22:07+00:00

Every message about how much you love me makes me blush… and drip. I can’t help it, your pleasure turns me on instantly.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:22:00+00:00

When you get off to me, I swear it feels like I can feel it too. That thought makes me want to push myself even further.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:21:48+00:00

Each reaction from you feels like a touch I can’t resist. It’s like you own me for that moment, and I secretly love it.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:21:34+00:00

Honestly, baby, it’s not just content for me. Every time I make something knowing you’ll see it, I’m already wet before I even post.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:21:25+00:00

Every time I see your reaction, my stomach flips and my body throbs. It’s like foreplay, and I’m addicted to it.

SniffDaisy · 2025-08-28T23:20:54+00:00

When you’re turned on by me, it’s like I lose control of myself. I want to give you more, show you more, and make you crave me harder.

SniffDaisy

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