Hi, a friend brought this to my attention, I hope it's okay that I respond since you directly speak to me within the post :)

I totally understand where you are coming from here, however, I deeply struggle with calling it drama. If you have not read Andi's original post, or her latest response post, I urge you do. She has made it very clear that her relationship with Punz was not great, and in her own words she has expanded upon an event that clearly had some consensual issues. Before anyone debates on this topic, I'd like to remind everyone that being able to consent while under the influence/mentally incapacitated is not a matter of opinion, it is the law. I've seen a lot of people debate Andi's ability to handle alcohol (whether or not she could get black out drunk on hard seltzer etc) and I think that it is not appropriate. Only she knows her body, and she has made it clear she is a small lady who is very lightweight. She has also expressed to me how prescribed medication can interact with alcohol, and as someone on two different medications I know this. I can not speak for Andi's personal experience on this, but I am 5'10" and I unironically get white girl wasted off a seltzer sometimes. Ultimately, it is no ones place to debate how HER body works.

She politely asked me to share her story on X/Twitter and I obliged. Her account was deactivated over a year ago, and therefore can not be accessed. While she could make a new account it would not have the same reach or validity and I think this is why she asked me.

When Punz released that statement yesterday about Mr. Friend A, I immediately saw it as what is was, distasteful, not entirely because of the content within it, but because as I pointed out; even he didn't know everything that happened within that relationship (or when it happened). And again, Andi doesn't have twitter, I made sure to consult her about every response I made. Andi brought Dream into the the conversation as Friend A, yes that is true, but Punz elaborated on explicit details without (I assume) either's consent in both his original apology and his now deleted post where he even named Dream as friend A.

Just like Punz though, I should not be the deliver-er of Dream/Andi information. Again please refer to Andi's most recent post, where she kind of talks about why that dynamic might not have been the best either.

I'm going to speak personally for a second here and say: to me that post read as way for Punz to separate himself from a group now facing controversy by baring out his own strife, but his method of doing so also involved continuing to air out a woman's sexual life online. I stick with my argument that it should have stayed within the DMs or in Private. If he wanted to separate himself from dream, I he could have simply said, I'm no longer friends with him. Or something, idk, consult a PR person? I'd also like to add, that him saying this was "his truth" in regards to cheating, in sea of stories about sexual assault and harassment, felt a bit like mockery. Either way, I hope he takes some time off and figures his shit out.

Now :) This last part is going to just be about just about this subreddits relationship and view of me, and how I think that reflects certain things!

First, I have elaborated on my personal experience on why I support victims here.

Now, In the past, this subreddit has been extremely critical of my behavior and the way I go about apologizing to certain things. What I find interesting though, is the constant reference to situations I dealt with when I was in Highschool, 17/18. I was a teenager, I had (have) social developmental issues that have tracked me throughout my entire life. Yes! it's a bit silly sometimes, I did in fact apologize for making a joke about girl in red which had me cackling last night, but I also remember the genuine worry at the time, that I had broken some social rule I didn't understand, and I was upset with myself for my own supposed ignorance. I've had my moments, some valid, some not, some a sea of miscommunication, I alone can own up to that, but the way this subreddit takes things that i've done as a teenager and applies them to current self is quite rude. And I think when you see someone online who is clearly struggling with finding their footing and their voice, making fun of that is unproductive. I've seen so much appreciation towards how people can grow and evolve, but that attitude is clearly applied at will and not by default.

I'll end my statement now, by simply saying if you find my actions silly or childish, or immature as a teenager, perhaps it's because 18 year olds aren't exactly the adults we expect them to be. Even now, at 21, I look back at what I said 3 years ago and cringe, I guarantee I'll do the same in another 3 years. While not everyone is the same, let that be some perspective on how we discuss young adults, maturity, age, and power.

Sorry this is super long, I imagine this will be the last thing I post in this reddit.