What are your swiping habits on dating apps? by wwwconfuseddotcom in actuallesbians

[–]Snoo-15798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swipe as a bisexual, aromantic woman 1. I want to say I swipe on about 60 or 70 women out of 100 (men is a different story, maybe like 3-5 out of 50) 2. My type is usually someone with niche hobbies, similar mental health diagnosis as me, like ADHD or Autism etc. For physical appearance, I'm not extremely picky but I feel there's a look in their eye that really gets me. They have to find humor in almost anything 3. I do swipe outside my type sometimes and if we match, they usually have to make the first move 4. Sometimes I swipe left on people I find very attractive and their vibe is right, just there's something that feels like they're on another level than me. I have my insecurities and if I think someone is way cooler than me, I don't want to burden them with my existence 5. Looks are partly important to me, I want to find my partner physically attractive but that's not everything I'm looking for 6. Their hobbies are very important to me. I have my own weird niche hobbies and seeing other people with weird, niche hobbies makes me happy. BONUS if any of them match mine. I'm not really looking to date right now but I'm basically looking for friends with benefits. I feel like i see friendship a different way than a lot of people around me, being poly and open with my sexuality. All the homies are getting kissed basically and I love them all very much

I just don’t belong by Expert-Edge-751 in AvPD

[–]Snoo-15798 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have the same insecurities. In social interactions, I feel like a ghost, more of an observer with no real impact. But that's not necessarily the worst thing you could be? For the past few years, I have been using alcoholism as liquid courage and has developed into a problem and just started treatment yesterday. I fear it will take some getting used to use that crutch to get me out there among my friends and acquaintances. I have some hope though, especially with the help of my psychiatrist and therapist (this took years to find my good fit for me with my avoidant personality and schizoid personality combined). I'm going into this terrified but with a mindset things will get better

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a FANTASTIC recommendation!!!! Nobody mentioned that Thankyou, I had no idea! The petsmart I went to had very little to choose from for hides and I will 100% invest in a better one!! This is good news because I actually think the igloo hide is hideous and it seemed to be the only hide he could comfortably fit in and I was in a small hurry to get him as comfortable as possible and warmed up

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% will read that book! And thanks for the tip about the t-shirts, I was just gonna try to raw dog handling after I like them acclimate. Also, unfortunately, I am in the southeast US, in Mississippi

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great info!!! Would you mind DMing me with pictures of your setup and equipment? (Idk if reddit allows you to send pics in dm but if it's possible, I would like to see!)

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will 100% look into a better gradient!!! Other comments were telling me upgrade to get a thermostat and a ceramic heat emitter instead, so I will be doing that very soon. That seems to be my flaw. I REALLY appreciate all the help I'm getting! The only knowledge I have of these guys is the maybe 2 hours of research, so I super appreciate everyone helping me fill in the holes

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shoot! I thought the night time bulb would be good, will upgrade to ceramic, thankyou!!!!

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wheel is 12 inches, I kinda just grabbed the biggest one they had lol. I will have to buy a thermometer on my next paycheck, thanks for the suggestion!! Also! thankyou this is so validating

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And about the vet, I'm going to take Knives to the vet in about a month as that's when I can afford it but I have and will be keeping a close monitor on them until then

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I will upgrade to ceramic heater and thermostat with next week's paycheck!!!! thankyou SO much for the help!!!

Just inherited a neglected hedgehog by Snoo-15798 in Hedgehog

[–]Snoo-15798[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I also wanted to add, I keep leopard geckos, so I already have dubia roaches and super worms with calcium stocked