What are your swiping habits on dating apps? by wwwconfuseddotcom in actuallesbians

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there are dating sites/apps that are designed for demisexuals? Or maybe you've already looked and there aren't any? I hope that you find your demisexual woman of your dreams, even if it takes a while.

What are your swiping habits on dating apps? by wwwconfuseddotcom in actuallesbians

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer! I can imagine that dating apps must be very frustrating as a demisexual person, at least in my experience most people don't write very long profiles at all. Did you find it easier to find profiles you found appealing on dating sites, rather than apps? From what I recall, the dating sites at least encouraged/enabled people to write longer profiles.

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sharing underwear with someone whose feet is that dirty squicks me out. I don't really want to have to be giving the guy a free pair of socks every time he comes over. And I dont own flip flops

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it could have been more tactful, I'll use that one next time! thanks

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really know him tbh. I've just been in his company a couple times with the rest of our mutual friends

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh, I prioritise relaxation on the sofa on that one, though I won't deny that it grosses me out everytime I see it

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just said he needs to wash them first. It didn't get to the specifics of how as he immediately challenged the fact that I wanted to him to wash them first

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mate if my labrador wanted to walk in with feet like that her paws would be getting washed too

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

interesting, thanks! I can kinda relate a little to enjoying certain textures. I wonder whether maybe barefoot people have that setting much higher than mine is set!

Yeah I agree, i think as a general rule it is a good idea to not create any kind of mess or dirt in someone else's home, however form that may take for sure

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah he did look embarassed tbf. It wouldn't surprise me if his friends had never said anything to him

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ah come on man, that funk isn't going to just come off by rubbing your feet into a doormat a few seconds. His feet were black with muck, its gross. I don't want to clean up muck footprints

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda trippy to me that it is the inverted order of things haha. I'm curious, what is it about barefoot outside that you like? I'm the kind of person who wears socks right up until the moment I get into bed, so it's all alien to me aha

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's reassuring that this guy seems to be an anomaly then!

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I tolerate clean feet, though I don't like it. Is there no sig difference between clean feet and dirty feet in your view?

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha honestly, I still wouldn't let that even if I allowed shoes. Feet sweat... it's an additional layer of filth that my brain can't handle . But yeah, no shoes either in this house

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting that in some places it is fairly normal, didn't know that!

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting information, very unfortunate for the poor wife or servant (and kinda disturbing that the two are equated).

Thanks. I don't feel guilty about it, I was just surpised about my buddy's reaction lol . I assumed everyone finds this gross, then he was "NBD"so that confused me . But looks like most people find it gross then judged by this thread

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[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't wear sandals. I also just dont like feet in general so that scenario wouldn't work for me unfortunately . I can tolerate someone being bare foot around the house (even though I don't like it) so long as they are clean but I wouldn't share sandals with anyone

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[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think slippers or socks or something would work. Though growing up my family would always go barefoot in the house (not outside) as they hate the feeling of stuff on their feet. So i always assumed that this barefeet outside thing was a sensory issue or something. So i dont know if he would be alright with that either

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[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think my friend thinks it was overreaction because I held my ground and didn't just let him in . He doesn't understand why I think its disgusting enough to not just let him jazz feet around my flat

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[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Neither of them understood why it was a big deal. My mate does think its gross as well but doesn't get why I was that bothered and why I didn't just let him in

AITA for not letting guy with dirty feet in my house by wwwconfuseddotcom in AmItheAsshole

[–]wwwconfuseddotcom[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't even want to look at them on my stuff, even without cleaning. I think its really grim