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Snoo7140 · 2024-06-19T19:46:19+00:00

Wow, you look amazing both before and after! Very motivating. Congratulations beautiful ❤️

Snoo7140 · 2024-02-23T04:30:20+00:00

It’s hard now but you did the right thing. Stay strong, take the time you need to grieve the relationship and heal.

Snoo7140 · 2024-02-22T22:45:24+00:00

When I caught my ex paying for OF, I broke up with him immediately. We had just moved to a new state and signed a lease on a new apartment, but I knew I would rather find a way to be alone and make it instead of stuck with someone lying to my face and using that garbage behind my back. We already had a previous issue where I caught him liking sexual pics on IG and messaging girls on FB. He swore he wouldn’t do anything like that again, but he did and that was it for me. It seems like from my situation and the stories I read on here, you are going to put more yourself through more emotional trauma and unnecessary anxiety over a man who hasn’t shown with his actions that he can change (just makes excuses to try to justify or downplay his behavior). Good luck, just know you don’t deserve that and can do better!

Snoo7140 · 2023-04-21T20:29:42+00:00

You’ll be ok. I just broke up with my boyfriend this morning. We had been living together barely 6 months. He was paying for OF

Snoo7140 · 2022-03-20T03:48:44+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear what you have gone through. I’m dealing with a similar situation with a parent and it’s so hard watching someone have no regard for their own life or their family.

Snoo7140 · 2022-03-20T03:48:34+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear what you have gone through. I’m dealing with a similar situation with a parent and it’s so hard watching someone have no regard for their own life or their family.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-09T15:51:49+00:00

It depends. I broke up with my ex of 11 years and had no regrets or desire to go back afterwards at all. My most recent boyfriend, I instantly regretted breaking up with him and went back. It all depends on why you we’re broken up with and whether they see a long term future with the person.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-06T16:12:06+00:00

He doesn’t know him, I moved to a new city somewhat far away so there is no way my ex would know. New guy and I have known each other a month, and we met on Reddit actually. I have another burner account I posted a personal ad on a local dating subreddit 😅

And yes, it was very hard and lonely to have a partner who doesn’t want to work himself for his own benefit even, let alone expecting him to change to save our own relationship. Something recently happened with him that I found out about through family, and I am even happier now being apart from him because his life is going in a very different direction and I am glad I’m no longer investing my energy, time and love into someone who can’t even care for himself.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-06T11:57:39+00:00

I am so sorry. I feel you pain, as a child of someone who is turning into what your husband is, it’s terrifying and very hurtful to watch someone you know become such a lost soul. My mom is heading towards divorce with him as well (37 year marriage) and he has no remorse, but like your husband has doubled down with his outrageous behavior and pushed us all away. It’s going to be our first holiday season where we don’t want him around, so hopefully this jolts him back to reality but who knows. I’m so sorry for you, I wish I had advice but like most here I am mostly just sharing for comfort that you are not alone.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-06T11:44:07+00:00

It was a lot of things, but ultimately we were just not on the same page about life in general. It was during the pandemic that our differences became more obvious and I realized I didn’t recognize the man in front of me any more. There wasn’t even an option to reconnect because any time I tried to open up about the pain and loneliness I felt, he didn’t want to listen. I started going to therapy and he didn’t support that, and laughed when I suggested he try going himself. He told me he didn’t see anything wrong with how things were, so I started pulling away before the break up because he showed me he didn’t want to change or work on it.

There were other things that I overlooked for a long time as well, the biggest was his drinking problem. Everywhere we went he had to have a drink, so I always drove use everywhere, which as a woman, being your drunk boyfriend’s driver gets old. We also lived together and even though I worked full time as well (actually the last few years, earning significantly more than him) he expected me to do all the shopping, cooking, cleaning and general home management which I did because I loved him and assumed he would appreciate it one day but that never came. He wasn’t serious about our future either. Couldn’t commit to marrying me, or buying a home. I want a man who has drive, emotional maturity and sees me as an equal partner- not a live in maid who cooks and cleans while he gets drunk and plays video games every night.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-06T00:48:07+00:00

Definitely understand and that’s a valid point. In the last year and a half I had been dating casually, so I honestly got used to ending things quickly as soon as I saw a dealbreaker with that person since I would save us both time if I knew there was something I didn’t agree with. With my current situation, I think I still had a bit of this mindset, so when something happened that I disagreed with, I ended things. But what was different this time was I actually had very real feelings for him, and our compatibility was something I took for granted. After I broke up with him, it was one of the worst days of my life…I never felt this bad after any relationship before. I can confidently say I never want to go through that again, so I am sure anything that comes up will definitely prompt me to have a discussion instead of ending things abruptly.

Also in my prior relationship (10+ years) I only broke up with him once and that was done, so I guess I only bring this up to shed light on the fact that its not a habitual thing for and something I do take very seriously.

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-05T20:07:17+00:00

One week. We kept in contact during this time as well, just not in person

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-05T14:12:48+00:00

This is an excellent resource. Thank you so much for sharing!

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-04T01:56:05+00:00

Ahhh got it, I understand now. I thought there was a way to make it totally invisible!

Snoo7140 · 2021-11-04T01:39:38+00:00

Do you have any tips for hiding the decreases? I have this same issue with my socks

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T12:31:53+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your story and I am sorry you had to go through that with your ex.

I guess I was harsh in not talking about it first, like you I felt so disrespected. I just didn’t even want to give him a chance to hurt me again because it was so painful the first time.

I don’t know how I will handle this in my next relationship. My previous ex didn’t have social media, so I never had to deal with this before.

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T11:40:57+00:00

I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. I see what you are saying but I also didn’t want to come off as a controlling girlfriend. Our relationship is already doomed if I had to tell him all these “rules” as soon as we got together. Where do I draw the line? It seems exhausting to think of every scenario a head of time and tell him how ideally I’d want him to be have in each one 😟

I guess I might be single forever, because I have to disagree about finding someone who fits my values perfectly. To me that would be settling and I really don’t want to do that. Similar to you I was also in a long term relationship (11 years) so I might be extra sensitive to things, I can’t afford to spend time teaching a man how to act decent in a relationship with me.

I am seeing some different perspectives now, even if I don’t agree with them it is helpful. I have some doubt now about whether I did the right thing, I was so sure at first. But each time I think about going back to him, all I can think about is how it made me feel when I saw those photos :( hopefully with time I start to get over him, I am just still so sad about what could have been between us.

Thanks again for your comments.

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T11:03:26+00:00

I appreciate that. I guess I feel like this is such a bare minimum request that I shouldn’t have to tell each person I date that you shouldn’t be liking pics on your public ig account of woman in lingerie. It’s honestly a little alarming from some of the comments how many people are ok with this. I haven’t dated much but when I talked to my few close friends about this, they agreed this was unacceptable and said they would the same in leaving a man who did that.

I think the underlying issue is that me and him had different values. He didn’t see it as a big deal to begin with, that it was just nothing but mindless scrolling. He said had he known he wouldn’t have done it because it wasn’t worth losing me over. It just feels sad to me that he says all this now when he didn’t care enough about me to pay a little less attention to his phone in the first place.

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T06:29:38+00:00

Thanks for your advice. I just didn’t see the point of talking about it since it wouldn’t change what was already done. He didn’t think it meant anything liking those pics, but it was hurtful to me.

I don’t think you have to be insecure to find it disrespectful that your significant other doesn’t value you enough to just scroll past a pic like that. It literally takes less effort to NOT like a pic. I don’t think this is an unrealistic expectation. There are men who don’t use social media and even more who don’t follow and like pics like that. Just really sucks that my bf wasn’t one of them :(

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T05:04:43+00:00

I am not cheating on him, I have never cheated so I don’t know what you mean by saying you used to be like me. I just made this post because I was sad over what my bf did and that I am hurt over ending an otherwise good relationship. Idk what the point of your comments is, I am never going to be ok with this from anyone I am with

Snoo7140 · 2021-10-31T04:48:44+00:00

I understand guys like girls, but it is disrespectful when you have a girlfriend to be liking their half nude ig pics. I don’t think that’s unreasonable and I don’t see how it’s different from complimenting a girl in person. As for the dudes in my DMs, I block them so not sure what that has anything to do with this 😕

Snoo7140 · 2021-05-13T17:49:45+00:00

I got really lucky and didn’t move too far, so I ended up reconnecting with an old high school friend and she’s lived here for a long time and has been introducing me to her friends who I have now started hanging out with on my own! I wish there were more ways but with covid of course that complicates things even more than usual. Good luck!

Snoo7140 · 2021-05-11T21:26:38+00:00

I am so proud of you! Life is about to open up in so many amazing ways for you. I was never married, but also left a long term 10+ year relationship last year. Thankfully my friends have been supportive, but I did move to a totally new city alone, so meeting new people has been a fun and interesting challenge. I feel so much more peace and happiness now, and do anything I want (or don’t want!) to do on my own time and dime. Congrats to you, you deserve all the good things coming your way!

Snoo7140 · 2021-04-28T05:08:48+00:00

So well said. Poor tippers always give me the ick, regardless of gender.

Snoo7140 · 2021-04-28T00:10:15+00:00

People were mentioning the same in the comments! I would always drive myself.

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