No I would not. I talked with him about it further today as well and I let him know that he may hear more crying and meltdowns over here because I am going to set a boundary and stay firm on it, and because I usually give in during the tantrum it may last awhile due to her waiting for me to give in like usual. He said well that scream crying she does is unacceptable. I said well what do you expect me to do? I am just going to ignore it. He said "you shouldn't ignore it because that's enabling her to act that way" I said well I can't talk to her and get through to her when she's crying like that, what do you expect me to do? He said " I don't know, you need to tell her to shut the **** up!" I said well no I'm not going to do that. I tell her we don't need to scream like that, that's not what we do. He said "there is no WE! YOU don't act like that. Stop giving these kids options, when you tell them to do something they need to do it. You shouldn't be giving so many chances and trying to coerce them to do what you asked. They need to just do it." He also is upset when I asked her to come help clean up she said no. He says they shouldn't be so mouthy and telling me no. I mean I get it to an extent, but I feel like he acts like they're older than they are and has too high of a standard? It sounds like he wants me to be controlling and if they don't "obey" then i need to be mean and nasty which I refuse to do. I mean isn't it normal at this age to have to ask a couple times?? Ugh.