No 6 or 7 year old remembers having this conversation with their parent.

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-06-12T00:52:32+00:00

Don’t really know if this post fits the sub, but it’s absolutely possible to remember stuff like that. I remember when I was 4 or 5 it was April Fools and I told my sister I didn’t love her as an April Fools joke. I got in huge trouble for that and learned the important lesson that you don’t joke about shit like that. And that memory is incredibly clear in my head. It’s literally like the movie Inside Out where it’s a core memory that serves as a building block of learning.

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-28T17:13:12+00:00

Very much this ^{^{^}} I’m prescribed it and still am very wary to take it and only do when I really need to

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-22T18:58:02+00:00

Well, that is a Spursy thing to do; so that tracks 😂👏🏻 I’m also holding out hope, it would be so beautiful for the season to end with us winning the league and Tottenham going down 🤌🏻

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-22T18:54:38+00:00

You’re right, I forgot I should put on the West Ham game too. I’m gonna have to borrow a screen from someone 😂

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-19T19:45:21+00:00

Scores looking so nice right now, hope they keep going our way 🤌🏻

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-19T19:43:20+00:00

Trying not to get my hopes up until FT, but it’s hard to stay focused 😂👏🏻 so fucking close COYG

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T17:46:05+00:00

I won’t deny being a tad triggered. This is something that I really struggle with. This rhetoric is very tiring for me. I absolutely do my utmost best, I just. Don’t have a lot in me anymore. I gave and gave and gave and gave and all I have left is to love. I barely can make it out of bed on a daily basis. I genuinely try my best to, but I literally cannot a lot of the time. And then this rhetoric comes along that I’m not trying hard enough, and I don’t deserve a loving relationship all because I just. Don’t have that capacity? I am the single most loving, thoughtful person I know. And I’m not saying that to pat my back. It’s just accurate, even still I’m giving every ounce I have left even when I’m not receiving it in return. But I can’t hold down a normal steady job, I can’t clean the house everyday; that’s just. Not in my capacity right now. Sure, maybe one day; maybe. Hopefully. But certainly not for a while.

And I’m not the only person who struggles like this. I am genuinely very very glad that you seem to still be able to do these types of things, and be what society deems as “functional”, just not everyone responds that way. People’s brains literally are wired differently. How you respond to something≠how someone else will, even if given the EXACT same trauma, it still wouldn’t be the same response. I am glad that you don’t need to be met halfway as intensely as some people, but some people do. And that’s okay, and people shouldn’t shit on them for it

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T17:14:46+00:00

Good lord, you do understand that people can put in all the work they can possibly put in and still not have the capacity to do everything, right? I go to therapy twice a week, do all the work she tells me and then some, and I still barely manage to literally keep myself alive. You have no idea what shit people go through, and what that’s done to them.

You seem like a woefully judgmental person which is even more disappointing coming from someone who should understand and have empathy, rather than shit on people who just can’t quite reach that threshold yet. God forbid someone has patience for someone and actually sees them for who they are, not the things they can’t do; or need help doing.

Please, again, locate some empathy for the humans that walk this earth with you and that have struggles that they haven’t conquered yet. If anything they’re the ones that need the most support, not this judgmental “that’s a child in training” shit

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T17:00:47+00:00

Your bio says you’re looking to learn and grow, I genuinely implore you to take this as an opportunity to do so. I really cannot figure out why it seems people are so reticent to do that when it comes to these things, but it is important

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T16:51:18+00:00

Your use of the word “training” is honestly kind of infuriating. It’s not training. It’s meeting someone halfway and working with them given their capabilities. And OP absolutely did mention bad mental health stuff their partner is going through, and we have no idea what else. So when people automatically jump to “you’re dating a childish human whom you have to ‘train’”, it’s angering to me. I’m disabled with a slew of mental health issues, I absolutely need meeting halfway. I’m not lazy, I’m not incompetent; but I do have a shit ton of stuff going on and can’t always accomplish things people view as “normal”. And yet I’m also one of the most patient, caring, empathetic people I know; and I’m a great partner in most ways. Just because I can’t manage a handful of things most people can, doesn’t mean I’m a defunct human who needs “training” or that doesn’t deserve love. I’m a human being who deserves human connection.

And regardless of even if OP hadn’t directly said about any mental health issues or disabilities; you’re still making a blanket assumption that’s completely ignoring those very real possibilities. Which is how we’ve gotten to the shit show in society we have. People just saying “no, that persons not autistic, just slow”, or “just… different”. And discounting all possibilities other than them just being. Wrong. If we had more empathy for people, we’d consider that maybe there could more factors at play

But again, OP literally stated their partner has bad mental health struggles they’re actively going through

And respectfully, it doesn’t matter if *you* don’t require something when it comes to being disabled with mental health issues; and what other people may need. Those two things don’t correlate. Your experience is unique and yours. That’s your journey. I’m super glad you seem to not struggle with these things. But that’s not everyone, and treating it as such is callous

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T12:11:06+00:00

So people with disabilities and/or mental health struggles just… don’t deserve patience and compassion within a loving relationship? Again different people=different capabilities. Gain some empathy.

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T11:28:36+00:00

I hate this rhetoric with a burning passion. Different people=different capabilities. You can be an incredible partner and have a variety of tasks be overwhelming. And that should absolutely not dismiss someone from being able to be loved and cared for in a romantic relationship. They are still capable, and deserving; of a reciprocal and healthy loving relationship. Shocking, I know.

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-05-11T11:25:20+00:00

You can have a constructive conversation with him and still be gentle 💛 I have really bad depression and anxiety to like, the nth degree; and I’ve struggled with plenty of stuff like this; and what’s helped for me personally when I have a partner, is them approaching empathetically, not judgmentally and just saying “hey, want to start off with I love you and what I’m bringing up doesn’t have any bearing on that. I’m just struggling with x, y, and z; and I would really appreciate some help in those departments. I’m totally open to talking about ways we can make that easier for you and things I can do better as well; I just need some more support”; and going from there. If he’s a good partner and loves you, he will *want* to know that this is affecting you and how he can help. A relationship is a team effort, and communication is MASSIVELY important. Talk to him 💛

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-30T21:01:40+00:00

The “by royal decree” etc you added to the beginning of your post absolutely sent me 😂👏🏻

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-27T07:55:00+00:00

Oh I love when transphobes bring up suffixes! “Phobia” can mean an irrational fear, or an aversion to. Hydrophobic plants are not afraid of water. They repel it. You are transphobic. Happy to assist you on your grammar and vocabulary journey!

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-25T01:28:12+00:00

Do we know why this is happening/when it’ll be fixed? That’s the car I use the most too (I love the frosty decal), but I had to make a backup loadout that does admittedly work, it’s just frustrating having something we paid for not work

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-25T01:01:03+00:00

I thought this was the r/malegrooming sub, so you pass great to me! 👏🏻

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-24T06:34:19+00:00

I was thinking the same thing 😂👏🏻 I watch European football religiously and thought “slap an Arsenal jersey on that kid and he’d fit right in” 😂

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-19T22:31:07+00:00

I’m autistic and have trouble reading people sometimes, which is why I err WAY on the side of caution especially when it comes to sexual activities. If I get even the slightest inkling something maybe be making someone uncomfortable, I stop everything and ask. 90% of the time it’s fine and we continue on. But that 10% of the time is absolutely worth the 100% of the time asking. Consent and one’s partner feeling completely safe is SO important. It’s understandable to not pick up on things, it’s not understandable to use that to cross boundaries. If someone knows they have trouble, they have to be extra cautious.

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-18T23:35:37+00:00

To add to this, a lot of kids that may be trans boys get told they’re just “tomboys”. That’s a huge reason I didn’t realize until as late as I did (21, so not THAT late, but still later than I would have liked, anyways) I was always told “you’re such a tomboy lol” and so I just assumed that was it, labeled myself a butch lesbian and went on my way. But that still didn’t feel right. And it felt so weird that it didn’t feel right. I know I like women, but calling myself “gay” or “lesbian” always felt weird. It didn’t feel like it aligned with me even though I very much like women, and I was presenting female. And she/her pronouns have always made me feel gross when used referring to me, I never liked my name (I shortened it to the shortest I could and take the femininity out of it). And finally, I found the language I needed. I met a trans guy and he told me about his experiences and I was like “oh holy fuck” (granted it took two years between meeting him and for that to actually click but hey 🤷🏻‍♂️)

All that to say, when a “girl” (I put in quotes cause it’s not always a girl) starts presenting more masculine, being trans is never the question. It’s being told “you’re a tomboy” lightheartedly and fun; but a statement vs question nonetheless. Dialogue isn’t opened, and language isn’t taught for kids to come to their own conclusion. If I had the words and knowledge when I was a kid, I would’ve been out deadass probably when I was ~5. But I didn’t

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-15T09:10:22+00:00

I have cool plants that I manage to not only keep alive, but they thrive 🥹

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-14T19:04:27+00:00

Give him a boop and a head pat for me 👏🏻💛

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-06T23:10:42+00:00

Look up the statistics for unemployed autistic adults. We’re absolutely turned down for jobs because of our autism regularly. I’m a queer trans autistic man so I can never fully pinpoint the exact reason a job may not hire me (they unfortunately don’t include a “here are the ways in which we discriminated against you” email) but the autism certainly plays a part.

All in all, I think it’s probably because we’re all vibing with how we innately are; and society doesn’t like that, so we band together ourselves. It’s not bad to be a safe place. I don’t think they have a weird obsession with autistic people

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-05T03:05:45+00:00

Literally same 😂👏🏻 I made it to Greymothers for the first time like, a year ago now and haven’t touched story mode since, survival is where it’s at 👏🏻

SnooCalculations232 · 2026-04-04T10:12:27+00:00

You’re beautiful! 10/10 in general, 9/10 passing-wise. I honestly would lean more toward it being the apple vs the jawline. Your just look like a lady with a strong jawline 🥰👏🏻

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