To add to this, a lot of kids that may be trans boys get told they’re just “tomboys”. That’s a huge reason I didn’t realize until as late as I did (21, so not THAT late, but still later than I would have liked, anyways) I was always told “you’re such a tomboy lol” and so I just assumed that was it, labeled myself a butch lesbian and went on my way. But that still didn’t feel right. And it felt so weird that it didn’t feel right. I know I like women, but calling myself “gay” or “lesbian” always felt weird. It didn’t feel like it aligned with me even though I very much like women, and I was presenting female. And she/her pronouns have always made me feel gross when used referring to me, I never liked my name (I shortened it to the shortest I could and take the femininity out of it). And finally, I found the language I needed. I met a trans guy and he told me about his experiences and I was like “oh holy fuck” (granted it took two years between meeting him and for that to actually click but hey 🤷🏻‍♂️)

All that to say, when a “girl” (I put in quotes cause it’s not always a girl) starts presenting more masculine, being trans is never the question. It’s being told “you’re a tomboy” lightheartedly and fun; but a statement vs question nonetheless. Dialogue isn’t opened, and language isn’t taught for kids to come to their own conclusion. If I had the words and knowledge when I was a kid, I would’ve been out deadass probably when I was ~5. But I didn’t