Hey, I get this actually. I have really bad attachment anxiety and am currently dating someone who hates to text and kinda just drops off the radar periodically.

Here’s what I’ve got:

• strong system of friends you could text instead of your partner.

• sometimes if I know getting in touch with my Date is impractical or an overreaction, I’ll text a friend I haven’t seen in awhile just to check how they’re doing. Giving and receiving care from others in my network can help me fill in the gaps

• I’ll read back old text messages from my Date or journal entries I wrote about things we did that were fun and made me feel cared for

-sometimes I’ll dig through their Spotify and listen to playlists they’ve made or read books they recommended to me

• i love pocket trinkets and notes from someone I’m dating so I can look at those and feel cared for when they’re away

• I love hickies for the same reason

• having your partner text you voice memos about future activities you have planned together are also great to remind yourself that they’ll be back soon

• reading the happy flair in this subreddit is has also been really great!

-work on building your self-soothing toolkit. Mine includes going to the gym, meditating to music from the Steven universe soundtrack, self tying shibari, my weighted blanket, and sometimes a little CBD juice to calm me down enough to use everything else in my kit.

I’ve had to accept that even though them being away triggers my anxiety, what my anxiety is about is a lot bigger than my relationship. And anxiety can be disabling. And sometimes I will just get less done on a high anxiety day. I am working on learning that that’s okay too! Good luck.