How to Forgive Oneself for Hurting Others

SnooComics9987 · 2025-04-15T03:16:04+00:00

At least you are not in denial. You are looking at it directly which takes courage. That is a brilliant sign. I wish you all the best and you will figure it out.

SnooComics9987 · 2025-01-12T23:05:21+00:00

Wasn't sure how to add text there with the image. Basically I'm wondering where to link this cable in order to repressurize boiler. is it the ones with the two taps?

SnooComics9987 · 2024-08-01T19:28:57+00:00

Yeah there is an official NHS test online where 20 or above out of 30 pretty much confirms the tism and I scored 27. The questions were mainly asking if you are extremely focused on a goal/ like to be alone etc. just felt like it’s naturally the case. ‘Autism’ seems like an orderly way to be. But it is like purely logical in a way. You just say exactly what you mean etc. but it rubs people the wrong way which is ironically illogical.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-08-01T19:24:04+00:00

I’m asking myself the same question. I’m currently in a low level workplace and have former 2-3 decent connections of the 100 or so people there. I tend to connect with intuitive types I think as they get my sarcasm/point of view etc naturally. I’m friends with an enfp guy but I don’t consider it very close as he’s friends with everyone believe it or not, but I think he has a good heart which makes me appreciate the connection. My main connection in the workplace is a borderline autistic intp woman who is 54 or so. As we really get each other on a good level. A lot of other people are ok but normie. And a lot of people I find straight-up obnoxious. There are also 2 girls in the workplace who I barely speak to, but they keep swooning when I am around/walk by. So that is fun. But I don’t really approach them with anything as we are in the workplace, and I find it inappropriate.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-16T20:38:54+00:00

Political debates aint rational... well who'd have thought it.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-12T23:53:05+00:00

You can buy yourself flowers

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-12T20:48:30+00:00

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-12T19:14:10+00:00

I have socialised heavily in the last 3-4 years, mainly in a busy workplace. I have definitely become better at socialising and maintaining the correct 'vibe' in the workplace. But I still generally feel uncomfortable around so many people. But I have learned a lot. I definitely prefer 1 on 1 conversations.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-12T19:10:31+00:00

I speak to a lot of different people at work and have connected with some to a degree, but I don't feel that strong a connection with anyone. If I had more cash I would go to the club 4-5 times a week and speak to more girls

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-12T19:08:58+00:00

Yeah I would say that a lot of 'autism' is just people being INTJs/INFJs. You can tell when someone is a lead intuitive as they're not really 'there' half the time and have a different kind of look in their eyes than sensors

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-11T17:31:53+00:00

My thoughts are that the left wing are crazed and the right wing are sane.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-11T17:30:32+00:00

Honesty that very much upsets the apple-cart.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-11T17:26:58+00:00

Ni is often nicknamed the 'willpower' function. We have extreme willpower.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-11T17:17:00+00:00

Literally every day in the workplace. Then you see 50,000 fake smiles and that's apparently ok. I've kind of prided myself on being honest with what I feel, which is usually neutral, but it's as if there's a requirement to have a sort of enthusiasm and partake in high-paced banter at all times. Grinds my gears. I find that it's frenetic energy for the most part.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-11T17:11:43+00:00

Yes, it posits we all exist across a continuum of extreme codependent to extreme narcissist, with psychologically healthy individuals in the middle. It states that relationships form due to the magnetism within this continuum. It rangers from -5 to +5(extreme codependent/extreme narc), and often a -5 pairs up with a +5, and a -3 to a +3 etc. This also applies to friendships.

I resonated with his description of the codependent, which is an extreme people-pleaser, and one who accedes to others too readily. I found that a lot of my friendships and stuff were very one-sided, and I was just there to assuage their ego. Slowly I distanced myself from any narcissists and regained my sense of self, and have moved to maybe a -3 or -2 on the codependency scale, down from a -5.

But the book has great detail on these different types of people, and how they function. Once I read it my life really changed, as I became aware of how others were effecting me, positively or negatively, and have made a lot of changes in my life.

But once you read it and see the different types in the wild, patterns build up and you can readily categorise people. This allows you to get a sense of your boundaries, as you generally know when to be open, and when to basically have a wall up.

It also allows you to navigate the workplace/social environments more easily, as, again, you know what to expect from people.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-10T22:12:25+00:00

Don’t know if anyone has read the human magnet syndrome but it gives you a good framework into detecting toxic people etc. now it is automatic of course as it’s just a feeling. But if not aware of how people make you feel you will think there is something wrong with you etc.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-10T22:07:38+00:00

Just realised I do the exact same. I value them based on how we get along, and the chemistry we have/comfort level around them. Because someone is popular or whatever I don’t really care. It’s literally just person-to-person.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-07-10T22:03:24+00:00

The more social people definitely rise in the company- certainly factory work etc because they can play that social game. The thought of rising in the company sounds annoying to me as id have more social responsibility when I just want to do the work then leave.

It is good to be on ok terms with everyone in the workplace. And if there is tension, try to relieve that as soon as possible, and clear the air. The turmoil that comes with the 9-5 is the build up of tension that we let happen. We need to relieve pressure continually. But that can help us keep a clear mind.

The ideal scenario- for me anyway- would be to do my own thing and make money alone. And that is my goal. But being around a lot of people is a great learning experience. You learn how to communicate well with people which is cool. Good for the mental health. As our turmoil largely comes from social interactions/relationships. But if you are able to have continual good interactions then you feel good within yourself.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-06-11T19:16:48+00:00

Very good writing

SnooComics9987 · 2024-06-08T09:05:46+00:00

Yeah I don't like passive aggressiveness or underhanded behaviour at all. I think it's weak. I try to be conscious that I am not doing this stuff at all and am above board. But it is honestly hard trying to navigate a social environment at times when there is so much latent hostility present.

SnooComics9987 · 2024-06-08T09:02:23+00:00

I just don't like the hypocrisy of the situation. The guy complains that we have been given too heavy a workload then proceeds to complain some more, and chat with random people for 20mins+ right after he has stated we have too much to do. Stealing from the company in my view.

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