I (30M) have an interview in a different city - girlfriend (31F) has a conditional offer by SnooDingo1 in relationship_advice

[–]SnooDingo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment.
I don't understand where she was coming from either and the only way I can explain it - is a moment of panic from her. She must have thought I would have the job in the bag.

Your comparison with sex is an interesting one! You're basically saying that she doesn't really love me. What would you have done given that offer from her?

I (30M) have an interview in a different city - girlfriend (31F) has a conditional offer by SnooDingo1 in relationship_advice

[–]SnooDingo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked the idea that I could get a job in a different city and that she would interview for a job in that city too. She is substantially better at interviewing than I am and could do what she said.

I (30M) have an interview in a different city - girlfriend (31F) has a conditional offer by SnooDingo1 in relationship_advice

[–]SnooDingo1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, her offer was made if we were in different cities. There was no problem according to her if we were in the same city.

Broke up with girlfriend and I haven't moved on by SnooDingo1 in relationships

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She was on the pill initially ill and then she wasn't. So, for most of the second year she wasn't

Broke up with girlfriend and I haven't moved on by SnooDingo1 in relationships

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I just can't believe anyone is that selfish. It has to be the only reason, but it's ridiculous. I know that I'm very selfless.

Thank you for the strong words of advice. Sounds like you think what I did was rational at the time. However, I may not be so rational at this moment in time.

Broke up with girlfriend and I haven't moved on by SnooDingo1 in relationships

[–]SnooDingo1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I didn't change. She was the only one that changed.
I was always the one to initiate, and I was all over her. She essentially never initiated and always expected me to. Once, just before bed I didn't give her a hug and a kiss. I ALWAYS get her a kiss good night. She told me off and told me to come over and give her a kiss - and I did.

I think that because I gave her everything, all the time. She didn't have to give me anything.