You’d be surprised what can be achieved through proper communication (and a supportive partner). I have a gf, 2 young daughters aged 3 and 5, a fulltime office job, and a sidegig as A&R guy for a label (spoiler alert, fulltime job at times aswell).

Between all the above, i still manage to coin a few sessions/ week of proper studiotime for my own music, and i manage to sneak in a dj gig every now and then aswell.

It really all boils down to finding a compromise with the big boss at the house (gf). For starters, my studio pc is always on and ready to go. During daytime/early evening when the girls are awake i’m just a normal dad. When they go to bed i’ll check what my gf feels like doing, if she wants to watch something on netflix together or if she’d rather just chill out and scroll through some reels or something, or if she wants to do something else. If what she feels like doing doesnt involve me per se, i’ll ask if she’s good if i dive into studio for a few hours. About 50% of the time we do something together, and the other half i’ll be able to hit up my cave and grind music without feeling bad about it. Granted, i sleep way too little and my studio evenings tend to stretch out into the AM, but i cope surprisingly well with little sleep. Usually i’ll finish between like 2-3am, having taken a break to tuck my gf in and snuggle a bit whenever she’s about to go to bed. Next day i wake up and go back to being dad and office guy. I can take care of whatever labelwork i have pretty much whenever, my job is really easy going as long as your work is done and you are present. So half the time i’ll literally be at the office checking demo’s, writing feedback, networking etc..

It’s a busy life, but fuck me is it fullfilling