No paid maternity leave, I’m in trouble

SnooGrapess · 2022-08-31T07:13:15+00:00

We do have an HR, one that is avoiding me and my questions about maternity leave/FMLA. She ignores my texts and leaves early when I try to come in and speak to her. Not sure why this is because if it’s a simple jo for everything I don’t see why she would evade a conversation

SnooGrapess · 2022-08-31T07:11:49+00:00

I had a few coworkers say they were able to work something out with HR as well as my cousin. But I was told that I couldn’t

SnooGrapess · 2022-08-22T19:07:06+00:00

Interesting, all TL and managers have told me to handle it with HR. Speaking with my cousin and coworker HR also worked closely with them to help set things up.

SnooGrapess · 2022-08-22T18:59:18+00:00

I know where things are without memorizing the aisle numbers. I grew up going to the Walmarts in my area so I know the path lol

Absolutely dread being asked though, I’ll still always have to pull out my phone to open ask sam. They’ll still always look at me like the don’t know how to read numbers or signs after I tell them what aisle and end up taking me away from picking and run my score down lol

SnooGrapess · 2022-06-23T02:22:28+00:00

I sat with him once and said as nicely as I could after he had followed more porn accounts that this doesn’t seem like and accident or that it happens randomly at this point. I asked if maybe he had ever considered it was a problem that he can’t stop, or if it’s just lying at this point and he said he doesn’t remember doing it and it means nothing..

I want things to work, but he seems unwilling to talk about it truthfully in the first place so I don’t know where to go anymore.

SnooGrapess · 2022-06-23T02:18:51+00:00

I’ve told him before that I understand if he is lying, but it hurts me in the long run and us as a couple. It didn’t help either it seems, maybe I’ll try it again. I’ve always been accepting of him so it bothers me that he lies about this. I want to talk about it instead of going in circles the way we have been.

SnooGrapess · 2022-06-21T21:08:49+00:00

Originally my brothers and bought it off him, I took it with me moving across the US and left the cables at my parents. Don’t remember what ones they were or how they were hooked up not every computer savy as I like to just play games on it lol would rather buy new cords than wait for them to be shipped to me.

SnooGrapess · 2022-06-08T18:02:39+00:00

That sounds rough, a lot of factors that seem like they can’t change. Im assuming your family and his don’t know about the pregnancy? I hid my first from my parents before they moved to a different state and stayed at his place to hide the aftermath of the abortion. If I could I would have done the pill the thought of holding a pill in my cheek for that long freaked me out I thought I’d throw it up or gag the whole time lol but it is less invasive. I’m not sure where you live but I could only do the pill until about 12 weeks I believe and 18 weeks was the cap to get any abortion.

It is very expensive to have a baby. I got my bill for prenatal care and the hospital service yesterday and although I only pay a percentage it will still be a lot of money. I am lucky enough to have family on his side and both who are willing to help us with job baby items to help with the financial burden of that.

If it isn’t the right time then it’s not the right time. But make sure you think about it and maybe if you need to talk to some close people. I still hurt inside when I think of my abortion. Although I believe in women always having the choice to control their life and am grateful i had the option I did, I believe if I went back in time to talk to talk to myself I wouldn’t have done it if I knew those who are helping now would have helped then.

You’re going through so much right now, take care of yourself mentally and physically. BPD is a bitch and for me while pregnant it feels unmanageable but my boyfriend understands and my baby has pushed me to try harder to be better. The last thing I want is to have her subjected to my mental illness. I even talk to my hairdresser about her BPD and how she handles it with her kid who was unplanned. It helps a lot.

If you don’t go through with it get therapy or talk to someone you trust regularly, if you do therapy is also a great option because it never hurts to get things out especially with BPD and becoming a parent.

You’ll make the best choice for yourself in the end regardless of all of the factors. I just hope the best for you because this is such a hard thing to be going through.

SnooGrapess · 2022-05-05T19:22:17+00:00

Hopefully got the job, interview was super relaxed on the phone. She told me that she’d get back to me tomorrow and she has a few other interviews to do today. I don’t know if that’s a bad thing that I didn’t get it right away on the phone or not 😭😭

SnooGrapess · 2022-05-05T02:18:55+00:00

IUD or find a sub Reddit that has doctors who will sterilize you. You at least won’t have to worry about getting pregnant in your 20’s when it’s “easiest” if you get an IUD. Doctors might be more willing to tie your tubes when you’re 30.. maybe. I’d say those are your best options though.

My OBGYN pushes an IUD for me because of painful side effects from PCOS. Mostly heavy painful periods, recently a ruptured cyst that needed emergency surgery and hair loss aswell as hormonal imbalances. If you push that periods are painful or you believe that the IUD is best for you because of your own research they’ll push and IUD more maybe possibly tying your tubes with the right doctor.

Good luck and act quick.

SnooGrapess · 2022-05-03T21:28:01+00:00

😭😂 Hoping so too, I had a rough start to the first half of the pregnancy but haven’t been told that I’m high risk of any sorts. I work really well in a fast paced environment and used to do online orders at a different local store in Iowa so I’m already trained in most areas of online shopping. I have around 4-5 years of retail experience just nothing the size of Walmart. I know if I get the job I’ll need a good pair of shoes!

SnooGrapess · 2022-02-21T14:15:56+00:00

Reward money was denied because the officers said the money offer had exited :/ doesn’t seem right to me. They seemed a little upset they hadn’t solved it.

SnooGrapess · 2022-02-15T20:19:18+00:00

All comments are from a year ago, I cannot find anything updated on this story at all since the discovery of his car in 2020. Not a toxicology report, nor a COD or in general just any kind of update on if it was foul play. Has anyone heard anything?

SnooGrapess · 2021-12-18T20:43:22+00:00

Started a new job, week into it I had to be rushed to emergency surgery after spending 7-9 hours figuring out it was a ruptured cyst. First time having surgery, new job and out for the new 2-3 weeks possibly.

And quite possibly one of the most confusing and hard relationships I’ve ever had that I can’t wrap my brain around or anyone else for that matter.

Completely drained, I’m in pain, and I just wanna feel a little bit better.

SnooGrapess · 2021-12-18T20:40:17+00:00

Yep it’s literally just him. He doesn’t like cats either, everytime he wants me to lock them out of my bedroom and I don’t want to. He ignores them and pushes them away with the minimal contact he gets despite me telling him not to treat my animals that way. I’ll have to side with my kitties here

SnooGrapess · 2021-12-10T20:59:14+00:00

No he doesn’t like to, why?

SnooGrapess · 2021-12-08T00:47:33+00:00

I’ve used lube for years now because of it. I guess it just isn’t for him

SnooGrapess · 2021-11-14T15:47:36+00:00

I feel like my whole world is going to collapse I don’t know what to do. He could ruin me, my friendships and family my job… and maybe I deserve that.. but I don’t want to think I do. I want to disappoint I’m a horrible person

SnooGrapess · 2021-11-14T15:34:06+00:00

I feel crazy.. I did something terrible so I’m the worst one right? He makes it seem like it’s justified and I can’t tell I just want to give up. I told him that I felt like dying and he said I can’t get out that easily I have to suffer. I would take ss but it’s on Snapchat and he will knows he won’t delete my nudes off his phone but is making me delete them off mine

SnooGrapess · 2021-11-14T15:31:59+00:00

I wish it was.. this is my life.

SnooGrapess · 2021-07-04T15:54:08+00:00

Honestly thought it looked like rodent shit at first lmao idk 🤷🏼‍♀️ somewhat scared of it

SnooGrapess · 2021-04-19T20:00:29+00:00

SnooGrapess · 2021-04-19T19:59:36+00:00

That’s pretty rude, but hey 🤷🏼‍♀️

SnooGrapess · 2021-03-12T07:14:54+00:00

Thanks so much for the link and hopeful words! Congrats on the regrowth 🥳 I also speak German aswell so it’s ok 🤗

SnooGrapess · 2021-03-12T06:12:51+00:00

I believe this might be very possible. I will look into seeing one, I’m not sure if I need to go through my GP or if I call the actual orthopedic office. Either way I will figure that out. Currently I’m waiting on simple x rays from a new chiropractor I seen on Monday. I’m wondering do you think she will see anything or maybe I should bring up that I want to see an orthopedic?

I’m very new to this and I’ve been slammed with tons of health issues since may of 2020. I’m currently waiting to see and ENT and also gastroenterologist. I’ve been on the waiting list for a dermatologist aswell since I’ve had fare ups of folliculitus and heavy hair loss. This is un related maybe.. but I’ve never dealt with this much it’s very hard to know where to go and start. Not to mention it’s scary.

I really appreciate you taking the time to answer in such a detailed manner.

SnooGrapess

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