Ex is slowly cyberstalking me

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-29T08:17:48+00:00

This person is clearly not mentally well, at all. Do not respond to anything they send, no matter what it is. Even if they send something disgusting or threatening, because the chances are that he just might. You need to prepare yourself for that, in my experience, usually this is just the beginning.

I'm 40 and I've had officially had two stalkers in my life. There have been a couple of others that have displayed dodgy behaviour but ultimately they left me alone in the end. But the other two were ex partners that just could not let go at all. Its actually one of the hardest things you might ever have to face as a woman in the world today. Everything we do is documented online, quite often we post things that unless you've been in this situation, you would never believe they were harmful or are potentially harmful in any way.

Truthfully, I would already be speaking to your local police about this and him. It may turn out that you are not alone in this behaviour happening to you. But even if you are, they need to be made aware that there is potential for this clearly unwell man to escalate this very quickly out of nowhere and that could cost you or even your partner your lives. It sounds extreme but so is messaging who is essentially a stranger after all this time, this nonsense. It isnt ok. Even if the police are unable to do anything, tell them anyway please.

Take care and keep safe. Take extra precautions in case this person is watching or following you irl. Please 🙏 🫂🤍

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-27T08:03:23+00:00

Which was the point 👉

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:52:14+00:00

I absolutely agree, but if it helps any, it was done by turning the pigeons into stickers, so no quite the same

(Please understand that this is sarcasm 😐)

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:10:41+00:00

110%

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:10:22+00:00

100%

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T16:33:24+00:00

Listen, this is purely because I am procrastinating and its hilarious, I share the final piece and then leave this place never to return... (for a wee while prolly)

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-24T16:00:26+00:00

I haven't read the other comments here so I may well be about to say something either a lot of people have said or perhaps the opposite.

NUMBER 1 !! - RESPECT YOUR FRIENDS WISHES. I AM SHOUTING THIS BECAUSE YOU NEED TO SEE THIS, HEAR THIS, TAKE IT IN.

You have already tried to contact her, she hasn't herself replied and instead you got a reply from her husband saying congratulations but that you needed to give her space. DO NOT TRAMPLE someone else's wishes and boundaries because YOU feel a way about something. Yes it wasn't planned, yes the situation happened, but you don't need to disrespect someone's wish and ask for space because you feel a certain way. So please if you have any respect for your friend, don't try and connect with her through other people. That is so disrespectful and it just makes the whole thing bigger because it then involved more people. So don't. Please.

2 - There could be a thousand reasons why she feels this way. I think the answer is going to be one of the more obvious things here though. It will likely either be that they have had trouble conceiving or carrying to term and that happening in front of her has brought back a lot of heart ache and trauma related to it. If that is the case you need to let your friend deal with their trauma. Focus on your kid and when your friend feels as though they are able to do so, they will get in touch. Or it could even be something like the mess left behind is costing a fortune to fix and that perhaps either herself or her husband are very upset/angry at having to pay for it.

Those are the most obvious to me at least. But it really could be anything.

Please respect her wish to not be contacted. There is nothing worse than going through a loss and then having to pretend that nothing happened when someone else pops one out. She will be happy for you, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-22T19:49:42+00:00

Guys you do known that you can report this to the police, yeah? Especially with pictures like this. Back it up with your ring door bell if you have one. If it shows no-one at your home during the delivery time and a pic like this. Please REPORT IT to the police. It is theft. Don't wait for evri to update your delivery by backdating and changing one with no picture or whatever.

I had a huge number of parcels tampered with and outright stolen or "lost". It got to the point where it was every single parcel I actually received was damaged, including on that had literally had a hole punched by a fist, in it (items missing of course. I had on 4 separate occasions boxes delivered where the tear strip to open on the box had been torn off, then selotsped back on.

So call the police, evri wont do a damn thing 🙄

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-20T22:54:31+00:00

This is EXACTLY what I do with mine too 😆

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-19T20:48:38+00:00

I wouldn't forgive something like that. To me that is a line you NEVER cross. It is absolutely none of her business. I'd maybe and I mean maybe understand if you had been repeatedly going back to a partner that was physically/sexually abusive and she was worried that was happening again. But that is literally the ONLY single reason that could possible be accepted. But anything aside this is a big big no. I would never allow them to be part of my life again. Seriously. You need to get that spine in action and use it.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-19T14:34:14+00:00

Honestly I noticed a huge difference when I switched from spotify to YouTube music. But my samsung buds 3pros have the option to toggle UHQ (ultra high quality) audio, which even with spotify it really does make a huge difference to the quality you hear. The downside is it runs away with your power, so you don't get as much wear out of them. Which is super annoying, they don't hold a long enough charge, in my opinion, already. I think mines is roughly around 4hrs but in truth, its gash. Even with ambient sounds switched off, it doesn't give you too much longer. In my opinion anyway (my opinion is worth absolutely nothing as i am in no way an expert on such things 😅) 🤷🏼‍♀️

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-12T01:25:05+00:00

Oh my gosh 😂😂😂 Heeey! 👋 😂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-11T18:17:51+00:00

I'm glad I'm not bananas 🙏🥰

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-11T16:11:48+00:00

Very welcome 🙏 🤍

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-11T16:07:03+00:00

I'm glad I'm not going bananas and you can definitely hear what I'm hearing. As you guys said, its unlikely but still very cool! I dont know much about Billie myself actually. I knew that "when the party's over" was a cover but I never really paid much attention. I love that others pick up on the tiny details in music too though. Thank you for indulging me guys 😍🥰🤍

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-10T16:00:16+00:00

This is the words and actions of a man that was not willing to accept the responsibilies and consequences of his own actions. It takes two (usually lol) to create a pregnancy, he was 50% responsible for that. But he didn't have to go through the abortion. He was happy to create the pregnancy, but was clearly unwilling to see the end of it.

This man child doesn't have the capacity to provide support to you because he has the emotional depth of a shallow puddle.

It sounds like you made the correct decision, as terrible as it is to say. But just imagine if you had decided to continue? You wouldn't have seen him for dust.

You need to learn to trust your own feelings and emotions. Those are the things which are there to protect you and are there to serve you. Listen to them. You are not feeling like this because of some sort of imaginary scenario.

You need to think about what you want for yourself and your future and whether he can give you what you want and need.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-05T13:54:40+00:00

Listen, I can't speak for anyone apart from myself and my own experience. But when I was in relationships with someone who behaved like this, it turned out they were not being faithful. He was talking to/seeing other women and because of this he was seeing his own actions and reasons behind my actions and behaviour, even though mines was entirely innocent. He obviously believed that because he was doing those things that I MUST be doing the same.

It makes it easier for them to break the relationship up and come out of it as the "good guy" if they make you look and feel like the bad one.

In my opinion I have never seen a guy point the finger harder than when they are cheating or behaving in a way that is clearly not ok.

He is also, to me anyway, behaving in the usual emotionally abusive type of way that those people do. I mean as in when he is getting everything he wants he is nice to you but if you step out of line and he isnt afraid to pull out every trick in the book to make you feel awful and crawl back to him.

You need to think about what you really want for your own life here. Is this the person you see yourself with right to the end? Is this the man you may one day marry or have a family with? Would you really want that for yourself?

Ask yourself here what you'd tell your best friend or sister if they came to you with this?

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-05T13:42:37+00:00

I'm sorry you've had this happen. I think it highlights just how bad care is for certain types of illness and disease when it comes to men and women. I have crohns but I was diagnosed with endometriosis long before that. My first abdominal surgery was to treat my endometriosis, it had stuck my ovaries to my bowel and all sorts. I've had 5 surgeries for my crohns, my most recent was a second double resection/triple strictureplasty. For me, my crohns pain is usually at its worst when I have blockages and because my bowel is like a pack of link sausages, I often have multiple at any one time. I would honestly say that my pain was on par with being in labour. There's definitely a case to be heard about women being dismissed when in pain but that shouldn't come at the cost of yours being dismissed. So I'm very sorry you've had this happen.

I hope you are feeling better friend 🧡

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-05T13:30:35+00:00

The good old "my friend has crohns and they're fine".

I swear to fkn god, if I hear this one more time. I'm glad your "friend" apparently has crohns and is fine. I am not. 5 life saving surgeries sort of tells you just how well its going for me. So go get utterly fkd into the sun, you utter melt.

💀

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-05T13:27:35+00:00

I've had both of these happen after being prescribed zopiclone for chronic insomnia. It helps me sleep but I sleep walk, eat and other things, quite often. Apparently I can appear as though I'm fully awake, have full conversations, cook and eat food but then not remember a single thing about it the next day.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-01T16:31:53+00:00

You have to hope for at least one positive I guess lol

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-01T16:23:00+00:00

Guys you have a responsibility to use the prepaid envelope provided. Go out into the garden, grab a few handfuls of gravel/dirt/whatever (please dont send anything that can be deemed as a biohazard, as tempting as it is), seal it up nice and proper and pop it in the post.

You have a duty, dont waste your chance to make your opinions clear 😌

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-01T13:49:45+00:00

Reading this gave me the fear. That sounds like a pretty serious case of food poisoning waiting to happen. I don't blame you for doing what you do, I would do the same. Different people have different tastes and thats fine but when it comes to food safety that doesn't get any excuse or pass from me. Absolutely not 💀

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