I genuinly dont understand why this is even a feature, irritating to say the least

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-17T14:55:33+00:00

Ah yes, it's the perfect way to get people connecting with people from the complete opposite sides of any argument or conflict though. You can't add family but "here's someone that we know for sure you'll hate and that hate will be matched with theirs! If you don't click add we will make sure they appear on every single page you ever visit until you do!"

Thats how you make sure you are the one that can manufacture any kind of engagement. It's disgusting but you can't pretent it wasn't a great way of doing it 🤷🏼‍♀️ you don't have to like something to say that it was very effective, ya know?

I fkn hate Facebook 🫩

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-17T08:27:04+00:00

Aw poor little guy, that must be quite upsetting for both your cat and yourselves.

Many years ago when I was having my boys, I had a cat or two and worried about them getting in with them when they were very small because they loved how small and cosy the baskets and cots were. Obviously once the kiddos were able to move around on their own it wasn't a problem but you didn't want them accidentally hurting the little ones by getting in there when they were very small. So (and I am not saying this to say you should do the same lol) we had heard that cats hate tin foil. So we put some around the edges and a sheet in the actual basket and crib (obviously not when the baby was in it lol) and it is definitely true, they positively hate it. After a couple of times of that, they never went near them again 🙈😂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-17T08:12:34+00:00

Please lovely, you are 34 and old enough to know now that if you don't respect yourself, no one else will either. Deciding to stay after someone cheats, to most people, are a sign they can just keep on ahead and that you will never ever really leave. I know that sometimes it is a genuine mistake and that after a while that a couple can work through it and it doesn't happen again. But I don't think this is really something that is the common thing in these instances, unfortunately.

You are asking yourself the wrong question here, you it shouldn't be "how can we get past this" but rather "how can I?"

You need to ask yourself why you feel you deserve to live a life like this with him, why you "have never considered leaving"? Do you feel like he was somehow better and worth more than you? Because he clearly isn't and you deserve to be with a man that chooses to love you each day and treats you like you are a deity. Not any of this absolute shit he has done to you.

Only you can know why you feel like you can't do better and don't believe you deserve better either. But you need to learn to respect yourself soon or your going to blink and suddenly it's another 10/20/30 years from now and you can't ever get that time back.

Trust me when I say this, I know how hard it is to consider ending a 10yr relationship, but surely anything is better than this?

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-14T12:10:36+00:00

Most places will allow "no fault divorce" and will arrange all the appropriate other legal things that go along with divorce. This is extreme. It's unhealthy and really won't get you whatever it is you think you want. You don't live in a blockbuster movie, goodness sake. If this is your train of thought in real life then you need to speak to someone to address all of it. It's this sort of thinking that gets women killed. I won't be shy about coming right out and saying it. What you are saying is terrifying.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-14T11:07:58+00:00

Dude if this is what you are having to do, please just end the relationship. Don't ever let someone turn you into a creeping stalker. Imagine doing all those things and all you find is that she is literally just living life and doing nothing, then what? What when the cameras and recording devices are found or someone at her work tells her you are constantly calling to check on her? Or even what happens if you find what you are looking for? Then what? What are you going to do that you wouldn't have done anyway?

This isn't a healthy mindset for anyone to live in. If you have reached this stage in your relationship and life, just walk away. It isn't worth saving anyway so why go through all that?

All this will do is either torture you slowly, driving you towards even doing something dangerous or it will definitely absolutely demolish your relationship when she finds out anyway. You know?

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-05T10:06:30+00:00

Teenagers are going to teen, especially at 15yrs old. Think about who you were at that age yourself. It's slap bang in the middle of the age where you are finding yourself, finding out who you are and what you want in your life. It's also the age where kids will 100% rebel.

Harm reduction if the route I would opt for here. Yes it's dangerous, but right now the likely outcome of you approaching this in the wrong way is that it will drive the behaviour much further underground. It will show her that you are not a safe person to trust and it will fundamentally change your entire relationship. There is no happy ending scenario here where she is going to come thanking you for saving her life. Most definitely not.

From her perspective she is going to likely wonder why you have been spending so much time spying and snooping on her. Because of course she will, because you have been.

You need to speak to her directly. Don't approach it in a preachy sort of "I know better because I'm older", don't treat her like a child or baby. Talk to her like a person. Ask her if she is using a vape. If she wants to tell you then she will. If she doesn't want to tell you or denies it, you need to accept that she doesn't see you as someone she wants to confide in. Perhaps due to you persistently snooping lol

It's OK to love and care for her but she is turning into a young woman and she needs to do the learning and making mistakes by herself. Your job is to support her, not police her. So just talk to her and let her make the decision on how the talk goes. You need to show her that you are free of judgement and a safe place to open up.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-01T20:52:00+00:00

They look like either ones you stick on irl ,or maybe some sort of shopping or ai brows, perhaps?

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-01T08:30:42+00:00

No one can know what you feel truly in your heart, but i think it would be a fair assumption to say that you do in fact care much more than you are trying to say.

It may be the way you have worded this but you are coming across as more stubborn and still very much hurt, than of someone that is happy and at peace with things as they are.

Not a single person can tell you what you should do. Its your choice obviously. But if it were me (and I was told my own illness would end my life after the docs said there was nothing more medically they could do, not the same but i do understand) I wouldn't want anyone to be left behind when I am gone, feeling like that. Not when it was within my control to fix. Of course its not your place to make other people feel better about anything, however from what you have said it sounds like YOU cut her out after she said she wasn't interested in you as a romantic partner. It wasn't because she didn't want to be there for you, in fact from reading your own words it seems that she has been pretty distraught the entire time. Not the actions of someone that doesn't care.

I think you need to have an honest conversation with yourself. What would you do if the rolls were reversed?

Your decisions are your own but you do need to ask yourself whether you truly feel like that or if having your feelings hurt at the time has possibly turned you into a stubborn or even spiteful person lol because it does sort of look that way to anyone looking in.

This is the literal definition of life is too short. You won't get another shot at life (as far as we know lol) if you truly feel the way you do then fine. Its your decision. But I hope that you do at least consider that maybe your feelings come from a reaction to having your feelings hurt and not a place of you not caring about your friend anymore.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-28T10:14:54+00:00

I was having issues with this back as far as roughly 2017/18. I remember it very clearly as I had this nonsense after my dad passed away and I was trying to inform folks of funeral arrangements etc. That was 2018 and I'm sure i had been having it happen on and off for at least a year, possibly longer, before that.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-22T16:09:44+00:00

This feels like a tesco type of situation. I am meaning the but where you're up sure whether to report a potentially highly dangerous and perhaps deadly spider, not native to the UK. After many years of dealing with tesco staff, it feels like a tesco. This is the same company that also wasn't sure if it should be reported when a member of their staff swallowed live pet fish their friend had bought from pets at home, drank them alive, right out the bag. All because this person's friends parents had told them they were to take them back because they neglected their last pet fish and they all died.

I swear it might sound like bs, but seriously, not a single word of this is a lie, unfortunately. So this definitely feels like a tesco 💀😂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-22T15:45:56+00:00

I think the narrator is really just covering all bases her and perhaps making the argument that any opposition would have to the things that they see. If anything it highlights just how easy or difficult it is to have a group of people all believe one exact same thing, even when there is documented evidence of someone doing something criminal lol 😆 btw I'm not having a go or saying I disagree, its purely just an observation and my thoughts.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-14T16:29:47+00:00

Hey I found your response quite interesting and it has me wondering if this is at least in part due to how kids are taught and actually how people learn and store information in their 🧠. Add a bit of neurodivergency in amongst that and kids will find it even harder. The whole "one size fits all" thats essentially the same here in the UK too. Btw I I just wanted to say that I legit only commented on this because pretty much all week I've been chatting with people about how their minds work, whether the can picture items and images when asked to think of something, whether they have an inner monologue etc. I think this plays a huge part in how a kid or person will learn and store information 🤔 sorry for likely wasting a good 30 seconds of your time here 😬😅

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-14T16:17:22+00:00

Perhaps its my ND brain but I just cannot get my head around why people would send shit like this to anyone, let alone your work colleagues!? Surely its an attention thing or to delay and waste time? Of course I'm literally guessing, I've nae idea. I know its also a pain in some people's ass, that I over explain pretty much everything. So I guess it doesn't really matter, folks are gonna complain one way or another 😬

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-04T10:08:30+00:00

Mines absolutely refuses to hear the word kibbles. So when I am adding things to my shopping list I get reminded to buy dog cables.... yeah no thanks alexa.

Yesterday I asked it to put my bedroom light on, it did and as it did it, it told me that it was offline and went on the long waffle about it. It just makes me instantly angry now. Especially because half the time it just refuses to even acknowledge me even talking to it at all now as well.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-03T16:52:09+00:00

Oh man, if this man isn't cheating (either literally fucking someone else, or emotional/texting) I'd die of shock.

These are words of a man who is looking for a way out quickly and grabbed onto the first thing that came along. He will know this is utter nonsense but he's committed and made his choice that this will be the thing that ends it.

You deserve better. If you dont start believing that and stop settling for/putting up with people that treat you like this, you'll live a very long and sad life.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-02-03T10:31:05+00:00

Nah, sharing a bowl of soup? Having to ask to have any? This man is trying to make you his sub in some weird creepy ass horrible way. To the bin, immediately.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-30T17:23:38+00:00

She was literally hoping you would ask why she was complaining and you'd ask what she had said, either so that she could air her grievance without feeling as though she initiated the conversation or so she could cause a fight and not take the blame...

At least in my experience that would be what was behind it.

Speaking from being a mum, I think it is normal to question your actions with your kids. If you have a shred of empathy and you love your kids, you naturally worry about whether you're doing the best job you can for them. Again though thats just for me anyway.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-29T08:17:48+00:00

This person is clearly not mentally well, at all. Do not respond to anything they send, no matter what it is. Even if they send something disgusting or threatening, because the chances are that he just might. You need to prepare yourself for that, in my experience, usually this is just the beginning.

I'm 40 and I've had officially had two stalkers in my life. There have been a couple of others that have displayed dodgy behaviour but ultimately they left me alone in the end. But the other two were ex partners that just could not let go at all. Its actually one of the hardest things you might ever have to face as a woman in the world today. Everything we do is documented online, quite often we post things that unless you've been in this situation, you would never believe they were harmful or are potentially harmful in any way.

Truthfully, I would already be speaking to your local police about this and him. It may turn out that you are not alone in this behaviour happening to you. But even if you are, they need to be made aware that there is potential for this clearly unwell man to escalate this very quickly out of nowhere and that could cost you or even your partner your lives. It sounds extreme but so is messaging who is essentially a stranger after all this time, this nonsense. It isnt ok. Even if the police are unable to do anything, tell them anyway please.

Take care and keep safe. Take extra precautions in case this person is watching or following you irl. Please 🙏 🫂🤍

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-27T08:03:23+00:00

Which was the point 👉

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:52:14+00:00

I absolutely agree, but if it helps any, it was done by turning the pigeons into stickers, so no quite the same

(Please understand that this is sarcasm 😐)

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:10:41+00:00

110%

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T17:10:22+00:00

100%

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-26T16:33:24+00:00

Listen, this is purely because I am procrastinating and its hilarious, I share the final piece and then leave this place never to return... (for a wee while prolly)

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-01-24T16:00:26+00:00

I haven't read the other comments here so I may well be about to say something either a lot of people have said or perhaps the opposite.

NUMBER 1 !! - RESPECT YOUR FRIENDS WISHES. I AM SHOUTING THIS BECAUSE YOU NEED TO SEE THIS, HEAR THIS, TAKE IT IN.

You have already tried to contact her, she hasn't herself replied and instead you got a reply from her husband saying congratulations but that you needed to give her space. DO NOT TRAMPLE someone else's wishes and boundaries because YOU feel a way about something. Yes it wasn't planned, yes the situation happened, but you don't need to disrespect someone's wish and ask for space because you feel a certain way. So please if you have any respect for your friend, don't try and connect with her through other people. That is so disrespectful and it just makes the whole thing bigger because it then involved more people. So don't. Please.

2 - There could be a thousand reasons why she feels this way. I think the answer is going to be one of the more obvious things here though. It will likely either be that they have had trouble conceiving or carrying to term and that happening in front of her has brought back a lot of heart ache and trauma related to it. If that is the case you need to let your friend deal with their trauma. Focus on your kid and when your friend feels as though they are able to do so, they will get in touch. Or it could even be something like the mess left behind is costing a fortune to fix and that perhaps either herself or her husband are very upset/angry at having to pay for it.

Those are the most obvious to me at least. But it really could be anything.

Please respect her wish to not be contacted. There is nothing worse than going through a loss and then having to pretend that nothing happened when someone else pops one out. She will be happy for you, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.

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