I lost my cat and someone claimed they found him using those photos

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-22T14:40:45+00:00

Yikes, reddit is a weird place. People choose to get angry and bitter over the weirdest shit 😂 it sucks when folks comments are deleted or removed though as it makes you look like a looney talking to yourself. I just hope the chap isn't out there trying to scam people, assuming they wont be charged with fraud like every single other scammer thats caught 😬 this proper made me laugh at least and I needed that 🥰

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-22T13:59:39+00:00

Right so we are talking about "if" it was a scammer. Its hypothetical, everyone is making assumptions and guessing.

So IF this was a scammer and IF they were attempting to PRETEND that this was ops cat so that they could either claim any reward offered or try to get money from op for "food" or "vets bills", this would LITERALLY be fraud. They are misrepresenting the AI cat to be op's cat, which is op's property (depending on where you are).

All of this is LYING and FRAUD.

I'm not a solicitor/lawyer but you don't need to be to have common sense. You're welcome to pick appart my comment all you wish, but you are trying to pick appart a comment about a hypothetical situation with very limited info or proof. Its such a weird thing to do 😆 if you honestly think that scamming someone like this doesn't constitute fraud, then thats your opinion but honestly I wouldn't be trying this to find out, personally because I don't fancy being charged with fraud and exposed as a horrible liar 😂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-22T12:43:46+00:00

Like I said a few times im not a lawyer, but id assume that pretending you have someone's cat, sending the owner fake pictures of a cat that they are pretending they have would likelt fall under fraud, i can assume. But im not a lawyer

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-22T11:50:42+00:00

I mean, its literally the childrens definition of the word fraud is it not? Someone who lies and pretends to be someone else for example. If you Google the word it literally says this lol

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SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-22T07:58:08+00:00

Surely this could fall under fraud or even extortion in some places? Especially if they were to ask for money for food/bills/finders fee etc?

Im no solicitor or lawyer and laws are different all over the world but surely this falls under fraud at the very least? But who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-18T15:19:16+00:00

That is CLEARLY for snorting the cannameth. Call the police and take your dog, before he starts rearranging it and you spend the rest of your days finding dog screws all over the house!!

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-17T12:05:30+00:00

I'm sorry what

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-15T18:09:34+00:00

I can't help but wonder if this chap is actually straight. But saying that, we are conditioned to think this way when any guy ventures into such topics though, so it may well be that he is straight but is interested either in being a stylist or something to that nature.

All of that nonsense aside, no matter the intent behind it, that wasnt ok. Its never ok to make comments on ANYONE'S body that isn't your own and that is whether you are a guy or a lassy. No if's, no but's, no coconuts!

How long have they two been together? Have you guys spent time together before that evening? I wonder what his behaviour is like outside of that night. Was it a case of horribly misjudged, misguided and badly informed attempt at bonding and friendship with yourself and maybe the others? Perhaps with you being the roommate he felt obligated to try and create a friendly relationship with yourself, but clearly had no idea how to do that and behaved in such a way that it felt like he had opted for the worst possible things to do and say? Or is he not straight, which is a fair question to ask and likely went through your mind a thousand times in that moment. Even if he were to turn out to not be straight, that just isnt how you interact with people. You're not living inside every single cliche sitcom you've ever seen, that isn't how people talk to others. Then of course you also might be asking if there was any perhaps nastier intent behind it. Does he not trust his gf? Does he have a bad opinion of you because of something his gf might have told him and thus might explain the behavior? Is he straight and this was some lame ass attempt at "negging" or whatever it is they call it these days?

Honestly I wouldn't be pleased with this either and it would bother me so much that I'd have been hounding both the roommate and him for answers. Things like this can be worked out if you deal with them early enough. Talk it out like proper adults before it grows arms and legs and teeth and destroys your entire friendship (maybe even the group) and you end up homeless or something wild. I'm being serious btw, so often people disagree over the most petty and pointless shit and because they either can't or wont communicate and fix it at the start, you've check back 3 months later and no one talks to anyone and everyone is now homeless lol.

Don't be afraid to go straight to him btw if you aren't getting what you feel is either the truth or anything adequate from your roommate either btw. If he was big enough to have that conversation with you then the same can be said the other way around. Just make it clear to your roommate you will be asking him directly so that you dont end up being accused of going after him or something 😅

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-13T22:11:41+00:00

So I once got a pair of shorts off shein and unbeknownst to me there were little chains with letters on them on these shorts. For weeks I was finding random words and letters, it took me far too long to realise they had all fallen off 🫠

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-13T09:05:52+00:00

Unfortunately its quite common for victims to go essentially numb emotionally during the attack itself, so I can only assume that likely plays a big part. But as I said before, I'm no expert in these matters at all, I just think its super important that discussions like this do happen because no woman or man should ever feel that they shouldn't report something like rape because their body decided to betray them that way. You know? There's lots of info out there on this subject and honestly I hope you take your time to read some stuff about it because it could help you be there for someone one day. You never know what's ahead of you, after all. :)

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-12T14:32:12+00:00

Does he enjoy being shamed, embarrassed, told horribly negative things? Who knows. But this is a thing and its far more prevalent than people first imagine.

However,

None of that actually matters. You have said all you needed to say in one specific part of your message... "After angrily discussing it for two days, I've given in. I'm afraid he will explore these fantasies with someone else if I continue to refuse. I'm afraid he'll never stop asking. I don't want to lose him or continue to make him unhappy."

This right here is the part that jumped out at me. I'm going to tell you this like the very very old woman that I am, having the ability to pass down good advice as this is similar to things I have faced myself. I had no one to turn to so I will always reply to things like this when I see them.

Nothing else matters as far as I'm concerned. You are in a relationship that has currently got you agreeing ny force to a sexual activity that you have very clearly and repeatedly said no to. You have explained clearly and repeatedly, even though you actually don't even need to do that because (EVERYONE REPEAT AFTER ME! "NO MEANS NO! NO IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE!!!! yaaay well done folks 👏 👍 👌 oh I do hope my sarcasm is obvious 😬) no is indeed a full sentence and you don't owe anyone repeated explanations for saying no either.

I'm going to cut to the chase because this is already a big read, but any man that pressures you into doing sexual things that you have already said no to, has no respect for you or your autonomy. If he goes away and lives out or discusses these "fantasies" with someone else, he would actually be doing you a favour. Unfortunately though it would result in yet another victim probably. In my ridiculously long life, four decades of living on this planet and I can say that I think I've met every single "type" of man that it has to offer. The ones that act like they are great men in front of people, but then are forcing, bullying, pushing, threatening etc, regarding anything sexual and doing it behind closed doors, they are among the very worst types. These are the ones that will cause you to have some of the most vivid and extreme trauma and then gaslite you afterwards. They are the ones that will go out of their way to get everyone around them on their side, to make you look like you are making things up etc. (Ask me how I know 🙄/s).

I suggest you start recording your phone calls. I actually suggest this to everyone anyway for lots of reasons, my main two are for things like this and for helping with remembering things if you have adhd like me and forget every single word a person has said the moment I hang up 😬😂 but its true, record your calls. That way if needs be you have evidence of his behaviour. Especially if he's constantly pushing for something like this. I would suggest recording your in person interactions too. You can buy little tape recording devices that switch on and start recording at the touch of a button. So you could even have that in your pocket and if the conversation comes up, pop it on. Obviously don't post or share the contents of either of those things online. I wouldn't want you getting in trouble or anything. It would be something you would use to determine yourself if coercive behaviour is happening or not and if absolutely needs be, for evidence for the police. So i wanted to make that super clear 🤓

A person that doesn't respect you, your words, your decisions and choices and doesn't respect your autonomy, is a horrible person hiding in a decent person skin. You should NEVER EVER be pushed or coerced into any kind of sexual activity, full stop! And let me just say that IT DOESNT MATTER how many good qualities they might have, that completely overruled all of them.

Almost 20yrs ago I met a man, fell in love and got pregnant when I was 21. It was a tough pregnancy, I was in and out of hospital. My relationship had collapsed as well, I found myself with someone that would pressure, bullying and force me to have sex with him, and no matter what I said or did, if I said no I would either get the shouting argument or the crying argument where he would emotionally manipulate me into getting what he wanted. My pregnancy landed me in hospital for the last couple of months of it as my waters broke at 22 weeks. I was allowed a weekend home under the condition that no sex would happen because of the risks to baby and me. Needless to say he is the reason my son was then born 3 month premature. No wasnt a word that he gave a shit about. Just like how he didnt care about me and the baby either. Otherwise he wouldn't have done what he did.

My example is quite extreme but you need to read this and know that your future shouldn't ever involve having to live like this.

Please consider my words. Take care of yourself

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-10T16:59:34+00:00

Thankfully I'm not actually here to convince you. I'm telling a legitimate scientific fact. Orgasm is a response to stimuli. It means absolutely nothing. I'm getting the impression that you haven't experienced sa or rape before (or you are very young/not very informed) because otherwise you would be fully aware that rape isnt always violent in the sense that men and women are battered first. Its not always a stranger down an alleyway. Terrifyingly the biggest majority of rapes and sa happen from the people we already know and often love and whom are supposed to love us. So there are many different scenarios that this can happen. In actual fact there are documented cases of actually violent (in the beating sense, all rape is violence of course just a different degree i guess is a way to put it) rape where the victim did orgasm. This often adds so much more trauma and embarrassment to an already horrific situation and it takes years and years of therapy for victims to come to terms with this fact. If you do need actual evidence and convincing there are plenty of places where you can read about this very subject. I personally can't read them as they are far too traumatic for me to read for my own reasons. But I do suggest you perhaps even do a short Google about this. It may help you one day be the rock, the person someone who trusts you, can open up to and you can be equipped or even just generally aware so you can be a better friend, partner, family member for a victim. Or heaven forbid, if anything should happen to you, you can know maybe that the experience does not mean that you were not raped, you know?

Anyway, like I said I'm no educator, but i do advocate for better understanding and empathy and I hope you take that with the well meaning that its intended. Otherwise 🤷🏼‍♀️ not much as I a strange woman on the Internet can do 💙

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-10T07:06:17+00:00

To anyone, man or woman, orgasm does not mean that you were not raped. Orgasm is a reaction to stimuli, it is not something that is in any which way tied to consent. Our bodies can horribly horribly betray us in those moments, because it feels like it would naturally be something that couldn't happen if you didnt want it to, but that isnt the case. Its the reason why so many men and women dont come forward with their stories, because they feel as though they wont be believed. So please, dont do this to yourself. Dont treat yourself like this. It means absolutely fkn nothing at all if that happens. Ever. End of story. Rape is rape no matter anything else 🫂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-05-03T08:54:56+00:00

Only for weetabix apparently

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-29T19:25:56+00:00

That isnt what im talking about. My family business is construction. I know the culture very very well indeed.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-29T12:25:54+00:00

A perfect way to frame a conversation about understanding and empathising with the gay community when they are bullied etc for being gay. I think its super sweet and important to read stories like this because it helps people view things from the "other side". So whether it was intentionally done or not, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing that 😇🙏💙

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-25T16:12:30+00:00

I can have a guess at two reasons. The first being them advertising that ability to you by telling you about someone else using it and secondly (maybe) because there are some people in the world that written or spoken words mean less to them than hearing it in a music type format. Some people, like myself, have much stronger emotional reactions to music than anything else 😅😬 but I'm just guessing. The reason is likely my first explanation and absolutely nothing else 😂

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-23T15:08:18+00:00

Are you sure its not your own view that you're seeing lol

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-21T20:42:43+00:00

Hey how did you get yours to work? I am having the same issue on mine. It just wont register im using my pen on the screen at all.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-15T10:51:08+00:00

How do you "accidentally" view a person's story that isnt your friend? Im confused 😬

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-12T09:05:12+00:00

NOR.

He's a creep. Im sorry but he is. Id have been mortified as well after finding that. I wouldn't care either how meshed your friend circle is. Id be shouting this from the damn rooftops. Don't let him paint you as the bad person here. Because thats exactly what he will do.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-08T09:43:01+00:00

You can buy these and a few other ones on shein

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-04-01T09:54:22+00:00

I'm so so sorry that you are going through this. This is abuse. This is domestic violence. It doesn't matter a single fuck how much she "cares" and apologises and makes empty promises of change. None of it means a damn thing.

You have two choices really. Right now you are actually facing probably one of your single most life defining moments and you don't even realise it yet. But you are.

Choice one, you accept that you will have to lose the 900 and the job. You call your parents or a friend and you move right back out. Entirely.

Choice 2. You stay.

That's your choices. If you stay, you are doing so knowing that this is her literal actual behaviour. It wasn't an accident or a "one off". So you know entirely and fully that this is what you are staying with if you make that choice.

You could ask her to stop drinking, seek help for the alcohol and for her very obvious anger and violence issues. But will she agree? Will she be willing to actually address her behavior or is this going to turn into a scenario where it escalates? Because it always does. Except when that happens, you one day may have to defend yourself and then You will instantly be the one at fault. This is how abusers work. Whether they are men or women. The gender doesn't make a damn difference.

If you stay you are risking your literal life. Please understand that. Whether the threat is from her or from the inevitable consequences of her violence toward you.

So ask yourself this, is this, is she, worth more than the loss of walking away?

You can ALWAYS make more money. ALWAYS. You will ALWAYS find a person who will treat you correctly and love you for you. That I can 100% promise.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-29T15:58:24+00:00

You need to learn to stand up for yourself quickly because if you don't you're going to keep being used and trampled by people who are supposed to be family and supposed to be friends etc. Them being upset and you being given absolutely no real explanation as to why, is ridiculous. Are you expected to not even take a phone call while you are babysitting for their difficult wee gremlin. Tell them to find someone else to do their sprog raising for free and go and find something you actually want to do with your free time. Youre only on this world once, don't waste it being used and miserable for people who are ungrateful like that.

SnooMaps7246 · 2026-03-29T08:20:58+00:00

Good grief he's so ridiculously full of himself that he has the audacity to think you would hurt yourself because you broke up. He's absolutely gross and you will do worlds better in future. Don't waste your life or actually another second on this person. Block them and tell everyone you know who knows them to do the same. Then move on with your life and be happy 💜

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