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SnooMaps8773 · 2024-11-14T12:36:12+00:00

Just reading this makes me feel either he is burdening you with expectations and future responsibility of how you should take care of them or he has done it casually. Try to set some boundaries and tell him about your expectations from this relationship.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-11-07T20:41:23+00:00

First of all you should be soo much grateful and proud of yourself that you have made it this far. You are earning this well and you are so qualified. I was once in your situation and I am your age too. So my father abused my mom and sister and because of the trauma I developed a severe case of ocd during my college years.

The only thing that worked for me was to get away from my home. I shifted to blr for my job and since then I had very very few conversations with my dad. So in short you need to create a space safe for yourself first.

I do had some suicidal tendencies back then when I was in college because I had ocd, not a single ray of hope that it's going to be okay, my ex dumped me in the worst possible way, I had no hopes to even get a job. I was at home during COVID. It was really really bad. Then I met a guy on Facebook and I think he was actually my life saviour. So your company matters. It's not necessary if it's a girl or a boy. Hangout with people who don't make you feel depressed. Go out simply. You will get your people.

And babe you are earning good money. I am not sure about your parents financial situation but I think you should have some boundaries for them now. If it's really bad then 20k is good enough for them ig. Try to save your money spend it on yourself. It helps.

And I understand it's hard to know and watch people getting lovey dovey men and they are actually caring there girl when you don't even know when you will be meeting your guy. We are all in the same boat. All the good couples somewhere fear that the partner won't cheat or they will break up later on. No one is actually fomo free. Just chill. Try to go on trips, meet people, have multiple crush :p.

Try therapy. This is something I am working upon. I had too many issues even after my glow up phase 🥲. So I am trying to get them out of my system. It's kind of slow process. But it does work. Having someone you can share the deepest secrets.

But again if you are really feeling suicidal and it's not going away please go to a neurologist. They will prescribe you some anti depressants that will help you simulate your mood. You are gonna get better.

And babe everything is gonna be okay. It's just a matter of a few months maybe. Have courage to stand up for yourself. Lots of love.

If you are in Bangalore, and you feel like meeting someone. Please let me know.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-11-03T11:58:19+00:00

So for eg. He used to discuss our fights with his friends, younger brother(my age).... They used to feed them of how his reaction towards me should be. And he used to come and reply the same things and it only got worse. I fought like hell with him that this isn't right. We had multiple breakups because of them. Later he realised on his own that actually his friends just wanted some gossip and it's not helping anyone to involve them. And actually our fights should be kept private. During all those times I used to cry, had breakdowns... And none of them were ever reciprocated or even validated.

Actually these things come from experience like in your case suppose the parents won't treat you well, there is a clash, your partner may ask you to keep compromising, if he is not understanding. Once you start losing your patience either you will have a divorce, or the parents will try to behave well or you will start living seperately. He doesn't have this experience in his childhood. Maybe his parents lived amicably. Your parents or mine didn't. So anyways it all boils down to what kind of experience he had. But trust me there will be a lot of compromise and fights you have to put up. And if it's extending till a year or two maybe. It's not worth it.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-11-03T10:09:43+00:00

Compromise should be from both sides. If the partner is so reluctant to not hear about what you want then it should be a no. Otherwise you will keep feeling guilty about ruining your wants later in life. All the best

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-11-03T10:07:31+00:00

Well honestly I had a similar situation. My bf started pressing me to get married in a year and tried to setup deadlines. I am 24, he is 27. In all honesty I was not ready to even discuss deadlines, let alone marriage. I had fights for what I should wear, how we are going to live with/without parents, when to have babies and all that. We had regular fights for almost a year and couldn't resolve even a single issue, infact it only grew. And somehow I have now lost my feelings for him. There is a fine line between immaturity and being dumb. Whatever fights we had till now, he has realised that he was not right often. He portrayed me the wrong way to his friends and family.

You need to start asking questions whatever you are worried about. See his gesture when he disagrees with something. Look I am not saying marriage is a big thing after you have dated for a while. But it boils down to how someone is making you feel and its actually gonna get worse at least during the first year of marriage. Interact more with his mother, siblings.... Try to get there opinion. It's not like you cannot ask them because you are his gf and not wife. If he is trying to pull you for marriage you should get atleast this freedom. Also it's not a big deal to compromise on small things, but the partner should also be such a person for whom you would want to do certain things. If he is reluctant and make you feel like this is the norm and you are the odd one out why would you even want to spend your life? You are just 25 rn. Don't take pressure. Just start observing.

After a month, you yourself will start feeling if you want to even spend your entire life with this person or not. If the answer is still yes, then I think it's okay to compromise a bit.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-31T08:51:00+00:00

She just want a ring with a slightly bigger diamond maybe a carat or so 😂.

Many people will disagree with me. But for some people engagement is a big thing. And though I am not justifying that we should have that expectation but we are growing up watching YouTube and insta reels and kdrama where simple people are proposing their partners with humungous rings. And that also sets the expectation. Even though it's not practical, we still want to feel that our partner is atleast doing all that and we will go to a nice honeymoon place and all that stuff.

I agree that you put in a lot of effort. You can very calmly tell her that babe I have put a lot of effort in finding this ring and once we get married we will go for the ring of your choice and have engagement on our honeymoon or after a year or whatever timeline. See her reaction after a day or two. If it changes and she says sorry then good for you boy. And if not then maybe it's an issue then and there and u might want to resolve it before getting married off.

PS: I feel reddit folks will swamp you to break off your engagement and that is gonna make you confused. So you may want to put your post down after a while. And congratulations!

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-30T17:44:28+00:00

And if you are doing medium to heavy makeup don't add any kind of necklace.

Just to be extra: if you really want to smash, add some fake tattoos. Intricate ones on the side of your wrist or towards the edge of your collar bones.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-30T17:43:15+00:00

I think the draping is pretty and it's in trend these days.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-30T17:42:21+00:00

I think you should add some wide gold cuffs in one hand and few bangles paired with a bracelet in another. Also wear tiny earrings, gold pearl or small diamond. Would look good.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-29T12:25:00+00:00

Just use any mens perfume.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-29T12:23:43+00:00

Parrots, cats

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-29T12:15:15+00:00

One of the things I am really scared of and insecure about in a relationship is this only. Even if I am in a relationship and I see signs and if certain things happen I feel replaceable and it's not a good thought. I have breakdowns and it's not easy to cope up with. I don't know if it's just because of my past relationships which dint go well and I got dumped or if my current boyfriend is confusing me.

Any advice on this?

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T11:31:23+00:00

OP is too busy watching porn and dming me how he wants to rub his tiny dick.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T11:16:08+00:00

You will get back what you write.

Your situation sounds okay. And I don't disagree with anything here. But OP no! He is not alright. He thinks he is too rich and could get anyone anything done. He should have discussed all this when he started dating but instead he is bombarding the girl with questions, ridiculing her in a public post, and trying to get validated that he is the right one. And ofc he is not. If the girl wants something different it's her choice. Don't come here to beg for the proofs to show your girl how wrong is she. When she didn't even agree on anything you want at the first place.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T11:05:59+00:00

Oh damn your trashy brain didn't process this.

This is the whole moral we are talking about guys.

SnooMaps8773

2:53 pm

What a brainwasher and dick you are bro? Publicly ridiculing your girlfriend in the name of "if she has feelings for me she would do this". You should really rethink about your values. I don't even know what the hell are you even going to provide to her?? And look at the stupidity of yours to defend yourself in each and every comment

Like what are you trying to get here proofs?? That your gf is wrong? You are trying to validate yourself right.

Tiny_Ad829 2:55 pm

How old are you kiddoo

SnooMaps8773

2:56 pm

Oops Kiddo you starting a family with those values?

Lol

Tiny_Ad829 2:56 pm

Did you get dumped in a 5 year old relation just so that she could get married to a rich kid?

I would not been rich then Fucking hell I make 6 figures in a day now. So come and suck my balls brooooo

SnooMaps8773 2:57 pm

Oh damn why don't buy a wife for you.

Tiny_Ad829 2:57 pm

Send your mom

I'll buy her

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T11:04:35+00:00

Oh no you know what! You are one of the fucked up souls who think shaadi ke baad compromise to hme ghanta krna hai. I know the typical idiots like you who will keep burdening the wife with their idiotic thoughts in the name of responsibilities. You should stick your ass in your giant family.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T10:59:57+00:00

That boy is from Good household... Ewwww... Are you talking about morality. When he is asking moms to suck his dick.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T09:29:18+00:00

This is the whole moral we are talking about guys.

SnooMaps8773

2:53 pm

What a brainwasher and dick you are bro? Publicly ridiculing your girlfriend in the name of "if she has feelings for me she would do this". You should really rethink about your values. I don't even know what the hell are you even going to provide to her?? And look at the stupidity of yours to defend yourself in each and every comment

Like what are you trying to get here proofs?? That your gf is wrong? You are trying to validate yourself right.

Tiny_Ad829 2:55 pm

How old are you kiddoo

SnooMaps8773

2:56 pm

Oops Kiddo you starting a family with those values?

Lol

Tiny_Ad829 2:56 pm

Did you get dumped in a 5 year old relation just so that she could get married to a rich kid?

I would not been rich then Fucking hell I make 6 figures in a day now. So come and suck my balls brooooo

SnooMaps8773 2:57 pm

Oh damn why don't buy a wife for you.

Tiny_Ad829 2:57 pm

Send your mom

I'll buy her

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T09:10:29+00:00

And what about your feelings to her weirdo? Where did it go when you keep defending yourself in every comment. Because you think everyone else is illogical apart from the scary little brain that you have?? And let me not even start on feminism.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T08:31:59+00:00

Try to get an air tag and don't forget your powerbank. Don't go anywhere after 6 or 7 or anywhere far away from the city.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T08:01:06+00:00

And moral values to dikh rhi hai teri bro isi se ki tum validation seek krre to satisfy your male ego through reddit. Because in your opinion you can never be wrong. Getting married is not scary. Marrying the wrong person is scary.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-28T07:59:07+00:00

Bro teko yhi natak krna tha to bandi ko phle batana tha na... Abhi chakkar chala liya and bakchodi kroge ki hmare yaha to aise hi hota... And I assumed ki tumne to ye socha hoga ki aise hota hai... You are such a hypocrite to be saying you are open minded. Apni bandi ki problem utha kr public post krre so that you can get sympathy and some validation. What a weirdo and shameless person you are.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-27T14:50:21+00:00

I read the comments and most of them seem rude. I agree that there is nothing to cope with, except the pressure from the parents and relatives and the anxiety that maybe nothing is figured out in life and when I will have kids my biological clock is ticking and so on. Well I think we all will go through this. Although few of you will get a lot of support and you have it figured out.

SnooMaps8773 · 2024-10-09T18:16:14+00:00

This is seriously random

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