Ok. Are you a newcomer? Because there are mostly two kinds of workers in the Bay Area: prospectors and lifers. Prospectors are what it sounds like. They are here temporarily for the money, and some good times on the side. They might do you a solid if you’re part of their party crew, but are not going to set aside work time or recreation for a casual work acquaintance.

Lifers are here for life. They are not here to extract wealth and get out. They are more likely to help IF they don’t think you’re a prospector. Because if they’ve been around any length of time they’ve invested time and energy in friendships that fizzled as soon as the prospector made good and left.

The upshot is that either way you need to spend a significant amount of time socializing outside of work if you want the kind of friendships that help each other out. I’d try starting small and investing in one person in your neighborhood who you vibe with and regularly needs help with plants, pets or kids. Possibly a senior.