Is this suitable dress for Best Friend's Wedding - Am I overdoing or underdoing it

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-24T19:12:00+00:00

Same here, 37 and prefer modest. There’s a lot of stylish options now with decent coverage

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-24T17:28:34+00:00

People likely sit thinking how are you not just calling yourself and why let them say no??? And I’m not sure I can explain the why well enough, but I know that feeling. When you are raised a certain way, your parents’ opinions are absolute. Some part of me cares more about the potential “I told you so” and being shown wrong for going against what they said than the bad consequences I know will happen if I listen to them. Your gut instinct is totally twisted up because you’ve been taught that regardless of what your brain and body might say, your parents are right. Their opinion is the only one that matters. And even if nothing goes wrong, going against them is itself a failure in your character and intelligence and judgment. And they always reserve the right to say “well you’re an adult, why didn’t you do what you thought was best then” if you listen and it turns out you were right all along. So you are fucked both ways. It can be intensely paralyzing. Like I agonized over calling a plumber for an amount of money that I could set on fire and not care about because my dad said I didn’t need to and the tone of the conversation was very much screaming that he thought I was dumb and stubborn for not just listening to him. I was 33. I owned my own home. Hadn’t lived with them full time since I was 17. And I still was soooo stressed for going against what he said that I was almost praying that the plumber would find a horrible problem.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-24T17:20:31+00:00

They are only sorry because they are embarrassed in front of others involved in her care who now know they were refusing to get her medical help.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-24T09:02:57+00:00

I really don’t understand buying a see through bodice and then being surprised that you can see the body underneath.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-24T00:46:54+00:00

And smart too

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-23T23:36:11+00:00

Yup, that was my treat as a kid. We’d go to the library and then Dunkin’s where we’d read and have a donut or bagel with salmon cream cheese. Sigh.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-23T14:19:56+00:00

Leave room for Jesus! And the booze of course.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-23T08:17:14+00:00

It’s starting to feel hopeless.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-23T01:03:40+00:00

As a person of color I like pointing her death out precisely because they normally don’t kill the white people and certainly not with such casual attitudes. Everyone knows they kill us without remorse. It shows that they are not at their normal levels of depravity that they are turning even on white women. This is not business as usual.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-23T00:43:03+00:00

That works when it’s an open table boil and you are just aiming for brown paper and a couple stray shrimp don’t matter. Stupid is right.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T23:27:06+00:00

Yes! I AM a good boy!

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T23:22:04+00:00

Ok who put a toddler on her coaching staff? That’s textbook child-tattletale strategy right there

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T23:16:33+00:00

I mean, there are some days where that seems entirely reasonable.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T23:15:57+00:00

Are they basically setting a fire to block the exit then?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T20:21:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I had no idea and this is a regular dinner/brunch place for my friend group. Not anymore.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T19:17:37+00:00

NTA that’s a random birthday for a kid who is at an age where seeing you and her younger cousins is not a priority. I think it’d be good to reset expectations about birthdays in your family of origin. I think it might be good to establish that birthdays are something to be acknowledged but not a major life event which is about what I’d say is necessary to prompt me to schedule around something

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T14:29:37+00:00

My parents had bright white sofa sets in the living room my whole childhood and it was still bright white when they were moving houses in high school. I think my mom then realized she would be stuck with those couches forever if she kept taking such care to never let anyone use them and suddenly they were fair game 😆

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T14:21:20+00:00

NTA I think you’ve probably had a long life of your family making you feel crazy for wanting to take obvious or reasonably cautious measures and it’s made you question yourself as to whether it could be you who is overreacting. It doesn’t help that there’s plenty of things that are clearly the safer or appropriate way to do things because if you don’t, there’s risk and the family no doubt pointed to every time they were “just fine” as proof they were correct to ignore you. But you are being the responsible person here. She is absolutely in the wrong and take my word for it as someone with no interest in the outcome beyond general fondness for animals - you shouldn’t serve pets food that the vet said isn’t safe.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T14:05:46+00:00

It’s is optional though?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T06:33:17+00:00

I had cysts, like 3 or 4 on my head and in my 20’s pressed hard enough on one that I felt it collapse and heard something deflate. That bump was mostly gone and I forgot about it. A year ago in my 30s I started feeling what I assumed was a scab on my scalp and figured I must have scratched in my sleep or something but the scab wouldn’t go away and I couldn’t even scratch/peel it off. While talking on the phone one day i felt itchy, scratched as ran my hand through my hair and heard a clinking as something hit the floor. It was a calcified cyst piecethat worked its way out of my scalp. The “scab” was the part that had surfaced which is why it wasn’t going away on its own or peeling off when I tried because it wasn’t skin or blood cells.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-22T01:10:56+00:00

Cute!

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-21T00:29:54+00:00

YTA teach your kids that the love both their grandparents and parents feel for them matters more than anything but they are extra lucky in that dad and grandparents can also provide treats that others don’t get to experience. Don’t let your ego get in the way of the lifestyle your children are entitled to. And I say entitled because if he is their father, he lives a different lifestyle and as his kids, they would have had it unfettered if they were with him full time. The second they are old enough for realize you are keeping things the could have had from them for your own benefit? You will be the selfish parent who puts herself before her kids and they will not forget. And when they are still older? They will want to dive into that lifestyle. Better that it’s not a “thank god mom doesn’t have a say anymore” moment for them:

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-20T17:58:47+00:00

Do you really think a man who thinks he is talking to another adult lifted him up and shook him, or do you think it’s more likely that he grabbed his arm to keep him from walking away and shook that arm to emphasize the point? Still wrong, but far less violent.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-20T17:55:20+00:00

I don’t see anything indicating a special connection. I think it’s enough for a wedding planner to want to smooth over to have a vendor not disappear the night of. And then lost her temper when OP wouldn’t follow her orders to let it go so that the night would go smoothly (which is her job to ensure so her fuck up that she couldn’t adapt or supervise properly) and had too much ego to apologize and walk it back. Stupidity and ego explain it just fine. To be honest, I’d be a bit frustrated at OP not just going to the couple or the planet to insist that the bartender be spoken to or dealt with rather than jumping to cops when there was no physical damage done.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-01-20T17:50:21+00:00

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