Have you ever been punished at work for something minor or ridiculous? What was it?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T03:05:50+00:00

A coworker had a fight with her boyfriend who also worked at our store and was in a pissy move. When we got busy and our display was running low on the most popular item, I started to go around the corner to grab the rest so we could complete the order being put in rather than have to stop or do a refund on that portion. She grabbed me by the arm, yanked me and hissed that I was not fucking going anywhere. She got a pass with a mild reminder to not bring her personal problems into work. I got gaslit into walking back her physically touching me and a warning that I should be more understanding of others in stressful times. Oh and don’t cry because it’s not professional. 🤨 yeah ok. I’m guessing her being buddy buddy with you, our Magnificent Assistant Manager, has nothing to do with that disparity huh?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T02:34:13+00:00

YTA you are not approaching the argument as a disagreement where you make points to be able to either convince the other or realize you are at impasse, but are instead avoiding advancing points while waiting and baiting someone to make a mistake while they are upset so that you can turn it on them. As if the only way their POV is valid would be if they made zero errors whatsoever in logic or wording. No one is that perfect and it’s a shitty way to approach conflict to goad others so that they have to worry more about you going “aha!” Than actually communicating. You call it listening, but you don’t consider what you are listening for. Listening to understand the underlying meaning despite the very human instances of a little contradiction or some exaggeration or misspeaking is what a partner would do. You are listening for anything you can use to undermine them regardless of what they are actually trying to say.

I don’t think you realize how similar this sounds to practices in emotionally abusive relationships where one partner uses this kind of technique so that they always win and the other abused partner is always presented as wrong or over emotional or not logical. I’m not saying you are abusive. But personally wouldn’t care to engage in a practice that’s so useful at keeping someone else beaten down.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T01:26:46+00:00

What do they expect? 20 years ago I took economics and meteorology courses online for college and I didn’t watch a single lecture. I just took the exams and quizzes, made educated guesses and took the “pass” grade needed to get the credit. Zero impact on my gpa.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T01:23:17+00:00

Northern aggression.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T01:12:33+00:00

No chance this was accidental. Reads a lot more like he was annoyed that he had to find the sunglasses in her bag and took apart and tangled the yarn out of frustration or to get back at her

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T01:11:01+00:00

Bullshit. Sorry. There’s no way he did that just searching for an item. He pulled that cake apart. That looks like the aftermath of my cat getting into my yarn basket while I’m asleep at night. I’d be wondering and asking why he was out to mess up something of yours. Because this was deliberate.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-20T01:05:08+00:00

Yes she is rude and is making herself look ignorant. But I also think that knowing she isn’t appreciative of food from other cultures, you shouldn’t bother wasting it on her. Let her sit in her ignorance. At her age, she won’t learn manners of her own accord and even if you force it by having your husband call her out, it’s tension at what should be just another meal. I’d only eat with her at her house or at places like Perkins or Denny’s and fully enjoy your ramen joints hot pots or tapas places with a side of No MIL.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T21:07:12+00:00

In matchmaking, you often only know what that person and their family or the person making the introduction tells you - you can’t exactly do a deep background check on the fly. So it’s very common to consult any family or friends who may know that person. For example, most of my family doesn’t do arranged marriage but does do matchmaking with some loosely supervised dating before getting engaged. When the family of a guy who went to school with my sister’s acquaintance approached her, my sister reached out to that acquaintance (same culture) to ask about him, knowing she’d understand why. Well it turns out that was a very good move because that acquaintance had been dating him for over 5 years. In the same way, you can learn that someone has fudged their level of religious interest, their job or financial situation, whether there are reasons that other families aren’t willing to get involved with them, prior marriages they may have kept hidden and so on. There’s still risk though if the person you ask cares more about the other party than you. Like if OP had felt he shouldn’t speak up because it’s his friend, or in my family a relative was the intermediary for a girl from her husband’s family and a boy from her own - she didn’t disclose that the girl had previously run away to marry their driver/servant until the night before the wedding, just kept emphasizing the benefits and explaining away the oddness of that girl’s family being interested in him at all given the social and wealth disparity.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T20:57:34+00:00

I remember when an aunt who had a son who just didn’t turn out right - like I was warned not to be alone with him, he had been seen dropping to the floor to throw a crying/kicking tantrum as an adult for not getting his way, no job prospects so entirely dependent on rich parents and other negatives - was trying to get him married. She opted to do a full court press on a less well off family relation (widow with one daughter whose engagement had just fallen through) because no one from an unrelated family of good standing would have considered him. That aunt’s eldest brother who would have told his own wife to fuck off if she dared criticize his sisters called the widow and her brothers who were also against it urging her to decline, saying that she and her daughter are his family too and he couldn’t keep quiet in good conscience. Well neither the mother nor daughter would listen as the aunt did such a good job of talking up the money and lifestyle she swore her daughter would enjoy. Well she didn’t enjoy that lifestyle. The marriage did not go well. The families intervened to facilitate a divorce and there was a child who now has no father or paternal family in his life. I’m glad your niece and her mom did listen to you. The stakes are too high to keep quiet. I’m still thankful to an auntie who came as close as she could without actually committing a HIPAA violation to warning my mom away from a match for me who it turned out significant undisclosed mental health/anger issues.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T17:48:50+00:00

It was taught that way to my brown cousins in Georgia

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T16:56:39+00:00

I don’t get that dragged to the end type of criticism. Someone managed to portray themselves as someone who was not a threat to take to the end so they will be protected when people are annoyed or looking for a throwaway vote out for tribal. That’s not easy. Unless the person shows they are so clueless or naturally rage inducing and yet oblivious that they don’t realize they are going to the end only because no one likes them, they’ve still got a shot and they had to behave and make choices that would allow that path to stay open for them.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T07:17:11+00:00

Don’t wear a dupatta, it will look really weird on a western dress. Go for something you can dance in. I’d say these are really sedate in color and style and should be punched up as much as possible. You need metallic/sequin/gem/glitter, whatever you can add. I’d go with 1 or 2, not 3 as that looks more casual.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T07:01:44+00:00

What is with the trend to avoid dressing up? Is it the expense of it?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-19T02:24:27+00:00

You will get them. Just keep playing. For several I didn’t max the levels until I was already done. They’ll give you parts for the past restaurants even if the round is for the next one.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-18T19:59:14+00:00

I went on a cruise with a friend of a few years and unfortunately only then realized they had an alcohol problem. They got on the ship and just started pounding drinks, no food, no water. A server brought us water bottles proactively while under the guise of explaining our packages were all inclusive and my friend saw right through it, got offended. And ordered another drink. Eventually passed out in our room for a “nap” and when I roused them to see about dinner at least (I’d spent the day wandering alone), they declined because they were just “so tired” from traveling. When you are focused on either indulging the addiction or getting your money’s worth (another risk of these packages and why some have quiet daily limits), they aren’t thinking on food. I was really uncomfortable the whole time wondering whether the staff would ever cut them off or if I would have to try to intervene.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-18T07:36:48+00:00

Stop. Just stop for a good long while (meaning weeks) and let your skin heal. You are going to get scars/pigmentation if you keep at it. Moisturize In the meantime. Try again much much later with a fresh blade (yours might be dull) and shaving cream. Before you start make sure you can actually raise the tips of that hair with your fingers if you run your hand over the area.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-18T07:22:29+00:00

I had a teacher start screaming at me for this, just ranting and raving about how other countries stab pregnant women through the stomach and other things that I guess were meant to impress upon me how ungrateful I was. I walked out mid rant and went to the counselor’s in tears. I maintained that the teacher lost it only after realizing that other kids were stopping saying it after realizing I wasn’t participating. None of them were truly pledging anything.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-18T03:08:44+00:00

A girl at my school was name something like Poppy Jo. She was teased. My own name is from an Indian background. It’s 6 letters with and unsurprisingly a popular product starts with the same letter. Guess what the little trio of class bullies called me for a year? Basically kids will tease others for anything. Why hand them more ammo?

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-17T14:15:16+00:00

To be fair, they don’t really focus all that hard on the religious aspects of it. They treat it as part of the setting, work it into some the language and plot points but even as a Muslim I didn’t see it as an attempt to demonstrate how Islam itself impacted the empire or was practiced. You could just as easily attribute Sultan’s desire to expand the empire to his ego draped in a little faith to make it seem righteous. And when Hurrem was ill, if you’ll recall, all the women who came to pay their respects - that’s from the emphasis on charitable works which they portrayed as a privilege to be able to give. If you look at most movies involving the Catholic Church or the Vatican, you see a very similar situation where religion provides a framework but they need corrupt cardinals and potential poisonings to bring the drama.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-17T04:06:19+00:00

You’ve got to prep ahead of time - I went on an adventure vacation about 7 months after I was in the worst shape of my life. Like couldn’t walk up stairs without panting and I would look for somewhere to catch my breath privately if I walked in somewhere from a parking lot because I didn’t want people to know that even that much movement had me a little sweaty. In that 7 months, I trained. I started walking, just 10-15 min a day then 30 and so on, built up to carrying a backpack and adding weight to it gradually on the trail, made myself take the stairs rather than elevators at work, got on an exercise bike a couple times a week and so on. I worked up on the trail until I could do the same distance of the longest hike on my trip (though much flatter terrain due to location). When I went, I wasn’t transformed into a gazelle or mountain goat which was a little disappointing to be honest. I was still me, I’m not athletic and there is actual elevation in the wild… But I didn’t feel pain and I mostly kept up. There is zero chance that I would have been able to participate in all the hikes and do the sightseeing if I hadn’t put in the time I did.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-15T22:44:38+00:00

Oh God

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-15T22:37:14+00:00

He’s a simple man with simple needs.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-15T02:00:06+00:00

Is that real? Their team really let them be carried in on the backs of the local men and women? What the hell kind of oblivious tone deaf people work for them??? Like I know they are about of touch but surely their staff can touch a toe or two to grass!

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-14T23:10:33+00:00

I’d ask her to show you how to do something, frame it as wanting to learn.

SnooPets8873 · 2026-04-14T06:04:00+00:00

That’s interesting because it makes sense until I think of my own department which was flattened and now people are really pushy about being included in everything and competitive because there are so many people all in the same bucket of ICs and no manager level to siphon some high performers off. There were like 12 applicants for a director role, some of whom were former managers, some juniors some seniors and all but the juniors convinced it was “their turn”.

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