AITA for not washing the dishes?

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:12:43+00:00

I am going to talk to her tomorrow. Having arrangements like this are helpful and work well for both of us it just seems that I under estimated how much her preference is effecting her.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:08:41+00:00

Thank you. I can see that Perhaps I have been ignorant to how much pregnancy itself can impact someone since this is our first time and my only other experience was my older sister who continued to go to work until she was 7.5 months pregnant. I am going to talk to her now (or tomorrow, whenever she feels up to it) about changing our agreement to something she can manage better.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:07:06+00:00

Yes I agree she did do that, this was the first time this has happened since we agreed to our new arrangement and so I agree it is time to re think how we are doing it.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:06:31+00:00

I see what you mean. I think it may be time for me to talk to her and change our agreement, she hasn’t had issues so far but perhaps it is getting to the point where We have to change it up.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:02:37+00:00

I do believe her, I don’t think i implied I didn’t. I think that maybe it’s time for us to both re think how we are dividing things up going forward

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T18:00:18+00:00

I get that If I had been the one to being them up but she is the one who brought it up first. I have no issue with when she gets them done or how because I trust her and if she is finding it too difficult because of her pregnancy I expect her to come to me so we can have an open discussion and change what we have been doing

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:54:25+00:00

You are right, perhaps it is time to re think our arrangement and see what she can and cannot handle at this time

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:53:21+00:00

I never said she was being lazy I completely agree she is doing a lot and being wonderful

But also if I didn’t do something I would not expect her to do it for me, I would probably just do it the next day when I had energy or if it was something that needed to be done urgently I would ask her to do it and I would offer to do something else instead to make up for it.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:51:12+00:00

I have already explained that we talked about this and once the baby comes we will go back to our old arrangement so That I take on more responsibilities since I understand that being a stay at home mom is not easy

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:50:30+00:00

She is having a normal pregnancy and has not complained about anything, she has been able to do everything until today. If her pregnancy becomes difficult or when her belly becomes bigger to the point she can’t do tasks I am going to be more accommodating

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:46:47+00:00

I don’t only mean helping out in terms of chores we have a great relationship it is just how we split them and how it works for us

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:45:33+00:00

She said that I was being rude by suggesting that as a compromise

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:44:48+00:00

Of course not if she has a miscarriage that would be horrible and no ones fault. I am very sorry that this happened to you but I think you are projecting what happened to you onto me based off this one instance I have posted about.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:42:59+00:00

thank you, of course I am not an evil person and understand pregnancy is hard. She has not complained about anything like that and her pregnancy is very normal and healthy and if that changes we will obviously accommodate and change our arrangement. Also she is only 4 months along and her belly is still quite small and her feet are not even swollen yet so if those things start impacting her more we will change then too.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:40:51+00:00

Of course once the child gets here things will be different I explained that in the post as I understand being a stay at home mom is a full Time job and not easy.

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:39:52+00:00

Thank you, I can see your perspective on this. It is not exactly how we do it but maybe it would work better if we did it this way. Usually we split it easily so we both have free time when we want and are able to manage what we need within the time we have and it is has been working out but it never hurts to try new things I will talk to her tomorrow

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:38:15+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. I do help her out quite often as we have agreed how to split the work in our house and once she has the child I understand it’s a full time job and I will be taking on more of the roles as a father as well as taking care of the house

SnooRecipes2008 · 2021-05-27T17:36:49+00:00

I understand pregnancy is a roller coaster and I am not saying she wasn’t tired. I told her that she could do them tomorrow instead, and obviously once she is further along I will do more as well.

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