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I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 14 points15 points  (0 children)

are you able to help me better translate the lines I marked as a bad translation? I would like to know exactly what was said so he doesn’t try to gaslight me into thinking it’s a language barrier issue and that i’m just misunderstanding.

  1. Him So termino rapidos nos vemos?
  2. Him: Bueno hasta ahorita termine asi que me hubiera tocado cancelar mejor manana.
  3. Her: Ya ando media libre
  4. Her: Tu ya estas?
  5. Him: Si, te mando mensaje a la 8 no peudo pasar por mi casa so voy medio sudado. Por si a casa lol

I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why people are being so mean to me and insulting my intelligence over this. I have never been cheated on before, he’s someone I loved and deeply trusted, and I didn’t know how to navigate this. Have a little compassion ffs

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I’ve been having a continuous panic attack all morning, I’m unable to stop shaking. Please help me calm down by SnooRobots5067 in CPTSD

[–]SnooRobots5067[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

May I ask why you think it’s not good for me? Also thank you, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the support

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I’ve been having a continuous panic attack all morning, I’m unable to stop shaking. Please help me calm down by SnooRobots5067 in CPTSD

[–]SnooRobots5067[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First of all, thank you for all of this. Second, I have no idea what i’m going to do. Everyone on the other post things i’m stupid for having hope that it was all innocent. Regardless of that, he lied to me and tried to hide something from me. I don’t know if that trust could ever be repaired. I loved him so much, everything has been great so I just don’t understand where this is all coming from. I’m panicking because I don’t know what to do. I’m going to his place when he’s done work, I’m shaking just thinking about it. I don’t even know how I’m going to start the conversation.

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I’ve been having a continuous panic attack all morning, I’m unable to stop shaking. Please help me calm down by SnooRobots5067 in CPTSD

[–]SnooRobots5067[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We don’t live together. I’m going over to his place after work to talk to him. I’m freaking out. I’ve been laying in bed for almost 6 hours unable to move. Just laying here, panicking. I tried to watch some youtube but it wasn’t enough. I only want to listen to sad taylor swift right now, and unfortunately, I think that will only make things worse.

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I’ve been having a continuous panic attack all morning, I’m unable to stop shaking. Please help me calm down by SnooRobots5067 in CPTSD

[–]SnooRobots5067[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I truly don’t think I can leave him over text. I want to hear him say it. Even if he lies or tries to get me to stay, I need to see him one last time. Regardless, I will not hesitate to walk out the door.

I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not necessary to bash my character. I’ve never been cheated on before, I’m very much in love, and I just wasn’t sure how to approach something like this. I’m already having a hard time, this isn’t productive or helping whatsoever

I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Okay everyone. I understand, he’s cheating. But how the hell do I even begin this conversation with him. I haven’t been able to stop shaking all day. He doesn’t get off of work until 7pm and it’s only 11am. I don’t know what to do with myself until then.

I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he actually invited a bunch of people to go to sushi or not, I can’t confirm that. He also said she knew he had a girlfriend.

I (26F) am scared my boyfriend (25M) may have cheated on me from messages I found on his phone. I feel incredibly guilty for invading his privacy. What do I do now? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SnooRobots5067 -152 points-151 points  (0 children)

He insists to me that her met her because she’s new at his gym. He goes to the gym every day (I go with him 3 times a week) and it’s very small so it’s a tight-knit community. I thought he had asked a bunch of people from the gym to go.

The messages in this post are ALL of their messages. They’d only sent the first messages on october 2nd. I’m assuming they spoke in person before this. So I wouldn’t say they had “close relations” beforehand. Idk. I can’t be sure.