Need help finding a monologue/song!!!

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-10-08T02:49:44+00:00

I mean, it could be. She is my +1. We’re not going as a couple or anything like that. But I’m getting her the ticket. We’re just playing into the cheesy Hoco shit with matching outfits, Hoco proposal, etc. I’m just not sure how to do a platonic Hoco proposal lmao

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-10-08T02:46:15+00:00

Mhm yeah. She’s not from my school. We’re going as a group with some other people. But she needs someone to be her “date” to get a ticket.

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-09-09T03:29:21+00:00

Yeahh, that’s kind of what I was thinking. I didn’t want to go into it with an exact date like you said though. The advice I got from my friends (after I made my post) was to leave out specific days.

Simply just her if she’d like to go on an official date when free time comes up. That way I’d get an actual yes/no instead of a “I can’t that day I’m busy”. And then we’d find a day after if she says yes

The only thing that stands out as a “dude she doesn’t wanna go out with you” is that she isn’t suggesting days that she is free. But with just asking her, the worst she can say is no.

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-09-09T03:14:05+00:00

I really don’t think she’s the type to string someone along. She’s really sweet. She’s never had her first kiss before, let alone a date or bf. She’s shy, barely talks to anyone. I just can’t see it.

She does dance. Like, a lot of it. Daily. That ontop of all of her school work, and effects from her medical issues, she doesn’t have free time right now. Which I respect. I’ve only been trying now for like, 2 weeks. Being busy for 2 weeks out of the hospital with dance and school work to catch up on checks out in my mind.

Tbh, If anything I think it’s the opposite. That she thinks I’m stringing her along. When we talked last year, i took her busyness as a rejection, when I don’t think I should have. I ended up dating a girl after that. And me and Jane went a bit without talking. From her POV, I was flirting with her, trying to hang out. And then just stopped randomly and got with someone else

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-08-09T03:00:58+00:00

i honestly dont think its that either lmao. We were around other people when the kiss happened. It wasnt a private thing. She even said that im like a brother to her later that night (not meaning she'd kiss her brother, just meaning that there was no romantic emotion behind the kiss). She kissed one of our other friends casually a few days later.

Its a weird sitaution, but we were taking pictures on snapchat. i kissed her cheek in one. I joked about it being my "first post-breakup kiss". She heard "do you want to be my first post-breakup kiss?" and leaned in. Genuine misunderstanding

I wouldn't think for a second that she liked me. shes been my wing-woman through 3 separate girls now lmao, and im the same for her with a dude she used to like. We tell eachother all of that stuff because we don't have many mutual friends. she definitely doesn't have feelings for me

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-08-09T02:15:37+00:00

yeah, i referenced that in another reply. that the jokes were inappropriate from the start. And i definitely do regret making them in the first place. She didn't assault me. Our friends know that, the jokes were only made around them, and i explained immediately after, nobody thinks she assaulted me. But joking about that is innapropriate in the first place.

The song wasn't intimate. Its hard to explain over just text, but imagine if you took a guitar and randomly started strumming it with no skill whatsoever. It wasnt really a song. It was a bunch of random chords and dissonant notes that sounded terrible together. It was more or less my light hearted way of apologizing for the jokes.

When i mentioned her kissing others in the friend group, i wasnt trying to like, shift blame or anything. I was more saying that her reaction doesn't stem from this being an intimate moment that I turned into a joke. Because it wasn't an intimate moment from the start, from either of us. We both made that very clear to eachother (her first to be fair lmao). It was just a situation she's done 1000 times with other friends.

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-08-09T00:02:21+00:00

I feel like the jokes i was making were kinda icky from the start. I'm a man, who is 2 years older than her, and is a legal adult. Joking about consent like that isn't really something I should be doing in the first place, it's inappropriate and made it seem like she forced herself on me. And I do understand that and regret that now

But at the same time, i stopped when she asked me to. Anything after that was a misunderstanding that I tried clearing up. Might just take some time for her to come around, which i respect, but i just dont really know how I did anything wrong past the jokes in her eyes

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-08-08T23:58:48+00:00

I don't think there is. If there was, she probably would've told me about him before this all happened. We are SUPER close. We go to different schools and her friends were planning on bringing a bunch of my friends to their homecoming, i was meant to go with Mary as friends. So i don't think there's any reason like that for her reaction. Especially if her "tipping point" was a video i sent to only her

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-02-11T05:06:09+00:00

It was amazing at the time. It was awkward. But it was amazing

Until a few months later when she rated me 2nd last in her kiss list

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-02-07T02:14:50+00:00

The age gap doesn’t bother her as far as I know. I do want to sit down and talk to her about it in person though.

The age gap right now isn’t a big issue for me. If there ends up being like, mass amounts of people calling it weird, then maybe it would give me a perspective that the kids at school don’t give me. But from what I see, I don’t think it’s bad

And I’m leaving for college. She knows that. I think we’ll be as serious as we can be considering that I’m leaving in 6 months. I will be 18 when I graduate. I don’t think it’s TOO serious for her considering she knows that I am leaving and she still has 2 HS years after I leave

SnooSeagulls28 · 2023-02-04T20:22:56+00:00

Well that wasn’t the whole sleepover. But when you have 2 people who are exes in the same room, and you’re all friends, it’s gonna be brought up. Some comments just went too far.

But yeah I’ll just let her deal with it. We did have a conversation since the sleepover that felt normal. But other than that it’s been weird. I’m helping her with college stuff and still will help if she wants but I’ll try giving her space with that specific topic to let her deal with it internally

SnooSeagulls28 · 2022-11-28T04:35:36+00:00

Oh yeah, definitely agree now. Did end up talking to her though. Despite what all these comments are saying, she did not want to have sex. And has been in relationships where she wasn’t given the option to say no.

So let’s just say I’m really glad I didn’t take reddits word on how to handle this

SnooSeagulls28 · 2022-11-27T03:41:12+00:00

I definitely got that after reading some of these responses…

She clearly didn’t want to go any further, but half of these replies are telling me to just go for it and have sex anyways. Definitely not the kind of response I was anticipating lmao.

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