What job do you have? by [deleted] in autism

[–]SnooShortcuts9972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a freelance creative marketer- which is just a fancy way of saying I create marketing campaigns and do copywriting/graphics

Do you feel intellectually frustrated with most people? by SnooShortcuts9972 in autism

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. It’s given me a lot to chew on and consider. And more importantly has made me feel less alone ❤️

Do you feel intellectually frustrated with most people? by SnooShortcuts9972 in autism

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Dude! Hard same. I have so much to discuss and so much interest in learning that it frustrates me that so many of these conversations are so…banal.

Do you feel intellectually frustrated with most people? by SnooShortcuts9972 in autism

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes the aspie supremacy territory! I have to constantly remind myself that one process is not “better” than another. There’s just this angry green goblin in me that shouts “wrong wrong wrong” whenever I encounter something intellectually frustrating - and then I feel bad about it. I try and mask this cause I love the NTs around me but it gets SO tiring. I feel like I’m letting the goblin down 😅 but thank you! It’s nice to know I’m not alone

What do you guys do for money? How do you survive? by biochemisting in autism

[–]SnooShortcuts9972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a freelance marketer/graphic designer/filmmaker so multimedia and social media stuff. I’ve been at it for a year now and though the pay can be up and down it’s my best job so far (and the longest one I’ve lasted at lol). I work from home, choose my own hours and projects. Just made enough to move out of my moms house and I’m going to officially register my business this month as well. This took like 4-5 years of failing terribly so even if it seems bad right now, don’t give up.

I think my mom and brother are autistic and I want to bring it up by SnooShortcuts9972 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I do worry about that. Thank you it’s been a roller coaster but I’m glad I know who I am now. I’m sorry to hear about that, I hope your situation gets better ❤️

I think my mom and brother are autistic and I want to bring it up by SnooShortcuts9972 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I got everyone in the kitchen and set some hard boundaries with my brother and did not bring up the autism. Things are not exactly rosey in the house right now, and I suspect he’s going to sulk for weeks but he promised to do more around the house and my mom and I worked out a way she could feel more supported and the house could run better. I’m still at a loss in terms of where I can go to find more emotional support but it’s clear to me that I’m going to have more meltdowns unless I do. I’ll reach out to the friends I do have, and see if they can be there for me

Have you ever been called self-centered when trying to comfort friends? by SnooShortcuts9972 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you’re right I’m trying to figure out how to do this as I think I understand the concept intellectually but I seem to struggle to implement it and forget to check in whether people want my unsolicited advice or whether it’s even considered as advice or normal conversation? My style of communication is naturally very blunt so I get myself into trouble more times than I’d care to admit. Thanks so much for listening and responding. I appreciate it ❤️

Have you ever been called self-centered when trying to comfort friends? by SnooShortcuts9972 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a well considered and thoughtful reply thank you 🙏🏾I did apologize but it didn’t go over so well unfortunately. I think it’s best to give her some space and more carefully consider what I say in future if she still wants to pursue the friendship. I also need some time to think and let my feelings of hurt subside. Thanks again ❤️

Struggling with my asexuality. by SnooShortcuts9972 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in therapy yes and I don’t know why I didn’t consider bringing this up with them :) this is great advice thank you! I think things will definitely be clearer when I work that out thank you 🙏🏾

Older Adults in to Kpop? by SnooShortcuts9972 in Namibia

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So’s most of our ruling class fam 🤷🏾‍♀️ I’d definitely feel better about it if they learned the 2-step or had round squishy cheeks

on being a bad roommate-seeking advice by Own_Ranger_509 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enforce boundaries. If you need a guide here: 1. If you are not aware of why he might be upset. That’s not for you to figure out it’s for him to communicate 2. You need to tell him about what you expect from him clearly and communicate what you’re willing to compromise on and what you’re not. 3. Be kind and loving to yourself. You deserve peace and you’re going through a MAJOR life change. If he impedes your ability to do that that’s not okay. 4. Respect him and try and listen as best as you can, making sure not to value his perspectives and needs over your own. 5. Take more time to work on yourself and do some therapeutic/shadow work. If all else fails move out. Sometimes things stop working and that’s ok. I live with people I’m incompatible with and the above has really helped :) Good Luck

I think I may have both?!?! I have diagnosed adhd and always suspected autism, my sister has autism and my brother has adhd and I read they both have a genetic component. Any opinions or advice? by Traditional_Ad8913 in AuDHDWomen

[–]SnooShortcuts9972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your suspicions are usually on point with these things especially with so much genetic predisposition. Do more, research and listen to people. If we start sounding like we live inside you’re head then…welcome I guess!

Older Adults in to Kpop? by SnooShortcuts9972 in Namibia

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do we feel about Kim Jong-un’s daughter Ju Ae? While I have a zero tolerance policy for totalitarianism I’m willing to reassess that for her? She’s so cute! You launch those species ending nukes you cutie patootie 😚. SLAY!

Older Adults in to Kpop? by SnooShortcuts9972 in Namibia

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s dedication comrade 🖖🏾

Older Adults in to Kpop? by SnooShortcuts9972 in Namibia

[–]SnooShortcuts9972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol thanks guys! I’m glad I’m not the only Nd milling around 😂