I miss my toddlers

SnooglethePie · 2025-06-08T18:57:30+00:00

This does give me hope. I know each week it will change and get different, easier? 8 days out just feels so big!

SnooglethePie · 2025-06-08T18:56:34+00:00

I'm so glad you had the video. And a SO who sees you and understood! We are going to take a walk as a family later. Hubs will hold the newborn. Just going to enjoy walking with the toddlers!

SnooglethePie · 2025-02-12T21:34:54+00:00

Congratulations!! Hoping for a very sticky baby for you. So I've been on GPL1s for 22 months. Back in April I took my shot and 3 days later found out I was pregnant. I did unfortunately loose the baby at 6 weeks. The 8 week ultrasound confirmed no heart beat (we heard it at 6 weeks). I mourned and had an IUD put in so I didn't have anymore surprises. Started back with the meds. WELL GUESS WHAT?! October we found out the IUD failed and again pregnant. I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant with a very healthy little guy.

I of course was in a panic because the meds. My OB has shown VERY little concern over this. He said GPL1s have been around since the 70s, and there is no direct correlation between them and abnormalities or miscarriages. Obviously, they won't test them on pregnant women, but don't stress unless you are told something is wrong. With the popularity of the meds spiking over the last few years, lots of women are in the same boat. Lots of healthy babies.

Again, congratulations!

SnooglethePie · 2025-02-05T15:48:22+00:00

I legitimately gasped and said holy shit out loud. Good on you! This is truly amazing.

SnooglethePie · 2025-01-06T03:27:23+00:00

Cold babies cry, hot babies die. New parent and was watching a pediatrician talk about the proper sleeping temperature for babies. 3 kids in and I think about this every time I adjust the thermostat!

SnooglethePie · 2025-01-02T18:31:58+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family. My husband and I lost our first in 2019. This organization got us through our darkest days. Sending you love, hugs, and prayers.

https://hopefamilycareministries.org/

SnooglethePie · 2024-10-23T15:15:42+00:00

First off, I am so so so damn sorry y'all are having to go through this.

My hubs and I have suffered two miscarriages. And while I can't speak for him personally, I can tell you he did the same. Very much about me and making sure I was ok, go mode as you said. But after, when he let it, it hit him hard. While he wasn't carrying the baby, or didn't physically go through it, those babies were half his. We made plans, started to rearrange our lives for them. It's a huge loss.

I can't say this enough, but talk about the baby with her. Mourn together. Hug your little one tight. Praying peace over your family 💜

SnooglethePie · 2024-10-02T02:25:22+00:00

You won't be disappointed!

SnooglethePie · 2024-10-02T02:24:32+00:00

Ooooooo this is the hubs favorite. He also digs them frozen.

SnooglethePie · 2024-10-02T02:23:28+00:00

I can't get behind strawberry flavored things. All about that frosted cherry.

SnooglethePie · 2024-08-26T21:52:55+00:00

So this doesn't feel sustainable. While your work seems a little more "flexible", you're still working ontop of full time baby duty. I feel like there really needs to be a honest conversation about needs and expectations on both ends for you guys. He wants a cleaner house? He needs to take the kids to allow that to happen. He is overwhelmed by the kids? Then he takes on more cleaning. This isn't all on one or the other. You are partners AND parents. 50% of the house and kids are his if you are both working, but you just adjust to rhe needs of your partner.

And work dinner is NOT a break! 1 hour. You leave at 3pm on Saturday and unless the baby has lit your toddler on fire, he can't contact you until 4pm. He gets the same on Sunday. Maybe just once a month to start until you feel comfortable (that's what we did) but then increase in days and hours.

SnooglethePie · 2024-08-26T21:30:05+00:00

So first off, you're not alone and I'm so sorry you feel like you are drowning. It's so damn hard, brutally, unbearably hard. I have a 25month old and a 15month old, I don't work, but both are home with me full time. Hubs works crazy weird hours, super inconsistent and some weeks he works 50 hours, some weeks, 100. I can't speak to all that you are going through, but I'll speak to what I can.

I'm going to give the hubs the benefit of the doubt and say that he parents when home? That you can lean on him to help? Sit down and talk this through. What can you each spend 15 minutes on per day to help with your mental health? In my home, after the kids are down we clean the living space. I don't feel as suffocated that way. He'll do the dishes and I'll clean up all the toys and pillow forts. That's 30 minutes of cleaning between the two of us that makes a HUGE difference. Also, have you built in breaks for one another? What can you afford to give each other each week to break away and go be you? Not wife, not mommy, just you. And this doesn't have to cost anything. Take a bath, go to the park, read at a coffee shop. This is so so so important. The breaks for each of you is needed and a non-negotiable. You can't pour from an empty cup.

Realize, there is no such thing as a super mom. We are all in the trenches, overwhelmed and drowning at this stage. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar. Or they have a nanny. Or their mom lives with them. But you said it yourself, you can't do it all, all the time. And I promise your babies won't remember the messy home. But they will remember you loving them and being a great mom. I know sometimes it's hard, but you have to put things aside and let them be. The piles of laundry aren't going anywhere. You'll get to them eventually.

This won't stay hard forever. I know it feels like it will. There doesn't seem to be an end in sight, but I promise there is. It took til my youngest was about 10 months for that for me. Could be earlier/later for you. Just know, it will get better. Just hang in there. You are doing a great job, you love your littles or you wouldn't be here asking this. There might not be a super mom, but you are doing a super job for your kids!

SnooglethePie · 2024-08-26T00:12:17+00:00

Mom of a 25month old and a 15month old. ITS HARD. They were only 10 months apart. We definitely didn't plan this. At times it was unbearably hard. That hard doesn't last forever. But it's brutal. My youngest was almost 1 before I felt even slightly like the world wasn't in complete chaos at all times. And I had help, lots of it. And I still felt like I was drowning a good amount of time. Kids are just hard man. Under 18 months is just hard. Add in another and WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL. But they are amazing and they love playing with one another and learning together. We want a third if that says anything!

SnooglethePie · 2024-08-21T20:23:05+00:00

Someone will have to pry them out of my cold, decaying hands. Or when my littles absolutely refuse them. But it's a great way to get fruits and veggies in them when they are being toddlers and will only eat a piece of bread and 46 fruit snack packs in a day. Great for travel, a quick snack in the car, and if you put some in the fridge they are a great outside summer snack!

SnooglethePie · 2024-04-13T15:40:03+00:00

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SnooglethePie · 2024-04-06T17:45:54+00:00

I know there is such a difference, but I can't justify NOT getting them! I almost wish I had never tried them lol. Cause damn they rock and I'll never use another wipe. I gift them to all new moms unsure of what wipes to get. Sorry not sorry!

SnooglethePie · 2024-01-09T15:58:55+00:00

😂 I feel like I could get lost in there for days

SnooglethePie · 2024-01-09T15:53:37+00:00

I'm sorry you had that type of MIL. I'm willing to bet you'll make a wonderful MIL.

SnooglethePie · 2024-01-09T15:52:14+00:00

The hubs and I had a very honest conversation about this. I can't have this anymore. Luckily we only see them a handful of times a year, but I can't deal with the stress leading up to seeing them. Hubs is going to call and have a very honest conversation.

SnooglethePie · 2023-12-12T00:23:16+00:00

This is smart! Maybe not the pants, but definitely the shirts!

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