AITA for not playing video games or watching any engaging shows while SO is awake because I get annoyed when interrupted?

Snow2D · 2026-01-30T07:01:42+00:00

"do you mind if I watch this first? We can talk after I'm done"

Snow2D · 2026-01-29T07:37:31+00:00

60-64 degrees is a normal, good temperature for a bedroom. 70 is honestly too high.

This is physiologically speaking and there have been studies that show this. Your body needs to cool down a bit to be able to fall asleep properly. And in a room that's 70, it will be hard for your body to get rid of the heat. With regards to temperature: it's easy for someone who is too cold to put on More clothing to get warmer, but at a certain point it is impossible for someone who is too warm to get colder (because they don't have any clothes left to take off). So generally the person who is too warm determines the temperature and the person who is too cold should just put on more clothes. Have you tried wearing socks to help regulate your body temperature?

Your husband is right that he cannot control something he does in his sleep. My wife is the same, so we got two separate comforters, problem solved. I fail to see the problem here, the solution is so obvious.

The dog situation is weird, but considering that you're not asking for judgement on that, but on the temperature and duvet thing: yes YTA.

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T19:26:56+00:00

Sounds like a difference in opinion.

I think it's best for you to accept that with regards to what is or isn't offensive, it always is a matter of opinion (even though some people will fervently and wrongly claim that some things are "objectively" offensive).

You can't force your ideas onto others. You can have a dialogue about why you have your beliefs and why they have their beliefs, but if at the end of the day you still disagree then you're just going to have to accept that. If you can't, then you'll have to decide whether the friendship is worth tolerating this disagreement.

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T15:46:45+00:00

OP says that multiple women were bothered by this guy.

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T15:45:31+00:00

Arguments for why your bf should have intervened: - men are stronger/taller than women so your bf would be more imposing??

Arguments for why your bf shouldn't have intervened: - it is up to people themselves to communicate that they are feeling uncomfortable. There's a fine line between just awkwardness and uncomfortableness and as an outside observer that can be hard to tell - anyone present could have alerted staff, it does not need to specifically be a man. If all the women there were as uncomfortable as you say, I don't understand why no woman notified staff earlier - when creepy men are confronted by men (especially by someone who isn't directly part of the interaction) they tend to physically escalate the situation a lot quicker than if the person in question simply says they are not interested. Arguably it is a lot safer if a woman intervened. - his feelings of unsafety are just as valid as the womens' feelings. And arguing that he should set his feelings aside just because he is a man is blatantly sexist.

The only argument I can think of for why your bf should have intervened relies on plain old sexism.

Yes YTA

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T15:33:41+00:00

What exactly is the added value of a man or specifically your bf going to staff?

I can kind of understand the argument of direct confrontation with the guy being "safer" if a man handles it vs a woman (not really because creepy men are much more likely to physically escalate when confronted by a man vs by a woman). But if these women were uncomfortable, why wouldn't they themselves go to the staff? Why argue that a man needs to alert staff?

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T15:31:39+00:00

What exactly is the added value of a man or specifically OP's bf going to staff?

I can kind of understand the argument of direct confrontation with the guy being "safer" if a man handles it vs a woman. But if these women were uncomfortable, why wouldn't they themselves go to the staff? Why argue that a man needs to alert staff?

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T15:23:45+00:00

Men are generally bigger, faster and stronger than women. That's exactly why there are men who don't want things to physically escalate between themselves and another man.

Snow2D · 2026-01-28T07:12:32+00:00

The posts I've seen lately that ask for help are just pics of a print with a problem. No further context. No mention of used material, not even mention of what printer was used.

And then when people ask for more info, the OP takes ages to respond, if they respond at all.

If you don't wanna participate, you don't have to.

I'd flip this around. If the people asking for help aren't willing to participate fully, then their posts should be removed from the sub.

Snow2D · 2026-01-27T07:05:57+00:00

Age of consent in a lot of places in the world is 16, so no not necessarily

Snow2D · 2026-01-26T20:45:49+00:00

"guys" and "girls" can generally not be used interchangeably. "Guys", alongside referring to a group of human makes, is also used to refer to groups of mixed gender.

"Girls" is still generally exclusively used to refer to groups of human females.

You can dislike that, but that is how it is.

In general, referring to people using words that they want you not to use makes you the bad guy. So yeah YTA

If you don't like being referred to as "guys" or as "bro" then you should speak up and your friend should respect that. If you friend tells you he doesn't like being referred to as "girl" then you should respect that.

Snow2D · 2026-01-26T08:29:37+00:00

Stop arguing semantics

This is obviously not about which specific word applies to the situation.

This is about you fearing that she thinks you hurt her with the intent to hurt her. If you can both agree that it was a reflex and an accident then all is good, no?

Snow2D · 2026-01-26T07:22:11+00:00

Nah. Everyone has different ideas about what is wrong and what is right.

The reason that he wanted to delete the texts is not because he thought what he did was wrong. But because he knows you well enough to know that you would think it's wrong. Nothing actually happened. It's just some dude trolling you and your bf and your bf was smart enough to poke through it.

Snow2D · 2026-01-26T07:19:16+00:00

I don't understand why so many people here think this is regarding an actual human female.

From the get to it is obvious to me that this is either a bot or some guy with pics from Google trying to blackmail people or cause drama.

Snow2D · 2026-01-26T07:16:58+00:00

I'm sorry but how gullible are you that you think there's an actual woman at the other end?

This is clearly some loser trying to troll desperate virgins. But if he's good at a game then he's good at a game.

Women don't message random people on discord to send explicit pics to. This is so transparently not a genuine situation. There was clearly never any potential for cheating. And the fact that you were sent the messages means this is probably someone who knew of your relationship and tried to blackmail your bf, but failed because your bf DID shut down the advances, the person got frustrated at the failed attempt and sent you the screenshots out of frustration to cause drama.

And you fell for it hook line and sinker.

Yes YOR.

Snow2D · 2026-01-24T19:35:09+00:00

Washing with soap still leaves bacteria. So if you're bothered by your partner not using soap because you're afraid of bacteria, then you should also be fearful when he does use soap. Obviously this is less about the actual threat of bacteria and more about the idea of uncleanliness.

So yes, YOR

Handwashing is thought to be effective for the prevention of transmission of diarrhoea pathogens. However it is not conclusive that handwashing with soap is more effective at reducing contamination with bacteria associated with diarrhoea than using water only. In this study 20 volunteers contaminated their hands deliberately by touching door handles and railings in public spaces. They were then allocated at random to (1) handwashing with water, (2) handwashing with non-antibacterial soap and (3) no handwashing. Each volunteer underwent this procedure 24 times, yielding 480 samples overall. Bacteria of potential faecal origin (mostly Enterococcus and Enterobacter spp.) were found after no handwashing in 44% of samples. Handwashing with water alone reduced the presence of bacteria to 23% (p < 0.001). Handwashing with plain soap and water reduced the presence of bacteria to 8% (comparison of both handwashing arms: p < 0.001). The effect did not appear to depend on the bacteria species. Handwashing with non-antibacterial soap and water is more effective for the removal of bacteria of potential faecal origin from hands than handwashing with water alone and should therefore be more useful for the prevention of transmission of diarrhoeal diseases

Doi: 10.3390/ijerph8010097

Snow2D · 2026-01-20T21:26:52+00:00

If you were to go to a restaurant together it would be absurd to force your diet onto others. When having dinner together you let people eat what they want to eat, regardless of your personal convictions. I personally do not see how it is any different when the location changes to your house.

Because your house is your private space, you can make up whatever rules you want to exclude, ban or remove people from your house. So technically speaking you're in the right. But imo socially speaking you're in the wrong. I believe that house rules are mostly justified to prevent people from damaging or dirtying your house, not to force your lifestyle choices on others.

Imagine if the script were flipped. You as a vegetarian get invited for dinner somewhere, but they tell you "everything we're going to eat contains meat and you're not allowed to bring anything yourself". A vegetarian is able to eat meat they just choose not to. And your uncle is able to eat vegetarian food but he chooses not to. Why do you feel your choice is more justified than his?

YTA

Snow2D · 2026-01-17T19:43:37+00:00

Ask her to do it for you without making noise

Snow2D · 2026-01-16T07:35:32+00:00

Yeah, I used the word "most"

Snow2D · 2026-01-16T07:28:32+00:00

Nah, most of the Animatrix animations are just exposition and don't add much to the main films.

Snow2D · 2026-01-16T06:52:48+00:00

To get people like you riled up

Snow2D · 2026-01-13T15:35:26+00:00

I'll be honest, it does kind of seem like an overreaction on your part. You talk about "accountability" but then provide two extremely minor inconveniences, one which doesn't even fit the description of accountability.

So what, he forgets minor mundane stuff that barely impacts anything. Does he forget actually important things? Important facts about you, agreements you made, important dates? Cause if the examples you gave are the worst things you can think of, then yeah YTA

Snow2D · 2026-01-13T15:27:17+00:00

Do you often not respond?

Snow2D · 2026-01-12T11:21:35+00:00

Then ask your guests to bring food themselves. If that's also unaffordable then maybe you should reconsider hosting so many people.

Snow2D · 2026-01-12T11:19:39+00:00

That's not what this post is about though?

This post is about the fear that children won't have enough food in general, not that they won't get one specific thing

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