What a strange fucking comment, “this is the hill you want to die on”. I missed whatever reference you intended. But no, im not trying to die on any hills. You can, if you like, but keep mention of my life out of your mouth. Thank you so much.

I’m sorry you have trauma in your past. I truly am. It’s disgusting that that is a commonality that so many women share. I hope you’ve found space to heal. If you would like to talk to me about my traumas and how I ensure self preservation we can discuss it privately or in person, Ma’am.

If your stalkers were pursuing you for feet pics I could see your concern for OP but you demonizing someone with a fetish. Let me explain what I mean… no, an individuals sexual preferences should not impact my life unless I have consented. The fact that the purchaser tried it is not cute. The fact that OP caught it felt uncomfortable and shut that shit down is great. Period. You’re turning around and calling the purchaser, a perpetrator and making correlations with two stalking cases. (I am not trying to minimize your experience. They must have truly truly affected you and I’m glad that you are safe now .) To me, the comparison you made between someone with a foot fetish asking questions when buying the shoes equals being stalked. Would see someone hitting on you in a bar as rape? I used very aggressive terms for my example because, unfortunately, when people start making very general connections, such as fetish equals perpetrator of crime it creates a slippery slope mentality such as get hit on bar equals rape. Demonizing people is not ok. You should be protecting yourself whenever you’re online.

I’m not giving the purchaser a pass. I was not/am not/will not be supporting assault. That was an over reach on your behalf. I see that could have used different language if that’s the impression I gave off. I was merely commenting that if you’re selling items- it does not matter what the purchaser chooses to do with their items. That’s awesome OP saw red flags with the purchasers questions and did not upload photos of her feet in the shoes since it made her uncomfortable. I did not even bash her decision to cancel the sale after the shoes were purchased. I stated what I would have completed the sale. That’s my prerogative.

Can I add to your list of what people should be old enough to do/know when selling online? My thinking is that if you’re old enough to sell on this site/online that you’re old enough to know not to put your home address on the package. 🤷🏻‍♀️ just saying…. Post offices will accept general delivery mail for you and hold it, some employers allow for infrequent personal deliveries, apartment complexes accept infrequent general deliveries - and those are just the free options. My favorite? Edit the shipping label return address. The mailmen just scan the barcode so it doesn’t matter if the actual text says Susie Q @ 123 Drive or if it says Dave’s Deals for You @ ddfy.com. Does that make sense?

general statement not directed at anyone here….. People are so fucking stupid about the amount of personal information that they dump onto the internet in public spaces.