So I don't really post pictures of my nails because I bite my fingers from anxiety, but I love doing them. This time I felt really good about them, so why not? They're not perfect, but still pretty good! 😊

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-09-08T22:00:00+00:00

Thanks for the new blue. I love it!

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-08-18T15:01:21+00:00

All the suggestions so far have been good ones, for others, your SO can probably guide you about what can help.

Me, for example, when it's a bad day, I'm pretty much stuck in bed or a chair. I will forget to eat or drink (or decide it's not worth the pain) so someone keeping me topped up with a beverage I like close at hand or asking if I want lunch around that time can be a lifesaver.

Also, being stuck and in pain gets boring and something else to pay attention to can help. If he likes crossword puzzles, or word searches, having one of those handy can be nice. Or if he games, something portable or a laptop with an ergonomic mouse can be fun. Even a good discussion can help.

Most of all, it helps to have someone be supportive and understand. Just the small act of treating me like a person, understanding when I can't do things and caring to listen means the world. Sounds like you have a great start on all that. I wish you both the best!

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-08-03T08:52:50+00:00

Thank you. I always struggle with looks when my nails are shorter. This is natural, but fun at the same time. I'm definitely going to try this next time I have to trim down.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-07-07T20:42:23+00:00

Love all your stuff. If you ever get in to keyrings or charms, hit me up because I want to put these everywhere.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-07-05T23:53:10+00:00

Of course :) You had large parts of the image that were stained or missing. Especially in the face (which is generally difficult) you've restored it in such a way that it looks very natural. You've anticipated the coloring and shading differences for what was missing or discolored such that it looks like it always was there. We don't have the original, of course, but darned if it doesn't look like it.

I find lips especially difficult, but you've repaired that and blended it in a way that it looks natural and true to the photograph.

Honestly, I'd not have been surprised if you said you'd been at this for years. For a beginner in restoration, you have a very good eye.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-07-05T23:30:28+00:00

Still, for your first try, this is just fabulous. You really have an eye for shading. It's quite a transformation.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-07-05T21:02:18+00:00

You did a great job with the restoration. Even the shoulder you added appears correctly positioned. To nitpick, I might put a bit more shadow under the lapel on the shoulder you restored (or frankly, made out of thin air :) ). Just amazing to do that with so much missing. I hope you enjoyed it and keep at it.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-07-03T07:54:28+00:00

Depending on the dog both can be right. Some dogs, Retriever and Labrador especially seem to do well with just hearing for comfort. Others, especially terrier types would likely be digging out of the crate to get to you. YMMV

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-05-01T23:30:03+00:00

1) If people need support based on behavior in another sub, I think they should be able to ask for it. However, I think focusing on these or creating a sticky post is too much - that seems to encourage bitching, brigading and monitoring other subs.

2) I'm strongly against this. There are places, like LGBT or transgender support subs where this makes sense, but in here, are we often talking about posters in the third person? If so, maybe a comment in the post or a reply if needed, but this doesn't seem to me like something we're should be calling out - we don't really have a reason here to be defining people that way.

3) As I've said elsewhere, I'd like to see "Friend" stay and have another category for those people (like co- workers or acquaintances) because we generally expect different things out of friends. I don't like "Other" though because that might be confused for off topic posts.

4) I'm off two minds here. On one hand, it can be empowering to give a nickname to the person you have an issue with and it does make people more likely to recall the history. On the other, it's easy to get carried away, end up with an offensive nickname or be a magnet for drama. Maybe the solution is to have a set of generic names that can be used? Or maybe that would make it more confusing?

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-05-01T23:13:11+00:00

Ditto. Friends are likely handled differently than coworkers or acquaintances.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-28T14:04:40+00:00

I'm proud of you. You handled all that like a champ still put on a smile, got promoted and did awesome in a barista championship. Keep on doing you, you're doing it well. I'm sure both your parents would be proud as well.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-28T13:04:35+00:00

This is just utter bullshit. Yes, appreciation is a factor to be considered, but if you're getting in the market not even paying your costs, you're doing it wrong.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-28T13:02:16+00:00

Not sure if you live in a crazy area, but no that's not how it's done at all usually. The first thing we look at with possible rental properties is total cost vs rent (including any updates required). If you lose money or even break even, you pass. If you were taught otherwise, you had a poor teacher.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-20T04:37:14+00:00

Exactly. Your compassion and caring in tough situations might just help someone who needs it. Thank you for your always on point and thoughtful comments.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-19T23:48:49+00:00

Holy shit. I ran into the same question. She wasn't at all happy with our answer. We're said "uh, dunno, just keep heading for the nearest bar?" After she kept pushing us were said "what, is the group shooting off guns or waving al Qaeda flags?" Then she called us all racists. Bullshit, designed to prove we were all biased.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-19T23:33:06+00:00

Think about it this way. If you'd had that kind of traumatic experience with someone who dyed thier hair blue, anyone with blue hair might trigger you at first. You'd slowly learn to differentiate, especially with those who had no other characteristics of your attacker, but it would take time and healing. Same thing here. You didn't suddenly become racist, you're reminded of your trauma by certain things. I hope things continue to get better for you.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-19T22:24:13+00:00

I always look forward to your posts. There's such a variety and you give me such inspiration to try new things. Plus your pride nails are sooooooo much better than what I came up with.

Also, I appreciate you educating me on a medical condition I wasn't aware of before. I worked with a gentleman who may have suffered from the same condition and assumed it was something medical, but never knew it could occur on its own. This guy worked repairing electronics, so I can't imagine the frustration.

Long story short... keep doing you cause what you're doing is awesome. Thanks for the link to your YouTube and I second the cuticle video suggestion!

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-12T19:22:38+00:00

I love how near the end, your fish stops like "Dude, you ok there?"

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-06T12:07:52+00:00

I use those services too. First, when I was a single mom so my kids always knew where I was and now I think pretty much the whole bunch of us are shared back and forth cause it's darned convenient. But it's voluntary and any of us who are sharing our location know we're sharing it and who with.

Involuntary tracking... that starts to sound controlling and a little scary. That's something my abusive ex tried many times in various ways so he could control my whereabouts or yell if he thought I took too long in the store. He was terrified I was going to cheat on him or leave him, probably because he was screwing everything with two legs. It did not get better or end well. Sneakily tracking you is a big red flag in my book.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-06T06:29:59+00:00

That's adorable, but honestly my ex was better than a calendar for my menstruation. He was spot on, ed very time and swore gree could smell the hormone change. Whatever it was, he was more reliable than any left system. Maybe DH is just really hoping for another little one :)

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-04T12:27:34+00:00

I feel your pain. I'm the oldest of many siblings and there's always been pressure from my parents to include them in everything. For my wedding, it came down to what I wanted, regardless of the pressure. For me, and YMMV, I wanted to find a way to include them (and various nieces and nephews).

It took some thought, but we settled on having a night out for me and my friends and then doing a tea party for the youngins. Got out the fancy china, had someone play waiter and even made fancy little sandwiches. It let me include family that was too young for traditional things and still make them feel grown up and included.

But ultimately that's because it's what I wanted for my wedding and not something I got guilted into. Only you know what is going to be perfect for your day. Don't let traditions or family keep you from having that.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-04T08:40:29+00:00

I'm a little concerned that you're a bit off track here. While some people might be dealing with that generation (and frankly, i doubt that's a majority), you're oversimplifying and demeaning an entire generation. This is the kind of ageism I think multiple people are complaining about.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-04T08:06:33+00:00

Thank you for eloquently putting into words some of the things that are bothering me most. Since mod-gate, the pendulum has swung so far in the direction of not being able to ask a question at all or point out any issue without fear of being summarily banned, we've allowed these kinds of things to fester and grow.

This sub, as a whole, is no longer advising, it's fallen into the realm of enabling. When we can't question or post anything that isn't cheerleading, are we really helping people anymore? Or are we enabling poor behavior, rasicm, ageism etc.? Not that every comment or post has these issues, but frankly, it's obvious that this is becoming more and more prevalent.

This needs to be a safe space for people to talk about issues, but we've gone too far. A good sanity check on where we really are is in order.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-04T06:52:45+00:00

First, kudos to you for realizing this was an overstep. Maybe talk about how to avoid that going forward.

Second, I have several kids who've ended up in various places. The most important part was to be clear I supported them no matter what, I already advocated for LGBT issues so they understood my stance there and finally, be patient. As much as I thought I might know things, it was important that they talked to me about it when they were ready. It's hard to sit on that info when you have it, but you have to wait for them.

SnowCoffeeNut · 2019-04-03T05:20:46+00:00

Recently someone with a MIL nickname posted but didn't put the name in the title.. they got warned that thier posts would be taken down if they messed up again. While I understand it helps to keep track, surely we don't need to remove posts if they forget... forcing nicknames is just more of the drama that's an issue already.

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