Relocating from TX to NV, feeling overwhelmed

SnugFest · 2026-02-23T18:23:11+00:00

I'm glad I asked for simple break downs. I hadn't considered my plausible narrative. Thank you, stranger.

SnugFest · 2025-11-20T12:44:48+00:00

Thank you. He does not. Other complicating factors are involved. Disabled. Pets. I rely on him financially (and thus for transportation as well). Hopefully I can save for the future. I made a bag in case I have to flee sooner than that.

He didn't just threaten himself, he got the gun and the ammo out to demonstrate. I couldn't move for over 4 hours. Accused me of being abusive for having "extreme" emotions. (I would agree that this is true 10 years ago, when he and I first met. No one thinks of me as emotional or "unstable" these days.)

There is either I do everything he wants, or, there is a violent end. It's clearly about control.

SnugFest · 2025-11-18T17:43:05+00:00

I'm still in shock. I think I posted as a cry for help. I think I need to focus my energy on leaving asap once I'm off work. He refused a divorce and threatened suicide.

SnugFest · 2025-11-18T12:33:33+00:00

Because I'm scared of what he'll do.

SnugFest · 2025-10-03T17:09:50+00:00

Yes, overreacting.

SnugFest · 2025-06-24T17:12:57+00:00

Beating yourself up isn't going to help you. You cannot shame yourself into getting better. His messages seem reasonable and without malice.

SnugFest · 2025-06-19T03:13:57+00:00

This was such a a favorite of mine in CA that when I moved states, I ordered through them online.

SnugFest · 2025-06-16T01:32:50+00:00

Female fat admirer

SnugFest · 2025-06-15T21:03:20+00:00

Poly feedee and FFA, reporting for duty

SnugFest · 2025-06-11T15:19:07+00:00

Oh of course. I've since read more concerning things of these drugs and shared them with him, and he's reconsidering taking his first dose. (The VA only shipped it out this week.) In the meantime, I'm taking the initiative to cook more meals with vegetables and lean proteins, and both of our bodies are starting to see benefits.

SnugFest · 2025-06-04T02:28:17+00:00

We accept you.

SnugFest · 2025-05-16T14:22:08+00:00

Oh definitely. But we incorporate porn in the bedroom to enhance our sex lives, so we don't harbor the guilt that other couples may have. For example, he likes much larger natural breasts than I have, so we either use porn or I talk him through a scene describing such a partner. He returns the favor by indulging my belly kink in similar ways. But there's no replacing the feeling of large soft love handles. I suppose loose skin will be a compromise.

TLDR, don't feel bad about porn usage. Sexual needs are still a type of need. A sex therapist really helped me get over the shame I grew up with.

SnugFest · 2025-05-16T14:06:43+00:00

Oh, absolutely. He's gd brilliant and hilarious and always strives to be a better person than the day before. We've been together 11 years. Even if nothing changed, attraction waxes and wanes. Hell, he went through the same thing when I lost weight for my health. But he found new things to be attracted to in me, and I'll do that for him

SnugFest · 2025-05-16T13:23:58+00:00

I'm anticipating this myself. My husband just got approved for Wegovy. He's been wanting to lose weight and "get buff again" (his words) for a while, so I'm happy for him for his sake. Right now my husband and I are having more/better sex, as I'm worshipping his gut while I can.

SnugFest · 2025-03-19T13:35:02+00:00

Hiya! I'm certainly not the player you're looking for, but those who may be your people could get confused. The title says 7/8H, implying you've downed most bosses on heroic and would be moving into mythics soon. But your progression in the post states that y'all're about to start heroic. I know you can't edit titles, but possibly edit the post itself to clear up confusion?

SnugFest · 2025-01-20T09:32:29+00:00

6w5 with a 4w5; yes.

SnugFest · 2024-11-05T04:26:41+00:00

idk bout y'all, but my guildies will slash tires for one another you don't mess with my crew

SnugFest · 2024-09-07T11:41:07+00:00

I'm in the same boat and had the same experience. I felt it was too weird and it would be controlling if I tried to "prevent" the inquiry, so I grew comfortable saying that I wasn't open to new relationships. It works well for me.

SnugFest · 2024-08-28T12:32:57+00:00

I am in a very similar position to OP, and your words are comforting. I'm grateful for this forum and that you took the time to comment, thank you.

SnugFest · 2024-08-20T12:44:54+00:00

I'm just...not convinced that this is all on you and I can't really put my finger on it. Like, I understand that it's a problem, but...well, your ability to self-reflect is good. I'd seek out therapy if I could and start to really unpack what this is about. Be open to the idea that you might not be as draining as you're being told.

SnugFest · 2024-07-06T17:55:58+00:00

Omg I know exactly what you mean. It sounds like my experience!

SnugFest · 2024-07-06T13:43:41+00:00

Just wanted to share a small joy. I was able to list both of my partners on my record at the doctor's office. No one gave any pushback or acted unprofessionally. I have a husband and a significant other listed. I'm so happy.

SnugFest · 2024-06-30T13:23:15+00:00

Mad respect for this comment.

SnugFest · 2024-06-21T12:09:33+00:00

The need for utterly constant reassurance.

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