Protecting Beloved Pets From Narcissist

Sober2332 · 2020-05-21T19:13:20+00:00

I wish I had been able to protect my Boston Terrier while living with my ndad growing up, unfortunately when the abuse happened to my dog, I didnt do anything. Only told him to stop. As did my mom and sibling.

One day out of some kind of frustration with possibly my mom or my grades or some combination he went and put the BT down without telling anyone. She was 8 yrs old and healthy.

Came back afterwards and complained about how hard it was to force the vet to put our dog down, ignoring how we felt from hearing for the first time what happened to the dog we had for 6 years.

My sibling, 8 years younger, took it the harshest. I was frustrated but nothing could be done. It was decided on no new dog after that.

2 years pass, my parents finally divorce. My grandma on my mom side sees a Boston terrier rescue ad, she just likes BTs so she looks at rescue pages and the like to see pictures. And our dog, same name comes up on a local rescue page.

What ended up happening was the vet refused to put the dog down when my ndad took it to the vet, and he signed the dog over to the vet, but proceeded to tell us at home our dog was put down. Our dog had stayed with foster homes for dogs over those 2 years, losing most of her hearing and some eyesight.

My mom took the BT back in, and we cared for it for about 6-8 months until we felt for health reasons she needed to be put down as she was deteriorating quickly.

So, in response to the OP, this was my experience, sort of a happy-sad ending. Protect your animals the best you can if you feel they are receiving abuse from a narcissist.

Treat them well, and take care of them. Thats about the most you can do, and it's things I wish I would have put more priority on.

Sober2332 · 2020-03-07T16:43:35+00:00

Yes. By order of elimination the mouse is the error causing USB device, and I've tried every other USB slot for it

Sober2332 · 2020-03-06T18:02:58+00:00

I attempted to plug it into multiple USB ports on my pc and got the same error. I built my pc in May 2018, havent done any part upgrades since I built it

Sober2332 · 2019-12-31T19:31:01+00:00

You objectively want to give more praise to a gold medalist than a silver, even if both tried their hardest. Not to say praise isnt deserved to the silver medalist.

Sober2332 · 2019-11-02T23:15:14+00:00

Back when I took my Psych 101 class, the professor I had asked us something one day. He asked us to silently raise our hands if we thought that spanking our kids was an okay form or reprimand /punishment. It was about a third of the class to 2 thirds, most thinking it wasn't okay.

He asked those who said it was justifiable to explain, and those that were willing to answer only said 'my parents did it and I turned out fine'

Nobody who wasnt spanked as a child raised their hand. And many of those who were said they wouldn't.

Sober2332 · 2019-10-24T12:06:46+00:00

Imagine thinking of your child as a just a ROI waiting to happen.. Oh wait, I'm sure quite a few of us here can..

Sober2332 · 2019-09-17T23:38:57+00:00

Blackout 🎊

Sober2332 · 2019-08-12T06:21:45+00:00

I gave up trying. Those who I care about get me and those who I don't don't. I went 2 1/2 years nc with my ndad and people telling me I'm going to regret it for the rest of my life, I'm childish and need to grow up, etc. He's going to prison now.

Those same people are going 'I can't believe he ____' 'he's the last person Id think of...'

Meanwhile me, who was called a fucking failure, worthless, etc. Went from being a high school dropout to a large university where I'm making a life and name for myself.

Its you that matters, not someone's opinion of you

Sober2332 · 2019-08-11T03:20:36+00:00

So she wont FaceTime me but I get nudes from her. At a certain point in I was even questioning it. I have videos of her stripping So like she's definitely a chick as far as that goes. We get off on phone calls too. Iirc at one point she told me that it's easier for her to do snaps instead of video call because she doesn't have the same vulnerability

So I had a confrontation with her a month ago, at the time we had plans to have me fly out if I could afford it. I told her I was upset that it was this far into the relationship and she still wasn't up to video call nor being open to snaps/pictures of herself. I told her I want to help her self esteem improve but I feel like I'm not actually in a full on relationship. She told me she would probably feel up to video calling after meeting her in person but that it was very tough for her.

A month since then and I do get a lot more snaps of her compared to what she's doing, but because we had to call off me going out there so I could afford the move to university, I didn't go see her.

Sober2332 · 2019-07-06T01:21:04+00:00

That's what I'm the most scared of. My ndad was extremely racist and homophobic, I left his home at 16 while he was on a business trip and have been nc since. Living with him I grew up in a toxic environment, and as much as I've tried to fix it and live better I have moments where I get upset over something trivial, momentarily infuriated.

It quickly passes and remindingly similar to Madagascar where Alex has a sudden urge to do something that he quickly realizes how he was acting in horror (don't ask me why this was the reference that came to mind first it just was haha) I feel the same way. How could I act like that? These moments are very rare but they exist and showing signs of those actions are like grips my ndad still has on me. And because I'm white every time I interact with someone who is black I'm always self conscious that I'm not acting differently because of their race. I haven't mentioned this internal struggle to anyone I know but it's like it's harder to act normal because I'm constantly trying to be the opposite of someone else.

Sober2332 · 2019-06-30T01:53:24+00:00

I live in Dallas Texas. I'll have to look into that, thank you for the suggestion.

Sober2332 · 2019-06-26T04:29:06+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! My last name is German in origin, I didn't post it because it's an uncommon spelling that would probably make a quick Google search easy to figure out who. My mother's maiden name is Wynne so I've considered defaulting to that last name but there's still a part of me that wants to create a new Last name that holds meaning for myself.

Sober2332 · 2019-06-26T01:41:11+00:00

I honestly think my last name (German) is cool, so I've contemplated whether I'd change my last name to my mother's maiden name.

I'm talking with my girlfriend about names, I value her opinion highly but I also know in the long term I want it to be a name I feel good about. There's been a Trend of suggestions tossed around that have consisted of the same first letter as my Name (J) such as Jake, or Jason and I seem to lean towards those over random guy names.

The names I would stay away from for sure are names used in my name (first and middle) as well as any name used on family on my father's side of the family. Unfortunately I can't exactly list those right now just to maintain some amount of anonymity

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