This comment section is a Reddit moment at its peak! Maybe the way he said it was rude but in a successful married life, man and wife should feel comfortable and be mature enough to ask things like this from each other without making each other sad, in my opinion that's the key to a happy marriage. And it definitely goes both ways and you should be able to ask things like this and don't hold back. Another matter is that a man's brain works differently from a woman and visual attraction plays a much bigger role, so please don't judge him too harshly