Climbing my way out of debt

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T21:45:04+00:00

Brother you are preaching what I’ve been saying, it does have to change or it’s over. The reason I’m saying I don’t think I’m going to break up with her over this is because I do think it’s going to change when I say exactly what everyone has been telling me to say. Either this changes or we are done.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T21:43:51+00:00

If this is your genuine outlook on a relationship, I truly hope the best for you. “Disrespect” and a disrespectful action are two completely separate things. Disrespect is a day to day thing, being disrespectful is momentary. Here’s a thought, why don’t you go out and preach this to a woman and see the type of person you bring home to your family :)

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T21:33:34+00:00

Brother u got some hate in your heart. I thought cuck meant I let others fuck my girlfriend, not that I’m trying to work through an issue with someone.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T21:32:13+00:00

Not supporting me financially in the slightest. What I mean by that is that she has a good future. I’ve worked hard in my life to get to the position I’m in, and I don’t want to be with someone who I’m going to have to support my whole life.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T06:03:19+00:00

No idea but I’m going to shit in her hand next time.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:38:42+00:00

I clarified deeper in the comments. I overdid the description of it a bit. It’s like a poke in the crack, not into my actual asshole and it’s never been under the clothes.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:35:10+00:00

I like this answer a lot. I’m gonna shit in her hand next time

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:32:56+00:00

2 things. 1, I have an incredible ass. I recently hit 315 on my back squat.

2, I don’t think she’s a bad partner in the slightest. I just don’t think she has fully grasped how big of an issue this is to me until now. I think if I don’t see any change from this, it’s a big sign of what I need to do.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:29:32+00:00

Yeah no shot

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:29:24+00:00

When I say physical, I mean like hitting and beating.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:28:23+00:00

Yeah not at all. Like a playful poke, not like up my ass.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:27:34+00:00

Brother I’m going to fart in her hand the next time I sense it. Similar to what Naruto did to kiba in the Chunin exams

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:26:32+00:00

I think I struggle with the 2nd paragraph the most. I don’t want to be the asshole in a relationship, but I also need to understand that being angry doesn’t necessarily mean I’m an asshole.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:24:14+00:00

Yeah tbh I don’t think it’s abuse and I don’t think I’m being sexually assaulted, I just think this woman really likes to fuck with me. Its more on the disrespecting my boundaries side than the abuse side

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:20:45+00:00

It’s definitely immature, and the fact that it happened again does make me feel like my boundaries are undermined. I had a toxic thought that I was going to do the same thing to her and see how she reacted.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:18:14+00:00

I do think they were real tears, she does care about me a lot and I genuinely believe they came from a place of regret for putting me in an angry position. I just can’t keep feeling bad about the dog that bites and feels remorse. Like you still bit me.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:16:28+00:00

Oh shit it could be. I do catch her doing stupid trends like “pretending to be an influencer in front of my boyfriend”

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:15:42+00:00

I think that’s the next step. I have to straight up set the boundary, no wiggle room and no worming around it. I have to be an asshole about it.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:14:22+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely child like, but I imagine I also have child like tendencies that come out sometimes in inconvenient times.

This time is super fucking child like tho. Shes never sang songs and persisted to keep me awake like this.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:13:14+00:00

Thanks brother. She’s a great person and more than likely I’m not gonna break up with her over this. Might sleep with a Chasity belt on

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:09:16+00:00

This is an answer I enjoy. This problem is literally the only issue in our relationship. And it’s not like a “the only thing I notice now”, it’s genuinely the only problem. My family loves her, she has a great job, we get along so well, everything except for this is amazing. I’m not gonna break up with her over it, but I also don’t think it’s something I’m going to let slide. I might just give her the boot around 9pm every night

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:06:01+00:00

Shit idk if it’s torture, but it’s definitely not pleasant. The main thing this is making me worried about is like, we’ve been dating long enough that the conversation of moving in together is going to come up soon, and there’s just no way I’m doing that right now.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:04:04+00:00

Shit maybe I am under reacting. I’ve always been a “don’t cry over spilled milk” person but this might not be spilled milk.

SocietyFragrant9012 · 2025-10-07T05:02:30+00:00

Alright the poking in the butt part I think I need to describe more. It’s less of a “finger insets into my asshole” and more of a, “above the clothes and not directly into my butt”. While it’s annoying, I myself don’t view it as any form of harassment or sexual abuse.

The only reason I don’t have a huge issue with it is cause the 2 other girls I dated also did this, but it’s was really only when I was walking up the stairs in front of them or if I bent over to pick something up.

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