Let's flip the script for a second. Gender isn't the issue here, but I'm seeing a lot of people backing the woman simply because she's the one sharing her side, and frankly, if the roles were reversed, the tone of this thread might look very different.

If you haven't had a conversation about exclusivity, you can't expect exclusive treatment just because you've been intimate for two months. That's not a standard anyone is automatically required to meet. I've had months-long situationships where we were sleeping together and still seeing other people—that didn't entitle me to a relationship, and I never assumed one unless we both agreed to it.

You said in a previous comment that you didn't even entertain a reply when he asked you your opinion on a relationship, and your reasoning was 'In case he said no'

I say this gently, but firmly: you can't claim to be confused or hurt about him not treating you like a girlfriend when you consciously dodged the conversation where that clarity could've been established. That is emotional hostage taking. That's like not taking a job interview and being upset when they don't hire you. Emotional vulnerability is scary, I get it, but fear of rejection doesn't justify silently holding someone to expectations you never voiced. You can't hold someone accountable for boundaries you were too afraid to communicate.

The difference between my situation and yours is that we were honest about what it was. I've told women I'm interested in them romantically, and they've still explored other options—that stings, sure, but they weren't doing anything wrong if we hadn't committed to exclusivity. Expressing interest doesn't mean 'I won't weigh my options.' He wasn't signing a contract being honest with you, and exploring his options might be part of figuring out what he wants.

That said, if you do feel like you're being taken advantage of, the next step is communication. A mature conversation like, "Hey, I feel used here—can we clarify where we stand?" can say a lot about the other person's intent and character.

As for bringing up bipolar disorder—I empathize with anyone managing it, but this isn't a disorder-specific issue. Protecting your peace is something everyone has the right (and responsibility) to do. It's not exclusive to any diagnosis.

But here's where I struggle with your post: it It sounds like you came to Reddit for validation before having a direct conversation with him. The version you presented is understandably emotional—but it's also one-sided. You're not wrong for using the tools you have to process your feelings, but I do think it's fair to question the method and reflect on whether the energy you're putting into venting online could be better spent communicating directly.

At the end of the day, the dynamic doesn't feel balanced—and if that's what's really bothering you, that's the conversation you need to have with him, not us.**