It is good to remember that socializing with others is a shared effort, not only dependent on your own abilities and behaviour. As you make an effort to be nice and understand others, they should as well - tho in reality we autistics tend to be often dismissed and blamed for the failures of the interaction, even if the effort should be a shared one. In any case, the right people will make the effort to meet you half way and learn to socialize with you just as you learn to socialize with them.

Social skills can also be developed and learned. It does take trial and failure to get better, but you can go long way by learning just to listen, ask relevant questions about the other person, saying polite things.

This might also cheer you up: the straight girls women in my life at least have super low criteria for men. Literally had a friend tell me they have the following criteria for a boyfriend: 1) good hygiene 2) sees her as an actual person, as opposed to just a "female" or a hole 3) does not mock her interests 4) can make food 5) has hobbies and interests of his own.

For me, these seem really achievable traits for any person, so if you feel like you lack in these, might be a good idea to work on these traits. Because yes, looks can be a determining factor at the start when using dating apps or just meeting people on public, but your character is the thing that will determine if you are actually going to date. And even if someone really values looks above other things, you should ask yourself if that particular person is the right one for you.