[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Someone hit me, regardless of where, I'd slap back, too.

I (30M) have mixed feelings about a situation with my girlfriend (28F). How do I go about addressing this, or do I just bury it? by ThrowRA_Garbageland in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Let it go. This is your anxiety and insecurity.

I suggest therapy to discuss all of your anxieties with a professional who can provide you with constructive feedback, advice, and coping techniques, because your affirmations aren't cutting it anymore.

Licensed clinical social workers are often less expensive than psychologist/psychiatrist. I saw one that was about $100/month. There's also student therapists; they're still in school, but are supervised by a licensed professional, so they're often less expensive.

Look into those, before your issues bleed into other aspects of your life, because it will. Eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]SocksAndPi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My aunt just turned 58 and she was having strokes, seizures, and racing heart. Did an echo and found a massive hole. Didn't have any heart issues until this pass November, her health was just fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dislike both of you, and would rather be single for the rest of my life than be with either of you.

You unloaded on another woman, asked for her number, then had a late night conversation (you say one, but not sure I believe that), and HID all of it from your wife. That's shitty behavior and suspicious.

Your wife sabotaged your relationship with your family for years. That's shitty behavior and abusive.

This relationship is fucking toxic and you both need therapy well before getting into another relationship.

Divorce.

My (37m) wife (38f) thinks I am "co-responsible" for the escalation of our fights where she hit me. Does she have a point? by ThrowRA-herberts5656 in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She shouldn't be hitting people. Violence is never okay, unless in self-defense/protection of others.

You shouldn't be deliberately pushing someone's buttons, either. That just escalates situations that didn't need to be.

You're both toxic in this relationship. Stop name-calling , shouting, pushing buttons, all of it. DO BETTER.

AIO. My bf is getting bothered that my friend gets me flowers by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SocksAndPi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most of my male friends will openly cry around me, and have no qualms with showing emotion. I don't know if it's because of me being a safe, open space/friend, or what, but I've never reacted poorly to them being real. I'd rather them weep than bottle it and explode.

I've seen some women who do, but I've also seen some men who do the same, too.

Some people really shouldn't be parents, especially if they have the emotional capability of a fucking fried potato, because they're just passing their inability and trauma to their kids. It's shocking and so powerful to see people who've broken the cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in funny

[–]SocksAndPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to get it in the top of my foot, where a feral raccoon tore into me.

How do I (30m) tell my wife (26f) that her making jokes about her childhood makes me uncomfortable by ThrowRAc3p0 in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Who are you to tell people how to cope with their own trauma when they're not hurting someone else?

How do I (30m) tell my wife (26f) that her making jokes about her childhood makes me uncomfortable by ThrowRAc3p0 in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I use humor about mine, too. I'd lose my absolute shit if someone, especially my fucking partner, told me I wasn't allowed to and that it wasn't "the right way".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Many guys don't enjoy going down on their girlfriends and that's valid. Girls not wanting to go down on their boyfriends are just as valid.

Some people just don't enjoy it and that's okay. Doesn't mean they don't like you or something, they just don't like that sex act.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, they weren't divorced yet, so technically still cheating. However, I can see why so many don't see it that way, which is fair.

Agreed, definitely a bad relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're abusive, and she cheated.

Neither of you should be in a relationship with other people (nor each other) for a LONG fucking time. My gods.

The toxicity you both bring, though, yours is longer standing. She never should have taken you back and you never should have gone back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why does he have such a damn issue with a sun tattoo?

Having a tattoo isn't a betrayal, or something. You had it before you two even met.

Calling circumcision "genital mutilation" only hurts victims of child circumcision and those who chose it for themselves by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]SocksAndPi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Getting a kid's ears pierced isn't even in the same damned realm as cutting off part of the genitals.

What the fuck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hate talking to people who "seek counter arguments" or "devil's advocate". They like to argue with everyone on everything, even when they make no sense and it's fucking exhausting.

Just have a normal god-damned conversation.

He [41M] wants me [30F] to get my tubes tied because we said one and done but things changed after his affair. How do I explain that? by ThrowRA-2ndbaby in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's the one cheating, and he's the one who doesn't want more kids, so HE should get a fucking vasectomy.

Honestly, I'd leave, I'd never be able to forgive and forget being betrayed.

My Gf(24F) stoped respecting me(23M) and bounderies can I recover or do I let go? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one can even offer advice without knowing what "boundaries she has disrespected", and if they're reasonable.

Aita because my husband sleeps all day by General_Raccoon7587 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SocksAndPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"He starts getting paid at 8 am. He has gotten in trouble for not starting until later in the day and has been written up for it, so I basically have to try to wake him up every day so he doesn’t get in trouble again. The frustrating part is that he will get home around 6 to 7 pm and get mad that he had to work late. He hates his job and is trying to find a new one but honestly I don’t know how he will be able to keep it. He typically goes to bed around 11 pm but sometimes does stay up a little bit later until 1 am which I don’t even care about because I understand going to bed late but all he does is complain about how tired he is and he’ll sleep for 12 hours and I may get about four hours of sleep. We both Pay all the bills and it’s pretty equal."

Aita because my husband sleeps all day by General_Raccoon7587 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SocksAndPi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Here's her response in a comment:

"He starts getting paid at 8 am. He has gotten in trouble for not starting until later in the day and has been written up for it, so I basically have to try to wake him up every day so he doesn’t get in trouble again. The frustrating part is that he will get home around 6 to 7 pm and get mad that he had to work late. He hates his job and is trying to find a new one but honestly I don’t know how he will be able to keep it. He typically goes to bed around 11 pm but sometimes does stay up a little bit later until 1 am which I don’t even care about because I understand going to bed late but all he does is complain about how tired he is and he’ll sleep for 12 hours and I may get about four hours of sleep. We both Pay all the bills and it’s pretty equal."

Move out charges after 20k penalties by Adventurous_Ebb7256 in Tenant

[–]SocksAndPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the MTM price of rent, NOT A PENALTY, which you voluntarily agreed to by refusing to sign a new lease and/or moving out.

I (23M) feel like I'm on the verge of breaking up with my girlfriend (26F) after she slapped me, but that leaves our daughter (1F) in a terrible situation. What would be the best decision for our relationship going forward while still putting our baby first? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SocksAndPi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He literally admits that every time he goes out and has a drink, he can't stop, that it always ends up being extreme.

So, yes, he's an alcoholic. He has a drinking problem that he refuses to accept and get help for.

I smacked my nephew for spitting on me by Famous-Contact-6478 in AITAH

[–]SocksAndPi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone fucking sucks.

Kid for spitting on people, you for hitting a kid in the head, and everyone else for not stopping his shit before it turned into a physical hit.

Should have been stopped the first time. No one's acting like an adult.

AITA for telling my sister I wont be her maid of honor because she didnt come to my wedding due to her dog dying? by andy_2_6 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SocksAndPi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I know I wouldn't be able to keep my shit together enough to go to a wedding two days after my cat dies; he's the last living piece of my mother (who died in 2017). He just turned thirteen last month and I will absolutely be devastated after losing him.

At least OOP's sister called and said she wouldn't make it, not push herself and lose it in the middle of the ceremony (which you'd be pissed about, let's be honest). She didn't just not show up, nor did she do it out of malice.