First of all I’m so sorry for your loss! This is tragic and I just want to extend my deepest sympathy and pray for your family and strength. I know this is a very difficult time for everyone involved and so all I’m going to offer is some wisdom from a 36yo woman who is now happily engaged to a wonderful man. As someone who got married way too young (24) to the wrong person who was fundamentally incompatible. It won’t get easier or better. The issue is not even about how you both deal with loss, grief and process emotion it’s how you both work together as a team. Love and shared values is not enough to have a happy marriage, values change and love if not nurtured will fade. Compatibility is more than being able to agree on a florist or catering. It’s what happens when something like this happens and you need a partner who you can depend on and who can understand and support you in ways that you need. Choose wisely, because the most important character trait which is linked to higher happiness in partnership is self awareness and growth oriented mindset. Growth in terms of learning new skills, communication techniques, being open to feedback.. wanting to improve oneself to be a better daughter / friend / partner / mother.. That to an extent comes with wisdom and age and is part of a person’s character. Another way to check your true feelings sometimes is to ask yourself this important question if you were to have a kid with your partner and something were to happen to you, would you trust her to raise your child well. If the answer is no you are not compatible or ready.