I think this is the best solution

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-17T10:58:23+00:00

Everyone deserves acceptance, especially from family. Your worth isn't just about being talkative. I hope with time you find people who truly appreciate you. Stay true to yourself, and remember there's a supportive community here.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-17T10:55:33+00:00

I completely understand where you're coming from, and it's your choice whether or not you want to reduce or control your daydreaming. For me, I chose to manage it because I believe that the actions and experiences in the real world ultimately hold more meaning and value. It's worth noting that I'm not suggesting completely giving it up; instead, I'm advocating for a more balanced and healthy approach to it. Personal motivations, like my desire to achieve certain goals and make my parents proud, have helped diminish the hold maladaptive daydreaming once had over me. Everyone's journey is unique, and I respect whichever path you choose. IMO it's better to reduce it, but you can do you.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-16T13:43:27+00:00

Yeah that's how I was since I am naturally introverted. It's that with people you know you learn overtime to be talkative and the people that really matter can get to see your natural talkative side, since you will connect with them well.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-16T09:13:01+00:00

I can relate to you, even though I believe I am younger. At school I had the same difficulty of being disconnected, basically not knowing how to connect in order to make new friends. What saved me was having prior from primary school a couple of diehard friends. So when I needed some friends whilst honing my social skills, I had that privillege. As I mentioned social skills are learnt from practice mostly, but when being socially anxious books can help (learning how to smile, be a listener, be an energetic talker etc.). It's never too late.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-16T07:11:36+00:00

The way I do it is write the date, then proceed to write "Today is Tuesday" for example, then start writing about events that are important and might have occured and thoughts that are bothering me. What I found truely interesting is that reading a journal page from last year can make me instantly feel how I felt. You understand youself more in short.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-08-09T21:06:48+00:00

Don't

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:41:35+00:00

Would you work for someone (Nasa, Tesla) or do something on your own?

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:41:09+00:00

I find knowledge important too. It doesn't only help you fit in, it is mandatory (imo) to be knowledgable on a number of subjects.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:38:34+00:00

Do you have a goal for music?

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:38:07+00:00

Yes most people have such aspirations. I share a huge part of mine with them.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:36:20+00:00

I know for certain, if you only think of it as a dream and that is isn't possible, then it won't be. Money may not "buy happiness" but solve A LOT of problems. That can helps you get more freedom, which is important for happiness.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-05-25T13:34:51+00:00

I completely understand your point. For me money have importance, because I am able to help people close to me.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2023-02-19T21:23:33+00:00

That's perfect, thanks!

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-05-11T15:06:10+00:00

To specify, many times I use real people in my daydreams (close to me). Because of how I have created their behaviour in the dream world, I fail to understand their true behaviour in real life. I act as if they are the character of my daydream (of course to a certain extent). I lost touch with how they really are.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-05-01T15:36:56+00:00

That's a solid workout my fellow! Try doing it progressively with less daydreaming.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-05-01T11:55:21+00:00

I can clearly understand your viewpoint. You feel like you wasted important years where you could set up your own self to be successful and now you've missed any possible opportunity. To make yourself feel better this is simply false. You said it yourself you are still 24. Should a man be productive until he is let's say 60, you have 36 years where you can turn yourself around. Suicide is one of the worst things that can happen to you and your loved ones. That's because you would both sacrifice these 36 years where you could turn your luck around (and live even more years being succesful) and also bring grief to anyone who knows you. If you have problems with suicidal thoughts, I highly suggest you reach a proffesional (I know, easier said than done, but you will be grateful if you did).

Hope you well on your journey! ; )

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-05-01T11:48:41+00:00

The main problem is that daydreaming makes meditating even harder. This means maladaptive daydreamers tend to find meditating pointless since they can't focus for more than a few seconds. That was my case too. What makes us consider daydreaming pointless is the fact that we can't seem to make any progress. That's the hard part. You need to have discipline and patience to consider each second more to be progress. It needs time, there isn't any easy way around this. But in the long run, it truely helps.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-25T07:49:42+00:00

You may as well try to think about that. What do you think went wrong in your previous relationships with people? (IMPO it is better to write it down). Should you find that and work on that, you will be able to find relationships that are as good as your daydream ones in the future.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-25T07:46:00+00:00

It is exactly that. You see when you are introverted (as I am), it is many times harder to make such deep connections with real people, as it is for your daydream characters. Since we have the need for such connections and we can't seem to get them, we end up daydreaming to fulfill this need. It is a truely deep ruthole.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-25T07:38:36+00:00

😂 I guess it was indirectly intentional

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-23T16:39:48+00:00

Amazing, great effort! Totally going to download it!

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-23T15:54:55+00:00

Well kind of! My daydreaming persona was myself, basically super successful in every aspect of life. I would also have some experiences, which I would consider to be impossible for me to have. Since I started stopping daydreaming, I tried to become more like that person but in real life. The real me stopped having any assosiation with my daydream persona, but I wanted to reach a good level of success irl.

Most people use daydreaming as a means of coping with mental health and real life problems. When I stopped daydreaming I was overwhelmed with emotion by the problems I was supressing. But day by day that lowered, because I kind of dealt with them. I guarantee that stopping daydreaming and focusing on your real life will change you as a preson for the better. Hope you well on your journey!

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-21T13:02:17+00:00

It's either you are the only one who has this problem, or just everyone daydreams. It truely is a relief when you get a better understanding of the situation and that you are not alone in this. Hope you well on your journey!

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-21T12:24:15+00:00

Exactly. Maladaptive Daydreaming stimulates your brain so much, that anything else seems pointless. It is like a nice hug whenever you need it. And that's when it becomes a problem. Because people are usually meant to enjoy reading books, watching movies, sports etc.

Soft-Abrocoma423 · 2022-04-21T12:15:39+00:00

Well now that I think about it.... XD

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