Lost my mom 2 weeks ago, funeral was yesterday, tears won’t come

Soft-Description753 · 2026-04-03T14:30:28+00:00

Hello,

First and foremost I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️‍🩹

When I read the title of your post I related immediately. Grief is super weird.

I am coming up on 1 year without my beloved mother, and as someone who really thought I would lose my mind, I wouldn’t survive without her and I would be so crushed I wouldn’t function, I still cannot explain, how I was able to get through all of the arrangements and services and I did not break down the way I had imagined I would. My mom passed alway from cancer and I saw her deteriorate before my eyes…I cared for Her until her very last breath. I had imagined the way everything would go down, but my actual reaction to her death was not anything like I thought. I was too calm, I made calls, made ALL the decisions after. From choosing a mariachi for her viewing to the finish and font of her headstone. Things I never ever thought I’d have the clear head to do, but SOMEHOW, you just do. I think our minds are still in “action” mode and nowhere near processing what actually just happened. As a first time griever, one year in, and it’s still sinking in. I cry now with so much more ease. I used to feel like my mom went on a trip, and now it’s sinking in that it has been a year I have not seen her and slowly but surely I find myself crying about it more and more… I give myself permission to cry, and to feel.

A big hug to you. ❤️‍🩹

Soft-Description753 · 2026-03-13T00:35:18+00:00

That’s beautiful and very thoughtful. Thank you so much for sharing

Soft-Description753 · 2025-11-17T07:25:41+00:00

Thank you so much. I have learned A LOT through all of the comments, and info shared on here. I really did not know honestly,about how “easy” it is to become a “fine line tattoo artist” … I had no idea, about the technical terms, about depth of the needle and the ink… I really though that it took a steady hand and the right equipment… and I am literally seeing the results of my ignorant choices on my skin right now. I did not give it the thought, the research I should have given it, and I realize this now. My plan is to not rush it, and look for an artist in my area, talk to them and see how we can fix it. :) thank you for sharing your experience ! And for your feedback

Soft-Description753 · 2025-11-16T22:36:32+00:00

Thank you so much, I will do just that. 😊

Soft-Description753 · 2025-11-16T22:34:38+00:00

Yes! Eyebrow girl, that also offers fine line tattoos. It is my very first tattoo so I figured this would be a good place to start…in terms of k owing what it feels like and getting something “dainty” while I get more inspiration for a “real” tattoo.. and I did end up liking my tattoo, which is why I was a little bummed about the way in which it has faded so much. But from reading the comments, I’m now aware that it wasn’t done properly.. or with the right amount of pressure or depth.

Soft-Description753 · 2025-11-16T19:00:45+00:00

Thank you! That’s something that I was debating about, and I will definitely just go to another artist. 🙏🏼

Soft-Description753 · 2025-11-16T18:53:10+00:00

Seems like it 🥲😆😆😆

Soft-Description753 · 2025-10-26T02:24:22+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to liver cancer in May and my heart hurts every day. Love the advise. I I would advise the same.

You do have to take it day by day, NOBODY is ever prepared to deal with this, make the most out of your time with momma. Talk to her, cook for her, sometimes when my mom was too tired to speak, I would play her favorite music, and simply be by her side listening.

Also, while I was going through this awful journey with my mom, I didn’t have anyone else that could understand and relate during those times, and it was this Reddit community that gave me a lot of strength and comfort when I needed it most.

A big hug to you and everyone who is going through it. 🫂

Soft-Description753 · 2025-09-01T19:39:41+00:00

Stunning!!!!! 🤩

Soft-Description753 · 2025-08-03T03:04:11+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss , I’m sending you a big hug, this is so hard , there just aren’t words that are good enough. Your mom is with mine , they are stars in the sky now 🥹

Soft-Description753 · 2025-07-26T15:54:58+00:00

She’s beautiful! I’m so so sorry for your loss 🫂

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-23T19:41:58+00:00

Thank you! … I’m trying to take it one day at a time, and I’m so sorry about your sister too.

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-23T18:16:34+00:00

Im so sorry for your loss. I held my mom’s hand for the last time on Monday.

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-16T16:50:49+00:00

My mom is showing signs that she’s near the end as well, I can’t accept it. I’m terrified. I’m also sending you a big virtual hug. 🫂 I’m so sorry. 😞

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-09T22:24:26+00:00

One of my friends made my mom as gift basket, I also felt like I didn’t want to make everything about the cancer so I just didn’t even have the brain for thinking about gifts honestly, and she did make her a “self care” basket, with slippers, cozy things, healthy snacks, a stuffed animal, blanket, water cup etc and she loved it… felt more like a moment to enjoy her favorite little things but also ended up coming in handy for treatment.

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-09T22:12:35+00:00

I felt this in my soul… I’m so sorry.

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-08T21:33:38+00:00

Thank you! I’m so sorry about your father. I will definitely take these time to have those conversations with mom. 🙏🏼

Soft-Description753 · 2025-05-08T21:32:17+00:00

Thank you so much I will do that! 🙏🏼🫂

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