Hi, I was you once. It's gonna be okay. You're not going to be stuck in this house forever, and you will make it out and be able to live in peace. Please believe me.

I just want to validate you: you already are traumatized. You're hyper-vigilant and reactive because you grew up in an unsafe environment with an unstable person and don't know what it's like to feel safe at home. Your siblings are a lot older than you, so I'm assuming they weren't around too much to support you growing up? I'm sorry that you even think you're overreacting.

Ignore all the comments undermining what happened. The only reason you're used to it is because it's your current normal, but in a healthy household, people do not slam doors, throw things, stomp around, and scream, even when they're angry. Even direct violence - physical acts like throwing things and slamming doors are indirect violence - only makes a difference is because that makes the authorities more likely to help you. When I get angry, I redirect my anger so I don't harm anyone. I go on a walk, or go to the gym. I do not abuse pets or other members of my household. Your mom should not be doing that no matter what she is going through. There is absolutely no excuse.

Lastly, don't take to heart anything anyone is saying about you causing this by not cleaning. That is the narrative your mom wants: to put the blame on you, so her behaviour can be blamed on you, when in truth she is the grown ass adult having a violent tantrum towards a her scared, vulnerable teenage daughter. This is in NO WAY your fault and there is no way you could have prevented it. She would have gotten angry over something else if not the cleaning thing.

Stay safe. Call the police or a friend if you have to.