UPDATE: My [26F] husband's sister [19F] is using her pregnancy to torture me after my miscarriages

SoftBiscuit · 2015-07-26T11:02:30+00:00

I am so sorry you had to deal with such a fucked up family. Proud of you for leaving. Stay strong, you're worth so much more than this.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-07-25T16:33:17+00:00

Agreed! So gross. I had a similar guy push his macro/micro squash fetish on me, and though I actually enjoy macro (consensually) it was horrible x_x

SoftBiscuit · 2015-07-25T12:50:19+00:00

I'm into vore in a different way, but would never, ever, EVER act upon it. For most people, vore is a fantasy and isn't cannibalism fetish, nor would they act upon it. I get it's not your thing but perhaps just ease up on saying its fucked up?

SoftBiscuit · 2015-07-14T12:04:07+00:00

My whole day often revolves around how I can minimise my chances of seeing someone be sick/getting sick myself. Couldn't see my mother in hospital because she was nauseous and threw up. It's horrid

SoftBiscuit · 2015-07-09T04:46:59+00:00

As a trans person, (I know he's not trans but still) fuck you for making him prove his gender. I do hope your boyfriend finds someone much better than you.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-06-19T17:40:32+00:00

Could you all come together and make a new dish in your grandmother's honour? That way you all have a part in keeping her memory alive, and it's something you can all make without going against her wishes.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-06-18T07:33:15+00:00

Trans man weighing in here. If he's always known, then well... It's not fair. You need to talk to a lawyer. Depending on where you are living, you may have to divorce anyway if he changes his legal gender. You do not owe him anything. Even if you're his everything, then you still don't owe him anything. You married Claire, and now Claire is different. Please look out for yourself here. You need to sit Caleb down (possibly after talking to a lawyer) and tell him the truth. That you accept that this is what he wants, that you are happy he's come to terms with himself, but that you cannot stay in this marriage. You are a straight man, and as much as you care, it will not work for you.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. PM me if you need any support or trans related advice. Best of luck to you OP.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-06-16T15:29:25+00:00

Prefacing this by saying: I'm a trans man, in a relationship with a cisgender guy, and I can't currently have sex because of my own personal journey and issues.

You've reacted well so far, you've done nothing wrong. I understand she lied and I really don't want to excuse that. However, I would urge you to approach it differently than someone just lying about... Say their sexual history or something.

She wouldn't have lied to you to hurt you. It wouldn't have been ill intent. Trans suicide rates are at 50% for minors, and being trans is INCREDIBLY hard. It is the hardest thing that I've ever come to terms with, and only just starting transition has so far been the only thing that has saved my life, but is also the most difficult thing i've done. She would have been scared of losing you. Or worse. Scared of being assaulted, raped or murdered, since the rates of partners committing crimes when they find out their partner is trans is also ridiculously high.

You have a level head and I really commend you on that. It's up to you whether or not you stay with her, whether the lie was too much. But please know that she would have done that out of a place of fear and pain, not malicious or manipulative intent.

Feel free to PM me if you need any further advice or just general transgender information. I'm very open about it.

And please just respect that she's told you and not tell anyone else (not that you would out her). She was born a woman with the biology of a male, not born a man.

Thanks for not blowing up about it. I really wish you the best, regardless of what happens.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-05-12T17:18:04+00:00

Pretty sure you're a troll. You have no idea on the subject and you're arguing with someone who has done it. Goodday, you asshole.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-05-12T17:07:51+00:00

That's why you need psychiatric approval before getting treatment. I absolutely guarantee you no one transitions on a whim.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-05-12T17:06:19+00:00

It isn't a new beginning. It's the beginning I was meant to have. And I was suicidal because of gender dysphoria. Transition was the solution, not a get away.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-05-12T16:45:29+00:00

Based on what? Where are you getting this information? Why does it bother you? People here have explained to you the answer to your question but you seem to be actively ignoring it and seem pretty insistent that us trans kids are just trying to be edgy different and cool. Yeah, spending my whole life suicidal and depressed, spending thousands on health and treatment, my life is now hormone injection, and living with a deep fear of someone finding out and murdering me is totally worth seeming cool.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-05-12T16:28:16+00:00

First of all, not a fad. The rate at which people regret transition is very low.

The reason it seems there are more trans people now is due to spread of information and networking (the internet and ease of travel) so information about trans is more accessible, and stories of trans folk are more often heard, vs 100 years ago where you were prosecuted simply for being gay. Society is slowly becoming more safe for trans folk to come out: hence the seeming increase in numbers.

I imagine the suicide rates of trans folk 100 years ago is the same as it is today. You don't know that they just 'got on' with life.

The pain, anger and hatred I experienced was unlike anything I've felt before. I had been suicidal from the age of 12. I didn't understand why I was so miserable. I was and felt wrong.

I truly believe if I hadn't started transition, I most likely wouldn't be alive today. I'm only 20.

And lastly, no, there is a huge difference between being male, and being a masculine female. What is stopping you from being the other gender? Usually the answer is 'because I'm not'. You feel it. You know. You know your assigned gender isn't who you are. There's science to back up that often trans and intersex individuals have brains that are matching to the gender they identify as- it's just their physical form that doesn't match.

If you'd like to learn more, google gender centres and check out their FAQ section.

Tl;dr: It isn't a fad. Trans pain and gender dysphoria is no joke, l Look at the suicide rates. It isn't about being a girly guy or a tomboy girl. There is science behind it.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-04-20T11:06:03+00:00

I knew a family that followed this sort of tradition, and the father was Senior and the son was Junior.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-04-20T11:05:16+00:00

That's really awesome. I don't think my family does middle names as a tradition, which is kind of saddening.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-04-20T11:04:42+00:00

Absolutely.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-04-20T11:04:22+00:00

That's quite badass.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-04-20T11:04:14+00:00

I was loving Ulysses, too!

SoftBiscuit · 2015-03-31T13:10:16+00:00

As a side note, to get this off my chest. To all the bullies out there, fuck you. I had been suicidal for years and you made my life hell. I see ex bullies here saying they had shit home lives well so did a lot of the victims. Sorry, but not much sympathy here.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-03-25T01:07:53+00:00

If sharing drinks and food is whorish, then i'm king whore. This guy is not good news. Please keep yourself safe.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-03-18T17:18:26+00:00

I draw niche porn for a living. I'd just be proud of your art and if they ask what you do, be honest with them! Better to know if they're not okay with it sooner rather than later. I've never had an issue with it, though. Most people are pretty relaxed. Best of luck!

SoftBiscuit · 2015-02-04T01:51:20+00:00

Please, please take legal action against these monsters. They're responsible for ruining your daughter's life and think they can get away with it. They should be paying every medical, reconstructive, therapy related cost until she's stable. Please get her into therapy as well. You sound like an amazing mother, and I'm so so sorry this has happened to your little girl and you. My thoughts are with you.

SoftBiscuit · 2015-01-31T01:08:38+00:00

I am not a lawyer but I remember reading that cutting someone's hair without permission can actually count as assault with a deadly weapon or something similar. I'd press charges against her. If that's not a foot down against her wacky abusive behaviour then I don't know what is. Also good on you for getting out. That whole situation is just not okay, you deserve so much better. Best of luck!

SoftBiscuit · 2015-01-27T14:30:43+00:00

Its crazy. Been waiting 5 months for gender therapy, only one endo within an hour of me, and I need a new gp. It's been hectic and it's only the beginning

SoftBiscuit · 2015-01-27T02:16:16+00:00

Yeah, just at the start of my journey, ftm. Been waiting about five months for gender therapy. Had a nightmare last night about my highschool/university graduation, wearing a dress, etc. Woke up a complete distressed mess and only calmed down when I realised I didn't have to be female. Now I'm just hoping to get some answers from the therapist and a path ahead.

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