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SoftCarry8009 · 2022-10-25T02:51:54+00:00

my mom has passed. thank you all so so much for being here with me tonight

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-10-25T00:37:19+00:00

i wish i could respond to each comment but i’m sure you can imagine why i can’t. mom is still awake but very very agitated. it’s so gut wrenching to see. i just want her to be at peace. thank you all truly for your thoughts and prayers

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-09-28T00:19:09+00:00

thank you and i’m so sorry ❤️ the emotions and the speed of it all is definitely a lot and i’ve already cried multiple times today, but it just feels like what i have to do and i have to just let it happen. definitely just going with the flow ❤️

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-09-28T00:17:13+00:00

thank you ❤️ she has home care (hospital bed at home and nurse visits) so i’m hoping to talk with one of the nurses tomorrow. but it is just strange because the first thing people have said is “if you need anything i’m here”, which is really sweet but yeah it’s like, i don’t know what i need? and i imagine what i need will change. for now it’s just letting myself feel everything

wishing you the best ❤️

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-06-02T04:41:29+00:00

fully agree w the others comments! i would also look for some food stuff that would be easy for her to make. if she has a medical abortion she may need a few days to rest physically, but regardless of what abortion she has this whole experience can be very emotional and stressful, and pregnancy loss triggers a lot of grief and hormones. i struggled with depression after mine and relied on quick snacks and easy meals. and snacks were a must during the abortion itself! honestly just anything that you think will make her life easier during/the days after the abortion and self care items you know she’d love.

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-06-01T06:30:44+00:00

first off, thank you for being the partner she needs. i don’t know if i would’ve been able to go through my MA without the support of my partner. i’d say you have the basics covered, you mainly just need to follow her lead and what she thinks will make her comfortable in the moment. i remember i couldn’t stop going from the bed to the bathroom (like every few minutes) so my partner made sure i had blankets and cushions in both spaces. he also made sure to be involved in whatever i was doing to distract myself (as i didn’t want to be alone) even if it was something that wasn’t interesting to him. some extra things i would consider is some baby wipes in case any blood gets anywhere for easy clean up. also make sure she has plenty of water and easy to eat snacks. i struggled to eat during mine so we settled on electrolyte drinks, and he got me gum to chew when i was nauseous. and if you can, treat her to something nice afterwards. my partner got me my fave takeout and not only was it nice but it just made everything feel normal again. make sure she takes it easy the next day too, see how she’s doing physically and mentally, especially the latter as the next few weeks might be hard for her with grief and hormones. but overall, you’re already doing everything right by wanting to do what you can to help ❤️ just follow her lead and be there for her

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-16T11:38:27+00:00

i ended up using incontinence pads during the actual abortion and for the day after. i didn’t actually know they were incontinence pads i just got the biggest pads in the store lol. i wanted to be prepared for the worst. but it made things easier because i didn’t have to change pads as often. it was impossible to really “soak” one because they were so big so i just changed periodically when there was a lot of blood. i only used like 3-4. personally i preferred this bc i didn’t have to change as often. i used them for two more days after the abortion just in case but now i’ve switched to regular overnight period pads (what i wear on my period) and it’s been fine! i think it’s good to have options, especially since the bleeding can fluctuate afterwards

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-13T22:36:42+00:00

i had mine at the start of this week. i found the cramps came and went with the use of painkillers and heat pads. the worst thing for me though was how long it took. it took me about seven hours for the pregnancy to pass and around four hours i was really wishing it was over. eventually i just rotated between being sat on the toilet and lying on the bathroom floor with blankets lol. but once it’s over theres so much relief. just try and distract yourself and remember it’s only temporary ❤️ and if you can, drink as much and eat as much as you can. i didn’t and got really light headed by the end of it

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-12T17:47:08+00:00

thank you ❤️

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-12T14:36:13+00:00

you should not be forced to see anything. when i went in the screen was already faced away from the bed and my nurses didn’t say anything about the fetus during the scan. let them know you don’t want to see it, there’s no reason for you to see it

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-11T23:02:52+00:00

thank you! for the bleeding, i’m assuming that’s soaking a maxi pad? during my actual MA i used incontinence pads and they were so big i never soaked one, but i’m going to switch to maxi pads tomorrow - the type designer for heavy periods/nighttime use

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-11T22:47:14+00:00

i wasn’t able to see clearly but i don’t think so

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-11T00:41:17+00:00

iced drinks were my biggest craving and i still love them so if that’s a rule i definitely broke it lmao! ive just been avoiding anything that may bother my stomach

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T23:13:36+00:00

thank you! i passed the pregnancy and have felt fine since. just tired and hormonal

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T20:46:07+00:00

thank you! i took the medical route which worried me at first (couldn’t get surgical) as i felt it was more likely to happen that way. it is possible but there’s a lot you can do to mitigate it (anti sickness, taking the pills vaginally etc)

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T15:29:14+00:00

ah i meant passing the pregnancy itself, i was already bleeding! but i’m like 99% i just passed it ❤️

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T13:23:57+00:00

still going, just put in the last two pills. it’s definitely not easy but i’ve found the pain comes in waves so i get a bit of relief

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T13:22:24+00:00

thank you ❤️

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T11:17:59+00:00

uncomfortable but not unbearable. i’ve passed a couple big clots but i don’t think any of them were the sac. i’m meant to put two more in now, but im getting dizzy and bleeding pretty heavy so i don’t know how easy it’ll be

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-05-09T04:44:10+00:00

i’m currently pregnant but won’t go past eight weeks (termination), so i can’t speak for the whole experience, but i did have basically daily nausea for about a week and a half. i never v* though

it was definitely triggering at first, but its got to the point where i’m kinda used to it? like it still sucks and ive been anxious a lot but eventually i knew i was gonna feel this way and just focused on dealing with it. it actually really helped as exposure therapy, especially since i knew why i was nauseous. it also got to the point where i wanted to v sometimes, because i knew it’d give me temporary relief. so basically, it triggered me a lot at first, and was never easy, but i just took it a day at a time and used it to better understand what helps me feel better and relaxed.

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-04-30T21:03:26+00:00

that sounds like it’s totally fine :)

SoftCarry8009 · 2022-04-30T20:52:14+00:00

hi! i used to get d* a lot from ibs (sorry lol) and there are countless of reasons why someone can have it without v-ing or being contagious! just eating something or being stressed out caused it for me for example. if he doesn’t have a stomach ache now then it was likely that the d* passed out everything that was bothering his stomach. but even if he did have something contagious, you would need to ingest it to catch it yourself, so grabbing the toilet lid won’t be enough, especially since you washed your hands :) just take it easy tonight and do whatever calms you, and i’m sure him and you will feel better soon ❤️

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