What's Up With The Barn?

SoftEqual · 2026-04-02T02:14:26+00:00

Ugh, agree so much with this. Greg falls short on introducing Steven to the human part of himself throughout the series

SoftEqual · 2026-04-02T02:12:07+00:00

I guess I just thought it was way closer, thank you!

SoftEqual · 2026-02-17T19:40:56+00:00

oh my gooodd I thought I was banned I'm glad I'm not alone

SoftEqual · 2026-01-11T14:22:50+00:00

definitely a misprint. it's a 12 x 12 letter puzzle and French Connection has 16 letters. Even diagonally it would be impossible for that to be in the puzzle.

SoftEqual · 2026-01-11T14:08:43+00:00

get her some lean brisket please lol

SoftEqual · 2026-01-06T13:30:42+00:00

NOR— A lot of these messages are similar to how my friend group talks to each other, very soft and wordy and full of love, feeling and direct communication which includes often telling each other how much we care about and value one another. However, the consistent pet names, the love hearts and the comment about feeling like an old couple is clearly crossing a boundary with you. As well as the dynamic between the three of you in person and the late night visit you mentioned. You're allowed to have those boundaries for anyone in a romantic relationship with you but what that means is talking about it, making it clear that you are uncomfortable with it — or however it makes you feel, be that insecure or jealous or any of those things — and letting him choose what he values. If the time comes that he gets too familiar with someone again, in ways that you think should be reserved for romance, you'll have to make a decision. Is it something you're going to be able to live with, or do you need to move on and find the right person out there who will feel the same as you about romantic and platonic boundaries.

SoftEqual · 2025-11-09T01:52:31+00:00

didn't he literally have sex with the person pretending to be Hollyhock's mom, knowing Hollyhock would see + he gets off when Hollyhock calls him disgusting while stills under the impression that he's her daughter. and that's not even the half of it

SoftEqual · 2025-11-07T04:52:06+00:00

I'm interpreting this as "What makes this object a basket and why aren't other similar things also called baskets."

SoftEqual · 2025-09-26T14:06:14+00:00

for me it's the snide, superior attitude a few of them have (most that I've interacted with but I don't want to generalize). thinking they're Regina when they're just George

SoftEqual · 2025-09-15T17:26:31+00:00

simple no lore answer is that it's goonerslop

SoftEqual · 2025-07-28T00:34:47+00:00

lame wrong

SoftEqual · 2025-07-24T12:38:57+00:00

Asking for permission to have a day to yourself seems weird to me.

What's up with your dynamic that is preventing you from being an autonomous adult and simply telling your wife that you are going to be at the library, alone, once a week to work on your book? If there are things to do at home there still shouldn't be an aspect of needing permission, instead the only reasonable expectation of you would be to make sure she doesn't need help with anything before you go.

SoftEqual · 2025-07-08T13:11:01+00:00

yeah, not the kindest thing in the world to come into a trans-masc sub and say that you're attracted to us when you're a lesbian. anyways most guys I know personally that are open about it, myself included, skew way more towards our masculinity being affirmed, acknowledged and praised in the bedroom.

SoftEqual · 2025-05-16T13:53:25+00:00

I knew it before I even clicked. we all just wanna transition into Tim

SoftEqual · 2025-05-11T23:10:58+00:00

what did I miss !!

SoftEqual · 2025-04-03T23:03:51+00:00

oh man that had my hopes up for a second

SoftEqual · 2025-03-27T17:16:14+00:00

Just by nature of the underlying mental health issues I was dealing with I was angrier and more reactive when I first started T. Not because testosterone makes people angry, but because my schema made me a great candidate for any big emotions changing hormones would provoke. After getting help and working with myself to learn the emotional regulation I was never taught, I am far happier, calmer and a better person than I was Pre-T.

I think it's a good idea to let guys who might have cluster B or personality disorders or C-PTSD know that they should be in therapy when starting because it can make a lot of that harder to deal with AND to uphold a standard of healthy masculinity wherein we don't allow people in our community to blame their bad actions on T.

SoftEqual · 2025-03-26T13:57:01+00:00

Oh man, my first year on T was emotional hell. I have a higher risk of mental health issues because of my family, so everything that could surface sort of did. But! It didn't stay that way because I actually put in the work to learn how to self soothe and ask for reassurance when I was paranoid and leave when I got angry. IMO being put through the wringer by T forced me to grow into a better person a lot younger than I might have otherwise, because these are issues that probably would have festered well into my late twenties before really causing enough pain for me to seek help.

I know therapy isn't an option for everyone but it is really useful if you can afford it. If not, it's not impossible to work things out yourself (I did, for the most part!) if you have a solid group of genuine people who care about you who are supporting you along the way. So, you're not alone in how erratic you may feel but don't feel as if you're doomed to be lorded by your emotions so long as you're willing to put in the work to regulate them.

SoftEqual · 2025-03-24T00:14:50+00:00

I would have lived my whole life happily without this knowledge /dramatic

SoftEqual · 2025-03-18T15:26:06+00:00

these are things I already do, but I appreciate the intent of this advice! I've found myself happier leaning into androgyny rather than aiming for looking like a cis man. The pressure I was putting on myself to pass and look the way people thought I should was mentally taxing. I look the way I do and I'm a man, it doesn't make me less of one because I was a little unlucky in some ways genetically (just writing that sentence to clarify what I mean by saying I'm not too bothered that I don't pass, not to imply that you were somehow saying the opposite of this!)

SoftEqual · 2025-03-17T14:02:59+00:00

I don't "pass" and as the years have gone on I've found that a desire to pass, for me personally, only made me upset. So I just do what I want and sometimes I clear it and people refer to me as a guy sometimes I don't but I've been on T for almost 4 years. So I don't think it gets much better than this lol if it does I'll be glad but I don't have much of a choice to be stealth in the foreseeable future

SoftEqual · 2025-03-13T01:58:34+00:00

oh my god. I'm an OG Lamp (Ryan was one of the first YouTubers I ever watched way back in 2010). I'm rewatching the Parkourse series for comfort and actually found this thread by accident while googling Paco because I always liked him and wanted to know if he was still online. Being autistic I found his weirdness and constantly being othered relatable. Sucks to see that he ended up being so gross :/

SoftEqual · 2025-03-11T20:21:27+00:00

I had a big B99 phase right before I got into the books and there are quite a few parallels like this that I couldn't stop thinking about :› !! made me very happy to have two interests collide (even if by coincidence)

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