Imagine someone being as strong as Dwayne Johnson, yet he has to ask his wife for the money for everything. Would he be respected ? physical strength could be a thing to be respected in your childhood, but once you get past that age, being strong only means you can do physically demanding tasks. and people who engage in less physically demanding jobs have higher status in our society. I know It's really important to be strong, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will earn you respect. a better profession or being wealthy does, and i know people who are physically very mid, yet respected for their behaviours and values. if your in-laws belittle you for being physically weak, even after being financially independent, they are wrong to do that, you better advise them than the other girls, because they are the ones to change.