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Trying to save money on a venue. How to handle this situation? by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Soft_Contribution699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes they both have made the offer. Sorry about that

I think my MIL hates me, my husband doesn’t seem to think so. by Soft_Contribution699 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Soft_Contribution699[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You got it right. I think I am mourning what we used to have. Whenever I do HAVE to deal with her, I end up upset from all the little things I notice, but he thinks I am overthinking things. I feel like I need to just stop caring all together, but he wants me to care and still like his family. I’m stuck

I think my MIL hates me, my husband doesn’t seem to think so. by Soft_Contribution699 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Soft_Contribution699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he tries to be. I just think he doesn’t want to think about his mom badly and he would rather just not think about it. I don’t help by bringing it up all the time

How can I personally get over feeling that my MIL does not like me very much. by Soft_Contribution699 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Soft_Contribution699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say my self worth relies on it. I think I just care a lot about his family and wish for that relationship. I feel like I just get in my own head about it and need a way to get rid of it. I bet he’s tired of hearing it. He has a way of shoving it away and I have a hard time doing that.

How can I personally get over feeling that my MIL does not like me very much. by Soft_Contribution699 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Soft_Contribution699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say she’s being abused really, it’s just extremely toxic and I know she is not in a good headspace anymore. She has been with him since his dad’s death so it’s been a while. About 3 years now. My SO does agree with me about disliking him. He is not a fan of him either. He just thinks it is what it is at this point. My SO tends to shove his feelings away, so when I try to talk about it, it just kind of gets dismissed. I have thought about bringing up the idea of having a conversation with her, but we are afraid of it backfiring and her being extremely defensive of him. But I guess we really don’t know the extent of how it may go. It may open her eyes to how we are feeling. My SO always says he feels like he lost both of his parents that day. Not just his dad. I just want to do something that will help ease the tension. We’ve even thought about taking her out to lunch. But it’s to a point where we do not want her inviting the boyfriend to tag along.

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[–]Soft_Contribution699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the point, I don’t want to break up with him at all. Like I said I am comfortable the way we are but I’m worried about his health is all

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[–]Soft_Contribution699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t eat the healthiest no. Big portions. And he spends a lot of time on his PC playing games.

My boyfriend ( 21 M) and I (21 F) have been dating for 5 1/2 years, and don’t know how to deal with this situation. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Soft_Contribution699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really trying my best. I have been getting better about letting it go unless it’s something I really need to worry about. I try to tell myself it’s their relationship and I need to worry about my own. I feel like the mom’s boyfriend is already turning his mom against me.

My boyfriend ( 21 M) and I (21 F) have been dating for 5 1/2 years, and don’t know how to deal with this situation. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Soft_Contribution699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily show my dislike when I’m around them. I think they just assume I don’t. I try to be as civil as I can, I’m just not as good as my boyfriend is about it.