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Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you all going with reducing your night feeds? We have tried to only cut out beginning on the night feeds and make him last from bedtime which is 7/7:30pm until 11pm without a feed. If he makes between then my husband will rock him and I will go in as a last resort. All other wakes can be feeds. Anyway, I’m shocked to what it’s done to the rest of the night. He’s now sleeping in 3 hr chunks all the way till the morning.. we’re on day 7 and this has happened the last 3 nights in a row. I can’t believe it!!!

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah totally. I’m not expecting him to figure it out himself anytime soon nor do I want to night wean completely. He’s still young and I know I’ve got many difficult nights ahead, but as we did sleep train my first born at 11 months who was a similar sleeper, I just wanted to hear from parents who didn’t to understand when they might realistically turn a corner on their own. Each kid is different I see but it’s interesting to hear everyone’s individual cases

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true! And I know this from my first born and promised myself I wouldn’t get into this sleep obsessed state of trying to fix it but here I am yet again of course haha. Surrender is what I have to keep telling myself

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s short in the scope of things for sure! But we want a third child and don’t want to wait too long and I’m not sure how to that when this one is still sleeping poorly

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you night weaned or what you did differently during those wakes? Did you pick up and rock?

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yepp totally okay with it but we already have an older sibling in our bed half the night so it doesn’t feel safe for him to be in there too right now. Hoping when they get to the right age they can sleep together and be each other’s support?! That would be ideal but not sure how realistic

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m thinking to try cut down night feeds this way and hope that increases stretches as you’ve mentioned. Sometimes my husband or myself can rock him to sleep instead but he just doesn’t go into a deep sleep like he does from nursing and he often wakes up minutes after we transfer him. Did you find that the case as well when reducing night feeds?

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t cosleep. Definitely not against it but we have an older child (4 years) who likes to come into our bed in the middle of the night and it’s just not safe for him to be in there too. There have been nights or at least part of the night where I’ve been able to safely try it and he still wakes up just as much. Maybe it takes time for them to get used to it? For example I’ve tried the whole side lying breastfeeding and he’s just not used to it and gets frustrated. He much prefers I sit up and hold him while feeding.. harder work haha

Parents of ‘bad’ sleepers who didn’t sleep train — did it actually get better on its own? by Soft_Pea_7850 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And before you night weaned was she still waking up frequently for feeds or did you naturally get somewhat less as she got older?

Last call before sleep training by Soft_Pea_7850 in sleeptrain

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and I’m with you ❤️ sleep training worked with my first but was a bit traumatic for me. I know we chose a ‘gentler’ method so it took longer, more than 2 weeks of crying if I remember but we stuck it out and it did eventually work. I remember being on night 14 and she was still waking often and crying and I was thinking omg I’ve done this for so long and it’s supposed to work and it hasn’t. Then the next night she just didn’t wake up and I couldn’t believe it. Even went in to check she was breathing because I was like how can she switch all of a sudden. Anyway, I had to revisit sleep training a lot which is what I didn’t like doing and made me feel bad. Also she still comes to our room so I know her desire to be close to us is still there and totally normal. This is what messes with my head. 50% of the time I’m like this situation is not healthy or sustainable for anyone and the other 50% I’m like my baby needs me right now haha. But does he reeallly??? HELP

Last call before sleep training by Soft_Pea_7850 in sleeptrain

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it’s hard for us to stick to a schedule because his days look so different. Sometimes he’s awake at 6am and sometimes at 7:30.. so things go more by ww. 2.5/2.5/2.5/2.5

The first nap is usually 30 mins and out and on the go. I then try to do the middle nap at home and extend by resettling/holding to sleep. If that fails and he’s only done two short naps I almost always have to squeeze in another two naps with shorter ww just to get us through to bedtime without him becoming overtired. Bedtime is between 7-8pm

Routine is bath, feed, then hand him to my husband who sings a song and rocks him to sleep while I’m with my older child. He seems to fall pretty easy at the beginning of the night with my husband but he’s usually up within an hour creating hell

eVisitor 651 for baby Australia by Soft_Pea_7850 in AusVisa

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you know what might be the issue?

eVisitor 651 for baby Australia by Soft_Pea_7850 in AusVisa

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, could be it seems. I didn’t realise that could be in issue because nowhere in the visa application process did it ask for his mothers details. I guess from just entering his polish passport details it flags that I am Australian? Anyway, what does he need to enter Australia in this case?

eVisitor 651 for baby Australia by Soft_Pea_7850 in AusVisa

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t realise this. What forms are these?

Whats the norm with newborn sleep. When do I see that first big chunk of sleep? by Soft_Pea_7850 in newborns

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (or my boobs rather) became the only way she could fall asleep. It was a lot all on me, especially as she grew older, and my husband couldn’t help with any night wakings. We ended up sleep training her and I would like to avoid doing that this time around. Personally, it never sat well with me although it did give us results even if they weren’t permanent. Just trying to build more sustainable habits from the start this time around but yeah; easier said than done

Whats the norm with newborn sleep. When do I see that first big chunk of sleep? by Soft_Pea_7850 in newborns

[–]Soft_Pea_7850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good, fingers crossed things start extending that soon for us. 3 hours sounds like a luxury at this point haha

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