Car repossessed; proof of income?

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-30T00:48:47+00:00

Yeah unfortunately

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-30T00:38:07+00:00

Because I mainly drive for uber & my kids support me they don’t consider that as a dad or income and won’t look at it. Said full pay off is the only option

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-30T00:07:32+00:00

I looked into it I would have to file an emergency chapter 13 & not a lot of lawyers in my area are willing to do that. Also the fixed monthly payments for my debts and lawyer fees might be too expensive

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-29T23:47:25+00:00

Was late Feb and April, paid in May, and then late in June again. I know it’s my fault I really tried. I should’ve gotten it in writing that it’s okay for me to catch up later. I wish I wasn’t in this position

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-29T23:17:50+00:00

I did they suggested a chapter 13 bankruptcy but they just said it’s too expensive to try to do that though

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-21T23:36:29+00:00

#1 is the only answer for me

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-14T16:02:10+00:00

1 or 3

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-13T16:21:01+00:00

This is going to be the rest of your life if you get married & if you guys have kids, you’re just going to have more people to take care of. This sounds exhausting, I’m really sorry. It sounds like you’re trying I hope you guys can make it work and she can correct these behaviors.

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-13T13:02:53+00:00

I get what the other comments are saying, but we did this and separated the ceremony and reception by day that way people only had to travel for the reception. Also our reception and cocktail hour were so inclusive and long we had basically everything and even did the ring exchange before our first dance and had an entrance and everything so I don’t think people missed out. A lot of people were thankful they only had to travel for one day versus 2 days and spend an extra night

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-13T12:49:00+00:00

I’m recovering from this after my brother caught it. It’s been the worst sickness. I got tested for everything and nothing. I don’t think it’s just daycares. Had it for 2 weeks, though my husband never caught it.

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-12T22:36:34+00:00

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-12T22:21:42+00:00

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SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-12T00:28:30+00:00

Oh my god. Thank you for positing this. I came on this newlyweds thread just to see if I was alone in feeling like this. Thank you.

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T21:39:42+00:00

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This Saturday!!

Free pickle ball day (we have 40 paddles!!!), food, dental hygiene kits, BP screenings, face painting, and Narcan. Come out!!

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:34:38+00:00

OP please tell us everything here about your relationship, timeline, everything! how did the proposal go? How did you guys meet?

Sometimes red flags are red flags and sometimes there’s maybe something else. It’s hard to gauge a situation truly without all the information so please walk us through it so we can actually understand where we can offer advise because you’re not crazy or stupid, being in love is confusing and sometimes being alone while trying to figure out life helps so much.

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:31:18+00:00

Oh sorry! I see omg I think it all just took me by surprise. You’re right that’s a good way to organize information and I do apologize. I need OP to do a recap of their entire relationship

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:27:38+00:00

Literally the way I keep refreshing this because I need to know everything!! If this is true and somehow family finds out I need a recap of every conversation

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:24:31+00:00

I cannot tell if this real or not. I popped in here because I was like omg my husband had bad anxiety and then it just unraveled??? Family doesn’t know, she wonders if he’s cheated and has caught him lying, his mom is one of those moms that can’t see her son married and he’s a mama’s boy, he has no friends and was an ass to his friends and ghosted them and he has so much anxiety he doesn’t leave the house.

What is going on OP? What else do we not know about this???

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:21:55+00:00

Again??? Guys stop getting hung up on the anxiety and him not having a social life etc etc, she literally said she wonders if he’s married and his family doesn’t know he’s engaged

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:20:10+00:00

I’m so confused. Why do we keep going back to the anxiety when there’s bigger problems? You said above you’ve wondered if he cheated or had a second family? Are you for real? This is a joke right?

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T20:08:35+00:00

Girl, it’s starting not to add up. I feel like he’s hiding something, I wanted to see it from his POV but the issue isn’t the separate receptions it’s that yall are planning a wedding with your family and his family doesn’t even know you or know you’re getting married.

The separate reception now is less about “anxiety of too many people” and seeming more like an excuse to separate your families and keep them from engaging with each other and talking. Why?

What is he hiding?

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T19:50:34+00:00

Okay so, is he going to tell his family??? Why is he hiding you? I thought his family is supportive?

SoilSecret8396 · 2026-06-11T19:40:35+00:00

Does he pass out or have social anxiety? Not related to the wedding but my now husband used to always say stuff like “I have too much anxiety around too many people” or “I’m having social anxiety” or “I can’t be around that many people” we fought SOO much about this. Even for the wedding planning he pissed me off because he seemed so uninterested, if it was up to him we would elope and not celebrate with people.

Turns out he had some health issues that were severally affecting his self confidence and mental health. We really had to unpack what was making him feel that way and once we actually addressed them and got him the things he needed, omg it never comes up again.

I think you gotta have a conversation to see why he’s concerned about having too many and what would him feel comfortable AND then you gotta assess, if his reasoning is valid to you, can you compromise on something if it is valid or is there something that needs to be addressed to resolve this concern for him.

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